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December 1, Thanksgiving Chemo Break just about over

Sunday, December 01, 2013

I was really fortunate that my chemo schedule happened to have a break that coincided with Thanksgiving weekend. My youngest son (35 years old now), came down to visit from Illinois and we hosted our family Thanksgiving get together yesterday. While I still had low energy levels compared to normal, I was able to enjoy the visit and all the company. It was so nice to have so many people around.

My entire family gets along very well with each other with a few small exceptions. There is no family drama that some people experience over the holidays. Just lots of laughter, talking and enjoying each other's company.

My husband did almost all the cooking and cleaning in preparation for the gathering. I found it really hard to sit on the sidelines for all that, but I knew if I spent my energy cooking and cleaning, I wouldn't have anything left for when the family actually came. It was a terrific lesson in patience for me, but Jim did a wonderful job and I stayed out of the kitchen.

I loved having my youngest son here for several days. He's very shy so that if anyone else is around, he tends to blend into the woodwork. By having him here by himself, we got to really enjoy his company. We played cards and had a football watching orgy on Thanksgiving Day. We also went and had Thanksgiving lunch with my mom at her assisted living place. That made her day, and we didn't have to cook on Thanksgiving Day itself, so that really worked out.

Tomorrow morning (Monday), we are off bright and early to Nashville for my BRCA testing. We will spend the night in a hotel there because I have my first chemo infusion of a different kind of chemo (AC) first thing Tuesday morning. I'm getting nervous about that one because the side effects are typically a lot harder than the last one I was on. What's left of my hair will fall out in about 14 days after that. I'm sad about my hair, but I'm much more concerned about some of the other side effects. Everyone is different in how they respond, so I will have to just wait and see.

I get this chemo every other week for two months. Most people seem to be down for the count for about a full week after each infusion. That's what makes me nervous. I figure I can do just about anything for two months, but I'd rather not have to deal with too much! You may be hearing a lot of moaning and groaning from me for a while. We will just have to see.

In the meantime, today is an absolutely beautiful December day here in Tennessee, sunny and relatively warm. I love it! This good weather makes me happy!

I hope you each have a good day today. I plan to!

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  • HEIDI777
    Thrilled to hear that you had such a lovely holiday with your son!! Isn't it wonderful to see your husband in action!! Over the years it seems like they become accustom to having us (the mom's) do most of the household work and cooking, but when they need to step up it is wonderful to see them to that!! You picked a good one!

    I will be saying a few extra prayers for you to have an easier time with your next step of chemo. Much like our weight lost ...every step forward is a step to our goals. Keep a positive out look and I know you will reach the goal of completing your treatment!! When you are done tell your husband that you will want to go out dancing again!!

    Hugs to you my friend!
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    1663 days ago
    Love and hugs and lots of warm, positive energy to help you get through your challenges. When I went through my treatment, someone told me "If you can't fight or flight, just float". I hope this gem helps you too!

    Lyn from Australia
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  • BILL60
    Family time makes all the difference.
    1665 days ago
    emoticon I bet it was great to have your son for several days without having to share him with the entire world.

    I'm glad that you have such a multi-talented husband and that you were able to stay out of the kitchen. Sounds like such a wonderful family gathering.

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    Comment edited on: 12/2/2013 4:59:55 AM
    That's so great that you had a nice Thanksgiving and that you got to enjoy being with your family for Thanksgiving. Even better that you were able to give up your control so that Jim could do all of the cooking.

    If you need to moan and groan about your treatments then so be it. We are all here for you no matter what. I hope the treatments with the other chemo go well and that you don't have many, if any, side effects from it. I'm continuing to keep you in my thoughts.

    1665 days ago
    Hi Kay
    So pleased you had some quality time with your family.
    I know it's not quite the same as losing your head so traumatically, but I had my head shaved in 2007 for a brain operation and I was terrified. I bought a wig, which I only wore once because it itched so much and ended up wearing a succession of ball ball caps and snazzy hats.
    You've coped incredibly well so far- I shall keep you in my prayers.

    One beauty tip- when you do lose your hair, where more eye make up- you will be amazed how much more your facial features are commented on. emoticon
    1665 days ago
    Hi Kay,

    Glad you had a lovely Thanksgiving dinner with your family and
    your son getting to stay over was icing on the cake....
    My sister Kay lost her hair, and she was blessed to get a very nice
    wig given to her....but she told me she intends to use a lot of woolen
    or knit caps and hats. Just a thought......

    Praying for you,
    1666 days ago
    So glad you got to spend time with your son. Praying for you!! Keep smiling! emoticon
    1666 days ago
    Hi Kay, I am glad that you had a good Thanksgiving.
    Will be continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
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    1666 days ago
    I was on the AC chemo 10 years ago; the biggest problem I had was nausea. It's important to stay ahead of it and take the anti-nausea meds before the nausea gets severe; and if the meds aren't working, call your doctor, there are other meds to try, and sometimes it takes a few tries to find out what works best for you.

    I lost my hair on that one too. I thought I was prepared, but it still felt like a big shock when it started coming out by the handful.

    Don't worry if you want to moan and groan! I won't lie, it is a tough chemo, and if it makes you feel better to vent, go ahead and let it out, I am here for you! emoticon Just picture yourself by this time next year being cancer free!
    1666 days ago
    It was a beautiful day here and I'm happy you had several 'beautiful' days with your family over the long holiday weekend. Will be thinking about you and the new chemo--hope it goes well. emoticon
    1666 days ago
    Kay, I'm with Healthy4Me ....moan and groan as much as you want. We are here to support you through thick and thin. I hope your experience will be like KTISFOCUSED's and very tolerable. Maybe focusing on that positive will decrease some of the concern you're feeling.

    Great news--one-on-one time with you son! That is so special --- for both of you. Play that memory over & over again when you need a distraction!

    I admire you so much for not succumbing to doing Thanksgiving "just like always." It's hard to sit on the sidelines but you are one smart cookie to "put on your own oxygen mask before helping someone else!" (just like the flight attendant says!)

    Your short haircut is adorable and it will be again! Until then, you'll be smashing in your hats & scarves. Losing your hair cannot begin to diminish your beauty --both inner and outer beauty!

    You'll be in my thoughts & always.
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    Comment edited on: 12/1/2013 4:17:40 PM
    Sending you lots of hugs!!
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    1666 days ago
    Safe travels...will be thinking of you on Tuesday and the days after. Go ahead and moan if you need to!
    1666 days ago
    What a blessing to be able to enjoy the holiday with family!
    1666 days ago
    Sending you good wishes and a good outcome on this new chemo meds yes some are harder than others and the doctors can let you know what most people experience. I get my port out December 4th I've had it in 3.5 years since my last treatment I guess both doc an I wanted to make sure I was in the clear most people think we played it really safe. Bless you and take care of yourself (or ask for some help).
    1666 days ago
    Girl with the attitude you have had and all your support, I am hoping this helps you out, but moan and vent to us all you want, cos we are here for you. I hope that you do as well as you have in this past chemo and HUGS to you soft, gentle hugs... emoticon emoticon
    1666 days ago
    Having a great support system will help you continue to do well. I know these new treatments produce anxiety, but it helps to stay in the present. Lovely day, let's both enjoy. Big hug.
    1666 days ago
    We are here for you. You are my hero. emoticon
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    1666 days ago
    I sure hope you're like me. I did fine with this type of chemo and didn't have as many reactions to it as I did the Taxol. I think you're going to be pleasantly surprised, I sure hope so. The BRCA test, I had it and just had to spit saliva in a test tube after rinsing my mouth with mouthwash. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. You are a tough cookie and you are getting through this just great. I hope I'm not being a pest but I always appreciated positive info from veterans. Hope you do too.

    And good for you for looking for the good as in learning patience, spending time with your son, etc.
    1666 days ago
    I am glad that you had a nice visit with your son and a quiet weekend. I would love to not have drama around the holidays but alas there is always something going on.
    I hope that your treatment goes well tomorrow and you aren't hit too hard by the side effects. I will be keeping you in my thoughts.

    Enjoy the nice weather. Here is it raw, gloomy, and rainy. Typical November - ah December weather. At least not snow. emoticon
    1666 days ago
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