100,000-149,999 SparkPoints 130,843

The Epic Battle of Good Vs. Evil & 20 Month Sparkaversary...

Voted Popular Blog Post: View All Popular Posts

Wednesday, November 20, 2013

When there were 49 days left in the year, I decided I would classify each day as good or bad based on my eating... I am now thinking I should rename the bad days evil days, just because it sounds more adorable! I also went ahead and marked 7, YES 7 "free days". This included Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas, New Years Eve and 2 of my 7 days in Vegas. I hoped that by feeling like I had a lot of "freedom" coming up that I would really push it to work harder on the other days. Well... it hasn't quite started off like I hoped. My only goal was to have more good days than bad at the end of the year. It sounded simple enough... I originally wanted a streak, but I have been struggling lately so that sounded too overwhelming.

Here's a recap so far:

Day 1: emoticon
Day 2: emoticon
Day 3: emoticon
Day 4: emoticon
Day 5: emoticon
Day 6: emoticon
Day 7: emoticon

As you can see, it's neck and neck with evil slightly in the lead! Still plenty of time to turn it around. My biggest obstacle at the moment is not letting the most recent evil day turn into a cluster. If I can have one evil day for every 3 good days, I will hit my goal with flying colors. My goal is to have the evil days be just one at a time, and to get farther and farther apart. I am learning that there is always going to be bumps in the road, but they can be fewer and farther between.

Day 7 was just awful, in every sense of the word. Everything that could go wrong, did go wrong! emoticon As I was telling my Dad about some of it, he sarcastically said "Yep, I get it, the world is out to get you" and I very seriously responded "Yes, you finally understand!" That is how it felt today. I have no excuses for reacting by eating... everyone has bad days, and most people don't need to turn to food just because they have had a stressful day. I am an emotional/stress eater and it is an on going thing I deal with. Sometimes I have it under control, and sometimes I lose to it, this was obviously a battle I lost. But all I can do is learn from it and move forward. Maybe I need to take my learning a little more seriously though LOL. ;)

I also looked into my records, and this is a rough time of year for me (as it is for MANY). I lost no weight last year from Halloween through the end of January. I maintained within a 5 pound range. I started losing again in February but hit another bump in the road in April. It amazes me how much time on this journey I have spent struggling, it doesn't feel like that long. I guess I have blocked out some of the bad times, and there were also a lot of good times to compensate for those bad ones. At the time I remember feeling like a failure, maintaining within 5 pounds instead of losing. I remember being frustrated and upset with myself... but now that I have a little perspective, I think that's pretty darn good. To maintain within a 5 pound range during the holidays and to never give up and to continue to push towards my goals. Now don't get it twisted, I am not saying that so if I maintain through the holidays this year I can say "oh that's okay"... I am really making an effort to lose during the holidays, but at least I know this is my weakest time of year, and I am realizing it is going to take even more work than it usually does. EEK!

emoticon So I am that totally obnoxious girl who keeps referencing how long I've been on my weight loss journey. emoticon It is not to be like "oh look at me, this is how long I've been doing this!" It's to remind me that this journey is different than all my previous weight loss attempts, and to see how long I have been doing this without giving up. I have had TONS of previous weight loss attempts, and none lasted more than 3 months. I have actually been on Spark People off and on since 2009, but it has been 20 consistent months on this journey and logging into Spark almost everyday. Each time I feel like throwing in the towel, I have to remind myself how long and how hard I've been working.I don't want to throw away all that time and work just because "I don't feel like it". So that is a huge NSV for me, to still be here and still fighting for what I want.. and boy has it been a fight lately! emoticon My other NSV was taking a picture of myself and actually liking it and choosing to post it as my profile picture. I remember the day of taking 29 pictures and not liking any of them. I would either not post any at all or I would find the one that wasn't "as bad" as the other. It was such a fresh breath of air to look at a picture I just took and not cringe at the results! So even though I have been having a rough time with my eating, and I am struggling, I can still say I am feeling pretty happy lately and life is pretty good! It's good to be reminded that our happiness should not be linked to our weight or that horrible scale!

I hope everyone has a fabulous day! And here's to making Day 8 a good day! emoticon
Share This Post With Others
Member Comments About This Blog Post
  • THOMS1
    I think you are doing a great job. Keep it up and soon the good days will outweigh those so called evil days. emoticon
    1611 days ago
    1611 days ago
  • NEPTUNE1939
    1611 days ago
  • QUAIL75
    You can do it! This has been my journey as well. We all have our bad/evil days but as you say, you have to keep working. emoticon emoticon
    1611 days ago
    1611 days ago
    1611 days ago
  • FRAN0426
    Look at the positive, you did good three times---thats a start. You should feel good about the days you did make the daily goal, emoticon for more good days.
    1611 days ago
    You are doing it! Go girl!
    1611 days ago
    You can do this. Don't give up. Keep taking it one day at a time and you will get there.
    1611 days ago
    You're blog hit the mark! That's what we all fight for...Good days! Good luck! You can do it.
    1611 days ago
    Stay positive, you know good always prevails over evil emoticon
    1611 days ago
    Pushing forward!!!!!

    Enjoy your holidays with some non food experiences!!!!!
    1611 days ago
    Congratulations on 20 months! And I love the good vs evil battle. What a great way to think of it!
    1611 days ago
    You know that I am right there with you, friend! emoticon
    1611 days ago
    I think you should be so excited you had 3 good days out of the last 7... That is WAY BETTER than zero good days... it's all about the spin!!!

    Happy Thursday, and I do hope today is NOT evil!!!


    1611 days ago
    I think you just noticed the pattern: you don't remember exactly what the stressor of the day was but you remember eating over it. As the good days accumulate, you'll forget most of those days, but not the cheering icon. That will show up in the mirror. No matter what is going on, it will pass, and will fade into the distant past far faster than you can imagine. The thin face in the mirror, with added wrinkles, of course, is what lives on.
    1611 days ago
    Great blog! Thanks for sharing struggles, we all can relate!
    1611 days ago
    I love this. What a fun way of keeping track. Here's to the emoticon days outnumbering the emoticon days! Great picture.
    emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1611 days ago
  • SAILOR64
    Dear Steph,

    You have taken the 1st step, you have identified an issue with food. Believe it or not this is HUGE. Congratulations.

    You have actually inspired my Blog for today. If you like you can read it anytime after 10 a.m. EST.

    Good luck on your quest, and JUICE to You! emoticon
    1611 days ago
    emoticon emoticon
    1611 days ago
    You can do this, I know it is tough emoticon
    as you do , One day at a time , the evil ones will be fewer .and momentum kicks in emoticon ,you will be on a roll. woohoo

    emoticon emoticon
    1611 days ago
  • JIBBIE49
    Great to see your blog featured in the Spark Mail. emoticon
    1611 days ago
  • SHERYLP461
    Awesome, it is wonderful that you share your bad days with the good. Others benefit from knowing they are not alone. I always tell myself, I can wait 5 more minutes, then again if need be. Usually in 5 minutes I am busy doing something else and eating the out of mind.
    1611 days ago
    Here's a thought about getting through the holidays

    why not spend a little time today imagining what you would do if you were already at goal. How much would you eat? How often would you workout? What exercises would you do that you don't do now? What foods would you pass on that you think of as treats now?

    As vividly as you can imagine her - Imagine you as already at goal. Now - for the next month, pretend you ARE that girl - you ARE there already and live that way for a little while.

    I bet - if you fake it till you make it ... you'll already be making it!

    Many hugs to you, brave woman.

    edited a moment later - here's something I found just one click away:

    1611 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/21/2013 7:13:36 AM
    Here's to a good day 8 and 9 and 10.....
    1611 days ago
    Steph, I know you can beat this!! Please hang in've been doing so well and we need you to beat this!!
    1611 days ago
    Hang in there and stay strong! emoticon
    Sometimes the harder the struggle makes the victory that much sweeter.

    You got this!!
    1611 days ago
    one day at a time.. hang in there... :)
    1611 days ago
    20 months is an awe-inspiring accomplishment. Congratulations, and best of success to you through the holiday season. Here's to more good days than evil ones!
    1611 days ago
    you are still here fighting
    1611 days ago
    emoticon Another great blog. I hope you lose the feeling of terror going into the holidays and just focus on the friends and family and all the wonderful things of the season, except the food. Play Santa, but don't look like Santa!!
    1611 days ago
    You can do it!
    Make Day 8 the best day yet!
    1611 days ago
    Keep on Fighting!!! emoticon
    1611 days ago
    Your consistency, persistence,and hard work have serve you well and will continue to do so. Challenges just make us stronger with time. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1611 days ago
    1611 days ago
    Happy 20 mth. Sparkversary! emoticon It IS an awesome accomplishment and very worthy of being mentioned and celebrated. For sure!

    Keep up your conscientious work and the emoticon days will outnumber the emoticon days!

    1611 days ago
  • STARDUST_1970
    Things have to get better right? For both of us. I am having a lot of evil days myself here lately.
    1612 days ago
    I'm very glad that you are still fighting and still pushing! I know how crappy it feels to have evil days preside over good days, I've had it happen too many times. This week even! But you are wonderful and strong and you will keep pushing on until you feel more in control than out of control. Even if you just maintain this year during holidays, it's better than packing on a ton of weight (which is what I tend to do every single year and why I'm so terrified this year) and you'll be able to start the new year without having to undo a bunch of "oopsies".
    Always remember that you are beautiful and strong, and tell fat Stephanie to f*ck off because she's not welcome anymore! Remember that you are healthy Stephanie now and YOU are the one calling the shots, even though sometimes it doesn't feel like it.
    emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1612 days ago
  • ADF1981
    Hang in there! This is a tough time of year to try to lose weight and even maintain, but it can happen! Maybe you are being too hard on yourself. Not sure how bad those evil days were, but even if they're not perfect just try to make the best of it. Something that helps me is to try to eat the lower number of calories in my range and if later I am hungry I have some room for more calories. Since the eating has been a struggle lately, maybe try focusing on your fitness minutes goal. Not saying lose track of calories, but if you ate more one day and also walked more it will help. Hoping tomorrow is a good day! emoticon
    1612 days ago
    Steph, I am pulling for your good days! You are keeping your focus, and I hope the rest of the week goes better for you!
    1612 days ago
  • MKD4444
    Maintaining within a 5 pound range is FABULOUS during the holidays. You should be proud of yourself for doing that. I have even skinny friends who gain 5-10 pounds during the holidays and then have to work their butts off to get those pounds off. You keep doing what you're doing, and don't let those Evil Days get you down. You're a winner, and you can conquer them.
    1612 days ago
  • TREV1964
    You know I think you are doing fantastic and I for one am very proud of what you have done and what you are doing at the moment.

    Just keep going and you WILL get there. In doing what you have already done you have a multitude of people that are in here in awe of your achievements and a lot of people that look up to you.

    Cheers and respect

    1612 days ago
    Sometimes people don't realize that struggles that each of us go through each day. I also struggle with emotional eating and what sucks is the next day you wish you'd have just sucked it up. I wish there was an easier way to stay away from foods when I was feeling down. Some days I feel like I am in the same type of mindset of when I started. I eat because I feel fat, I feel fat because I eat too much. A whole cycle for my depression. I just need to find a way to remember that eating foods that are good for me and not overeating makes me happier. Here's to hoping you have more smiley people than evil ones! emoticon
    1612 days ago
    You look amazing in this photo and that says it all! It shows all your work and your progress and we all can understand your struggles, they are the same with ours! Keep up the good work my emoticon
    emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1612 days ago
    Even though things seem to be kind of rough lately, you still seem really positive and you seem to be doing a good job keeping yourself motivated. Your persistence is inspiring. :)

    Also, congrats on celebrating your 20 month anniversary! So impressive.

    1612 days ago
  • BABARR67
    Hey Sweet!

    I sooo understand, and as you know I have a limited number of days to be "good" before surgery. I know that we are not supposed to think of days as good or bad because it can throw us off our game-- contributing to what I've heard called "Last Supper Syndrome": aka I screwed up, I'll start again tomorrow...

    Whereas One meal, snack, bite at a time gives us the opportunity to take a "Uturn" immediately.

    And in the most current weight loss book I am reading, Never Say Diet, the author says, "We gain weight through a series of poor choices made on a regular basis over a long period of time." No duh... the whole book is common sense as far as I can tell... I totally love it. I have to change my mind and make better decisions. Being uncomfortable is not the end of the world. Sort of a "Just do it" attitude.

    Okay... I'll be waiting for the copyright police to come after me for using the common terms for the various diet books and athletic company slogans. LOL

    I wonder if even your "bad" days were not really bad... just imperfect. I doooo loooove the whole good vs evil scenario Muhwahahaha

    1612 days ago
  • TREE57
    emoticon Remember it's okay to TOOT YOUR OWN HORN!

    emoticon emoticon These little critters are going to be FEW and FAR BETWEEN!

    emoticon You have so much to be thankful for.

    emoticon Just keep putting one foot in front on the other!

    emoticon Looking Good in that new photo!

    Way to Go Steph....Stay the Course!
    1612 days ago
  • BRENDA_G50
    emoticon 20 consistant months. emoticon That is nothing to sneeze at! You're doing emoticon

    I really like your idea about "Good -vs- Evil"! Here to having more emoticon days than emoticon days. emoticon

    I'll be cheering for you! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1612 days ago
    emoticon Happy Sparkversary! Great job on this journey that may have some struggles but you are not giving up! That is the key to success and you will succeed because you're not giving up.
    You are almost to your emoticon
    1612 days ago
    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    I love your good & bad days icons. I think I will implement this too, it may help to see how often I am bad.
    You are doing great and it will all come together.

    1612 days ago
  • Add Your Comment to the Blog Post

    Log in to post a comment
    Member Comments Page (119 total):  < Previous 1 2 3 Next >

    Disclaimer: Weight loss results will vary from person to person. No individual result should be seen as a typical result of following the SparkPeople program.