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Kind, Smart, Important

Tuesday, February 18, 2014

For anyone that has seen the movie “The Help” the three words…kind, smart and important…may sound familiar. Aibileen, the “help” says this phrase to the young girl in her charge, Mae Mobley.

As part of the Beyond The Scale Pink Pirate challenge group, one of our past weekend challenges included meditating. One afternoon during this challenge time, I had taken one of my dogs for a walk and due to her older age and issues starting with her hips, we have to take a rest every so often. It had snowed the day before so there was a nice white coat of snow on the ground. Since it was in the middle of an afternoon of a weekday, my neighborhood was quiet. As my dog settled in on a spot in the fresh snow I stood still basking in the stillness and the crispness of the winter air. As there are various ways to meditate, I decided this was the perfect opportunity. It had been a bad week at work so far, so I welcomed these moments to not think. As I cleared my mind, Aibileen’s words came to me… ‘You is kind, You is smart, You is important.’ I thought of nothing else for the next few moments except the three words…kind, smart, important. It was soothing and a sense of calmness came over me.

Later when back at my desk I thought more of this phrase and those three words and how they pertained to me. I had actually written these three words on a yellow stickie months ago and stuck it at eye level at my desk and periodically glanced at it. I am pretty sure that overall to others I am kind and smart…of course some days are better than others but overall I think I am. Important…. I want to think to some people I am….my husband, my family, my church family. I know I am to my two dogs. emoticon

But as I thought more about this, I came to the realization that kind, smart and important needed to also be internal and not just as I appeared outwardly to others. In order to make it through my weight loss journey I needed to apply these to myself. First off, the order of those words needed to be changed. Shouldn’t it be IMPORTANT, kind and smart? I needed to be important to ME. I needed to make myself a priority and to do what is important to me in order to succeed. Only then could I be kind to myself and get rid of those self deprecating thoughts. Why wasn’t I kinder to myself? I am …..important. I needed to value myself more for who I am and not zoom in on how I physically look. Lastly, I needed to be smart about what I did to accomplish my goal. I needed to choose healthy foods and to not over indulge. I needed to be smart on getting my activity in. I needed to break the old habits that continue to stall my efforts.

I still have a long way to go on my journey but now anytime I get down and lose sight of my ultimate goal, I need to take a few deep breaths and say as my mantra….important, kind, smart. What a great affirmation! Because I am important, kind and smart. We all are……

Yellow stickie I wrote and stuck up above my desk right after seeing "The Help".

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    I think this was probably the key I needed to overcome my negative self talk!

    emoticon for sharing!

    1854 days ago
    what a great motivator for all of us! we forget how important we are to US! and kindness to ourselves, to forgive ourselves for eating badly or not working out. and smart to know how to be important and kind, too. excellent words!
    1854 days ago
    What a great post! And you gave me something to add to my folder of stuff for when I'm feeling down on myself, and food for thought. Thank you!
    1854 days ago
    How completely beautiful. Thank you for expressing such a simple concept so well

    Important...kind...smart. Indeed, you are all three.

    1854 days ago
    This was a fantastic blog for me to read right now and you summed it all up so brilliantly! Great outlook and thank you for taking the time to remind all of us...we are important, we are kind, we are smart!
    1854 days ago
    Wow, Jeannie, this sure hit home base with me!!! And I think an aaahhhaaa moment for you!!! Jeannie, you IS kind, smart and important!!! emoticon
    1854 days ago
    1855 days ago
    God sees you that way--you are the apple of His eyes!!
    1855 days ago
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