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Stopping for the right reason (2014 - Blog #44)

Friday, February 14, 2014

On my way to work today, I thought about stopping for a latte. I have not had one in a long time! I had a goal of limiting them each week and that turned into really not having any. I got to thinking about WHY I was stopping for a latte.
Was I hungry? No.
Was I thirsty? No.
Was I craving coffee or caffeine? No.
So, why have I been stopping all these years for a latte?

I have plenty of time to consider that question and the best I can come up with is HABIT.. and a craving for the "idea" of a warm cup of coffee in a setting that I really enjoying being in. It is a craving for an ideal... the quintessential cafe.. the Norman Rockwell moment... that homey feeling that a great coffee shop brings. HABIT in this case is completely mindless. I am not ok with that kind of living anymore. Mindless living a waste of precious moments. if I stop, I want to be aware of WHY I stop. And... if it is for the great feeling a coffee shop fills me with - GREAT! But I want to be mindful about that decision. And, if it is for the feeling, then the calorie laden latte is not necessary. A hot steaming tea will do the trick too.

So today, when I got the thought that I wanted to stop for a latte, at one of my favorite coffee shops, I paused to ask myself why I was stopping. Since the actual coffee was not the reason, I thought maybe I will just stop for tea and get my "feeling" fix. And then, as I drove by, I realized that I really did not need the tea or the fix either. And, I was good with that. I know I will be visiting another coffee shop this Sunday after a long bike ride, so I am still going to get my "feeling" fix. I will have my knitting. I will have a latte. I will have a great conversation with a good friend. And I will have that great feeling.

Frankly, it feels just as good to be aware and to stop for the right reasons.

May your decision to day be mindful and feel AWESOME!

"Why not? is a slogan for an interesting life."
Mason Cooley

MANTRA: Every opportunity is a choice. Every choice is an opportunity. (me)

PHOTO OF THE DAY: My mountain -- Aint' she stunning!?
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    Keep it up, you're doing great!
    1887 days ago
    Mindfulness is so important. Thanks for the reminder.

    1889 days ago
  • ALICIA363

    1889 days ago
    Mindfulness! A priceless gift! Thanks for sharing your reflections. emoticon
    1889 days ago
    You betcha. Habits are...well comforting (at times) and incredibly ridiculous at others. This year I have taken a very mindful approach to...well, everything. And I've questioned my habits: why is it that I do what I do when I do it? And I've found that late afternoons are a time when I like some comfort (but I can eat carrot sticks rather than munch on nuts or crackers) and still get that crunchy comfort.

    I haven't given up the coffee habit yet. But I'm now much more aware of it.

    Take care, enjoy your long bike ride and that cup with a friend.
    1890 days ago
  • NANCY-
    Certainly is stunning! Awesome photo!!!!
    Gotta love that being mindful, awareness makes a world of difference in our actions.
    WTG on showing yourself some love.

    1890 days ago
    Cool - mindful of getting the 'feeling' fix - I too like to 'treat' myself after a bike ride with the girls and can't wait for the weather to change to do so!
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    1890 days ago
    Great blog and just how I feel. I have stopped those bagel shop breakfasts my DH does 7 days a week. I can make better breakfasts here. Sometime I just go with him for coffee and company. Knocked 400+ calories off my breakfasts.
    1890 days ago
    Wonderfully stated!

    Beautiful Bobbie today.

    1890 days ago
    Great Analyzation! I know just what you are saying! It is nice to have that down time for myself. I used to go all the time - can't remember last time I went now but I did enjoy it!!

    Have a sweet weekend!!
    1890 days ago
    Thanks for sharing. Neurologically we are set up to do things on autopilot like driving a car. Unfortunately autopilot behaviors when it comes to food can be problematic. Good on you for identifying your reasons for your latte.

    1890 days ago
    emoticon Happy Valentine's Day babe emoticon
    1890 days ago
    Good point.
    1890 days ago
    emoticon Very Wise thoughts, and that feeling will be even better on Sunday because you will be more Aware of it.
    emoticon Tell your Mountain Goodnight from Oklahoma!
    1890 days ago
    emoticon Thanks for sharing the photo and for reminding me to think before making a decision to eat something - no more mindless choices - just because I have access to something doesn't mean I should eat it - you don't know how much you have helped me out by avoiding the temptation of some Valentine candy someone gave me - Thank you - you have made my day.

    1890 days ago
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