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More Thoughts on the Half Marathon

Tuesday, February 18, 2014

I forgot to mention a couple of cool things that happened during the race.

First off, about Mile 9, a woman & man passed us and she turned around and said, "Are y'all married?" I gasped, "YES."

She said, "I want to be just like y'all. Y'all are awesome!" She and the man (presumably her husband) were a few years either side of 30, and her taking the time to say that? It JUST MADE MY DAY!

After the race TC said, "People are really friendly around here. Did you notice how many people told us, "Good job", or "Looking good?" I said I thought it was because we were so much older than everyone else, we sort of were the race mascots or something!

I have to tell you -- we were so proud of ourselves. It's the first time we EVER did intervals throughout the entire race. As far as our time? I didn't mention what our finishing time was in my blog yesterday because I didn't feel it was relevant, but it IS relevant to my blog today. We finished the race in 3 hours, 8 minutes. Before this, our fastest time was 3 hours, 11 minutes (2012).

Yup, I was feeling pretty proud of us! Until I got home and looked at the race results online.

I came in 244th out of 249 female entrants.
TC came in 227th out of 231 male entrants.

In my age group, I came in 13th out of 14.
In TC's age group, he came in 7th out of 7.

But then I started to think....only FOURTEEN entrants in the female age 50-59 age group, and I'm 59 and 7 months old. Out of the total number of entrants, only 2.9% of them were females in my age group. Only 1.5% of the entrants were males in TC's age group. So even though we are slow, at least we're still out there!

After I wrote my blog yesterday I posted the picture of us at the starting line on Facebook but again didn't mention our time. Lots of people from the fitness center "liked" the picture and this morning in class we got lots of love from the regulars.

But one woman, who is older than me but VERY competitive, and SUPER fit, asked me straight out WHAT OUR TIME WAS. I was embarrassed. I KNOW in the overall scheme of things it wasn't a very good time, and this woman has done triathalons and runs 50K races. AND, she'll tell you that she's usually #1 or #2 in her age group.

Anyway. I told her our time was "over 3 hours" and she said, "OH" in a totally dismissive tone of voice. So I proceeded to say that TC can't run more than what we did because of his bad knee.

THEN I was angry and embarrassed that I felt I had to make excuses! And to LIE and blame it on my husband, who can run circles around me any day of the week!

So I am reclaiming my pride! We finished that race in 3 hours and 8 minutes, running across the finish line holding hands! I'm only going to remember the young woman who told me we were AWESOME and forget about the old one who made me feel unworthy because I am slow.

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    YOU guys are emoticon and should be FILLED with the pride you feel! Don't let ONE sourpuss take that away from you!

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    1488 days ago
  • ADZY86
    Ah man this is how I want to be with my husband (when I have one haha). I always imagine being in a relationship like this, doing activities together. That young girl was right, y'all ARE awesome!
    1545 days ago
    Seriously you guys rock! And your time is great!!!!!! My sister would KILL for a 3:30 time, let alone a 3 hours and 8 minutes. She is hoping to break her 3:45 wall this May. You should feel awesome about your time! It sucks that there are people out there who get down on times! Uh heyllloo- you were out being active for 13.1 miles which is what most people in that gym are NOT doing!!!!

    Plus, as a side note...when I think of elite marathoners doing 26.2 in 2 hours and change, I think..well shoot...anyone can be active for 2 hours - it's those of us that keep going and going thru all the mindless hours that really have to be hardcore!!! ;D
    1549 days ago
  • GLMOM2
    You and hubby deserve to be proud of your accomplishment!

    You both trained and completed it together - Think of that Mile 9 lady ... She wants to be just like you! What a compliment!

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    1549 days ago
    Oh my gosh - DO NOT let that woman steal any of your joy!! I am so amazed by all you and your husband do, and I think it is wonderful that you do it together emoticon I am afraid to even try a 1/2 marathon, and you have done how many?? You really do inspire me :-D
    1549 days ago
    Don't worry about how long it took you at least you finished! You are doing emoticon
    1549 days ago
  • BUTTERFLY-1976
    You should be proud!!!

    That woman in your class is just plain rude!!! It doesn't matter if you come in 1st or last. The only thing that matters, is that you made it to the finish line holding your husbands hand across that line!!! With a PR I might add!! Don't let that lady take away your awesomeness feeling. Because your awesome!!

    1550 days ago
    Oh, my dear amazing sparkfriend-
    I am so impressed by you and your DH's MAJOR accomplishment!
    Never let anyone's snooty remarks take that away from you.
    You ROCK!
    1550 days ago
    Stick with your AWESOMENESS and keep having a blast! :-)

    1550 days ago
  • NANCY-
    Um, sweetheart, you must listen. First of all with or without any physical challenges you guys are amazing and HAVE the guts to get out there. There are many who can and do not.
    Next time tell that dismissive, judgmental lady "It was somewhere around three hours, we had fun and a great run." That oughta put her panties in a bunch. We have those holier than thou individuals at the pool too. I'd rather encourage, than discourage.
    You are better off listening to those that were at the race, as they were there. Was she?
    1551 days ago
    Never let people with a wicked tongue steal your happiness. It must be so unhappy to be that woman. I am totally awed by your race. Just to be able to run for 3 hours at age 59 is so huge. It is NOT something just everyone can do and your time to beat was YOUR time to beat, and you both did it. WTG, my friend. Run away with all the streamers and ribbons flying behind you. You ARE the WINNERS.

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    1551 days ago
    I'll be 33 next month and I've never attempted a emoticon

    If I did attempt one it would probably be almost double that time so the fact that you are out there at your young age of 59 is incredible!!!
    You accomplished something most Americans never will because they're sitting on their sofas and you're not!!!

    That my Dear Friend is something to celebrate!!!

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    1551 days ago
    Just caught your blog. Wow sometimes it is just about completing the race. I am going to think about his one. I may blog on a thought I am having and you may have just helped me get back on track. Thank you.

    Congratulations, that woman was rude. and I think it is great. Enjoy a hard mile for me next time. I have arthritis in one ankle and would be unable to walk for a very long time if I ever tried a Marathon. Maybe I should swim one someday or something.

    I haven't been on line much lately. I hope all is great with you. Thanks for making me think. Hugs.
    1551 days ago
    I am so proud of you and your husband!!! You did great!! To be able to finish a half marathon at our age is incredible! Don't let anybody make you feel ashamed of your time! There will always be people better than you and worse than you. It doesn't take away from your accomplishments!! So be proud and let the world know your time!!! emoticon emoticon

    1551 days ago
  • SUGAR0814
    You guys did great! So proud of you!! emoticon emoticon
    1551 days ago
    You and TC have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of! and that old biddy - next time she asks you how you did in your next race, you tell her it's not about the time, it's about Just Doing It! Way to Go you two! (and I love the holding hands crossing the finish line part!)
    1551 days ago
  • MALAMI518
    Do not let that nasty woman take away your victory! You most definitely ARE AWESOME! That kind of negative competition really annoys me. I try not to mention my times too much for two opposite reasons. One is that I worry about women like that one judging me for being slow. The other is that I don't want to say that I'm really slow and then make someone else feel bad if my time is better than theirs.

    I haven't even run a Half Marathon yet, so you are way ahead of me there.

    Great job!!!!
    1551 days ago
    Yup, you and your guy are totally awesome! Most people never go that far in their life, running walking or crawling! And it was a PR! Personally, I don't ever plan to run an entire long race again (I do run-walk intervals) and I don't run for speed either, after injuring myself a couple years ago. And I could care less! I do it for ME! So, congrats in your race and bask in your glory!

    1551 days ago
    What a superb blog. And what superb people you are!!

    And as for that nasty dismissive just-plain-rude person who questioned your time: phooey on her. Is there anyone in her life who will run anywhere holding hands with her??????? Thought not!! Grrrrrrrrrrrr.
    1551 days ago
    Congratulations on your accomplishment. You and husband should celebrate and be proud. Don't allowed anyone rain on your parade. emoticon emoticon Thank you for sharing.
    1551 days ago
    You have every right to be proud.
    Do not let her desire to put you down to raise herself up steal your joy.
    I think you ROCK!!
    You rock that time!! You rock that memory!!

    1551 days ago
    Pfftttt, I want to put on my fightin' gloves and get in the ring with that mean toot!

    I'm with the young lady. You two are AWESOME.

    I AM SO PROUD of you both. You're photo says it all--the smiles on your faces, the glow from your hearts.

    Congratulations again on having done something so spectacular.

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    1551 days ago
    Gosh, I can really relate to what you went through with that question so boldly asked outright.

    1551 days ago
    I whole-heatedly agree. Say it loud, say it proud. I think you guys are very impressive!

    1551 days ago
    You're my hero!
    It's not about the speed -- it's that YOU DID IT!

    1551 days ago
    You ARE awesome! You were out there, and you finished. You even bettered your last best finish. Much better results than those of us who have not finished or never entered such a race. Ignore the woman with the attitude problem. There is always someone who likes to rain on everyone else's parade...

    You ARE awesome!!!
    1551 days ago
    Finishing together, with a PR -- how awesome! Y'all Rock! LOVE the smiles in the race picks!
    1551 days ago
    emoticon You set a personal record - that is awesome! You should both be very proud of yourselves and certainly ignore the dismissive woman. Her opinion does not matter because you and your DH did something the vast majority of people never do. You have nothing to prove to her, or anyone else.

    1551 days ago
    You finished it in 3:08... which is 33 minutes better than my fastest half time. You rocked it. :)
    1551 days ago
    emoticon Great Accomplishment! Bask in that great feeling!
    1551 days ago
    I'm repeating what I said yesterday - you guys are awesome!
    Don't let others put you down and take away your victory.
    You finished this, and with a personal best at that.
    How much better can it get?

    1551 days ago
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