For anyone that has seen the movie “The Help” the three words…kind, smart and important…may sound familiar. Aibileen, the “help” says this phrase to the young girl in her charge, Mae Mobley.
As part of the Beyond The Scale Pink Pirate challenge group, one of our past weekend challenges included meditating. One afternoon during this challenge time, I had taken one of my dogs for a walk and due to her older age and issues starting with her hips, we have to take a rest every so often. It had snowed the day before so there was a nice white coat of snow on the ground. Since it was in the middle of an afternoon of a weekday, my neighborhood was quiet. As my dog settled in on a spot in the fresh snow I stood still basking in the stillness and the crispness of the winter air. As there are various ways to meditate, I decided this was the perfect opportunity. It had been a bad week at work so far, so I welcomed these moments to not think. As I cleared my mind, Aibileen’s words came to me… ‘You is kind, You is smart, You is important.’ I thought of nothing else for the next few moments except the three words…kind, smart, important. It was soothing and a sense of calmness came over me.
Later when back at my desk I thought more of this phrase and those three words and how they pertained to me. I had actually written these three words on a yellow stickie months ago and stuck it at eye level at my desk and periodically glanced at it. I am pretty sure that overall to others I am kind and smart…of course some days are better than others but overall I think I am. Important…. I want to think to some people I am….my husband, my family, my church family. I know I am to my two dogs.
But as I thought more about this, I came to the realization that kind, smart and important needed to also be internal and not just as I appeared outwardly to others. In order to make it through my weight loss journey I needed to apply these to myself. First off, the order of those words needed to be changed. Shouldn’t it be IMPORTANT, kind and smart? I needed to be important to ME. I needed to make myself a priority and to do what is important to me in order to succeed. Only then could I be kind to myself and get rid of those self deprecating thoughts. Why wasn’t I kinder to myself? I am …..important. I needed to value myself more for who I am and not zoom in on how I physically look. Lastly, I needed to be smart about what I did to accomplish my goal. I needed to choose healthy foods and to not over indulge. I needed to be smart on getting my activity in. I needed to break the old habits that continue to stall my efforts.
I still have a long way to go on my journey but now anytime I get down and lose sight of my ultimate goal, I need to take a few deep breaths and say as my mantra….important, kind, smart. What a great affirmation! Because I am important, kind and smart. We all are……
Yellow stickie I wrote and stuck up above my desk right after seeing "The Help".