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Learning to get stress away from myself like others around me...

Friday, February 21, 2014

When I was still working, I was always the one the most stressed out. Others would go to the lunchroom and chat and have a relaxing lunch while I ate at my desk, and worked through lunch. They would go for a walk at lunch or after work--or even go for a run! But I started the afternoon stressed out and it got worse as class after class entered my classroom. I was "Mrs. Upset", instead of Mrs. Upton!

I noticed how my co-workers got stress away from themselves. emoticon Boy, some of them were whizzes at this! And they looked bright and happy and efficient! emoticon I looked harried and 'behind' and stressed, like I could not handle my job. I thought, "Something is wrong here!" emoticon I started using their tricks! Over the years I became less stressed and enjoyed my job and my students much more!

Now, I am retired but have the responsibilities of a caregiver. I take lots of time for myself. I still get stressed and feel lonely and overburdened sometimes. But my mentality has totally changed from years ago.

I do need to work on those bottled up feelings of stress later in the day. I still tend to work through the earlier hours in the day and feel tired and lonely in the late afternoons and evenings.

I still have a ways to go. And you folks at SP are helping me a great deal.

I still need help planning nice events to go to. I tend to hole up in the house. If I plan an event for the evening, often I am tired and have a hard time prying myself from home. I am still a work in progress!!

I am still learning to convince myself I deserve a happy life !

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    Great suggestions
    1580 days ago
    Oh, yes, this sounds very familiar! But caregivers need breaks more than anyone!!! Maybe put those treats, little breaks and surprises right on your calendar so you don't forget to include "self care" on the list of things you MUST do.
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    1581 days ago
    I definitely share the night time feeling but if I push a little it is ALWAYS worth it. Be good to yourself!
    1581 days ago
    You absolutely deserve a happy life.

    I have a lot of difficulty getting over the inertia of "it's evening and I'm home so I might as well stay here." The funny thing is once I'm out the door, I actually enjoy myself. Then I wonder why I can't remember the good time I had the next time I have an opportunity to go out!!

    I've made it a point to have something to do at least two evenings a week. One is a Writer's Group that I started since retiring and the other are Master Gardener classes. I enjoy them both and I've found that since I have to prepare for them, it gets me out the door.

    The other thing I've done since I've retired is to plan a task for evening. It might be Sparking or Blogging or catching up on my reading - but something that doesn't involve the TV!

    I don't know whether any of this is helpful to you - it's just what works for me.

    1581 days ago
    Above all else I wish you Peace of mind.
    1581 days ago
    Well it's true - you DO deserve a happy life & I'm glad you're working on it. Just like everything else...baby steps! Stress is such a horrible thing and is so tough on the body. Of course, loneliness is too. So please keep making plans - even if it's only one night per week - but get out there. Do something so that you're surrounded by friends or family. I was always a loner - didn't get married til I was almost 30 and even now LOVE my time away by myself. But, when I'm feeling lonely - it stinks. So, you make sure to continue putting yourself out there - have fun - stress less - and be kind to yourself!
    1581 days ago
    Old ways are hard to break put can be done And care givers are not as free as most emoticon
    1581 days ago
    You TOTALLY deserve a happy life!!!!

    1581 days ago
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