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January 5, 2014

Sunday, January 05, 2014

I just realized. I've been dating my last few blogs with the wrong year. Oops. Guess I need to pay attention to that. lol

Anyhow, today is a rough day. It's -50C/-58F with the windchill out today. My car won't start. So I went for a walk. I dressed for the weather - I actually was sweating by the time I got to where I was going.

I needed the walk. I'm struggling with some excess stress today.

My daughter called yesterday. She asked if she could move in for a bit - go to work and save some $$. I talked to Hubby about it last night - he decided on some ground rules, but that it would be okay.

Different story this morning though.

It's his home. Period. Not ours. His. I know that. I'm not going to force the issue.

That being said, if it's a choice, my kids always come first. Always will. So I'm trying to figure out how else I can help. Doesn't matter she moves here or stays put - rent is about the same. Here she would have work, but trouble finding a place to stay.

I talked to her today. She just got a job there. So her moving here is not an option. Instead, I think I have to help them cover rent/damage deposit for a while until they get on their feet. So I'm trying to figure out how much I can help them with. Them is my daughter and her boyfriend. He's working too, but it's very expensive to live in Calgary.

So I'm doing what I can. I have contacted friends in Calgary to ask if anyone knows of a low cost rental - even just one room - for these two. I'm talking to my daughter to see what I can do to help.

Needless to say, my stress level has gone up. Way up today. The walk helped.

I really need to watch what I eat today. Make sure I still take care of me today, and not just go off the deep end because of this stress.
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  • JUSTME29
    I know that has to be stressful for you, and I remember how badly things went last time she lived with you. I really hope that you can help her from afar.

    It hurts my heart to hear you say that it's HIS house though. I get that it was his house before you moved in, and that if the two of you were to ever split up he would keep it - but in the meantime it should be both of yours.
    1630 days ago
    1630 days ago
    I hope you can help your daughter.
    It's hard when the hubby doesn't have an attachment to your kids.

    Eating will not help the situation even if it seems like it will,but what ever happens,be kind to yourself.

    1630 days ago
    Wow I hope you can work things out. I'm also confused about it being his home, especially when he had agreed to help to begin with. I'm not really sure what the problem would be if there are both working and just need a place to stay until they can get back on their feet. However, I don't know all of the circumstances so I'm sure there is a solid reason behind it. I hope everything works out for you and your kids. As you said, they come first! Best wishes!
    1630 days ago
    Sorry you are going through a rough time. I hope it gets better for you soon.

    But where I am confused, since he is your hubby in other words you are actually married to him then isn't the home considered both of yours? Or did he have the home before you got married and legally does that make a difference? I honestly don't know.

    Ok, now I am totally lost, I just remembered that you got engaged not long ago, didn't you?
    But if he is your hubby then you are already married, so not sure of anything now.

    Anyway, it is good your daughter already has a job but it can be very difficult to find affordable housing. I live in a community that is very hard to find a place to live. I hope she finds something suitable and for the record, I agree, kids always come first. emoticon
    1630 days ago
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