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Quiet, Eeyore!

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Today's project is to write an encouraging letter to one's self just as would be written to a friend. I think for friendly advice to have any credibility, the advice giver must be trusted. Developing real trust takes time. Of course, I have been living with myself for many years. Let's hope I can trust myself! But can I?

Rather than having the problem of punitive negative self-talk, I tend to fall into the willfully ignorant category. For several years I have had to supplement my wardrobe with consistently larger sizes. However, like Winnie the Pooh getting stuck in Rabbit's door, my mental image of my physical shape did not match reality. I must stay out of hibernation in that area.

I notice that alarming body statistics have not been not a highly effective motivator for me. I DO want the weight to change, but an Eeyore voice tells me that the effort to do this will not work for me. Pounds have not melted away. Fitness improvements have been small. Life has been so busy with things over which I have very little control. New habits, like seedlings, require care I sometimes feel taxed to give. I have a nagging suspicion that losing weight, something I have never before had to work at, is just too hard for me.

This is where I must look long range. Life will continue, time will continue to tick away, whether or not I choose willful ignorance or feel overwhelmed. How I meet life and time, should I be blessed to live into the future, will be determined by the small acts of today. If pounds have not melted away, I can halt the wanton acquisition of more weight. If fitness improvements have been small, I can be thankful the trend is positive instead of negative. If life is busy, I must still take responsibility for doing what I can. I must ignore Eeyore and nurture new habits, believing that even if the fruit is not dramatic, it will be sweet.

So, self, replace the gloomy expectations with the satisfaction of the journey. Be aware of the need for change. Enjoy achieving today's goals: the small steps that lead to lasting change. Do NOT permit negativism to sanction foolish fitness choices. DO carve out some time to actually do that goal board or start a personal streak that will make a difference. Make motivation a priority.
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    Thanks for this, and here's to channeling your inner Tigger!
    I also wanted to say that it's great to see you patting yourself on the back for any seemingly modest bit of progress. I have had to learn that this positive self-talk is much more important part of the process of creating change than I ever imagined it could be. I have tended to punish myself for anything less than perfection, and this led to years of yo-yo dieting. More recently I started to celebrate every little achievement (like NOT putting on any weight, even if I haven't lost any), and I have found that I'm much happier and more able to eat for hunger rather than emotional reasons. In the same way that constant criticism never helped any kid to learn or enjoy learning, constant self-criticism tends to inspire internal rebellion and self-sabotage. The only strategy that works in the long run, and I think this is true in pretty much all areas of life, is to offer loving support -- to ourselves and others!
    Congratulations to you on taking some little steps that could lead to bigger ones.
    1533 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/11/2014 10:47:35 PM
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