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I want to apologize for taking up the friend feed.

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

Last night I started to go through my friends list and check in on everyone. I'm still working on it and it will probably take a few days, as I have over 400 people in my list and I want to check in with every one of you.

I'm about a quarter of the way through the first page. I hope that everyone has their page set up to send you an email telling you that there's activity on your page, for some reason I don't think that's automatic, it's something you have to check when you're editing your page. I will be taking up my friend's feed for a while to make sure everyone's doing well and staying on track.

I'm always saddened by the people that gave up. Some of them friended me the moment I started blogging and participating on the site, but then stopped using it themselves (that's nearly 2 years ago!).

I see some people that have been going for longer than me, some that have just started and some that stopped last week. Some were upended by some dramatic thing in their lives and some just gave up hope of getting it done. Some people are still here, even though they haven't seen the progress that others managed.

As I went through my friends so far, I saw phrases like "never give up", "Never Quit", "Now or Never". These people did not take their own advice, I haven't seen them in the last year.

One person had a "really bad week" and I haven't seen her since.

Some pages are inaccessible to me. I never know why. I don't even try to figure that out.

I figure that if I attempt at least twice a year to post on the pages that are less used, they'll come back and see that as least I haven't given up on them. I know that I can't do anything more for anyone, but at least I want them to know I'm thinking of them every once in a while and hope for the well being of everyone. I know I can't do it all the time, but a couple of times a year is good enough to bring back a few of them to their page. I know that when I do this I get messages from a few thanking me for reminding them to work on themselves.

Hopefully this will spark their "no excuses" and allow them to "convince their mind" to "learn to love themselves". (I quote those because I found those phrases on the pages of people that are not using their pages right now.)

So keep on aiming!

Today's Holidays: National Young Readers Day , Chicken Soup for the Soul Day, Sadie Hawkins Day, National Chicken Noodle Soup for the Flu Day (as I'm getting over it and the last two in my family got it last night), and National Pizza with the Works (Except Anchovies) Day.
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    Great blog! I will try and do the same!
    1620 days ago
    1623 days ago
    Every few months I go through my "friends". On one hand, being a good friend means being there for people. On the other, I am here to succeed. There is a saying, if you want to be a success, hang around with successful people.

    I really like visiting lots of blogs, but I don't always friend them unless we have something in common or I am very inspired by them. I don't have a huge following on my blogs but I have a really solid group who try to check in on me and I really appreciate it. It's one thing to have ten people who give a thumbs' up and it's another to have someone read it and give you ideas, challenge you, or truly be a cheerleader. I'd rather have a couple of those any day.

    I believe that I need to KNOW what people are doing to be able to support them. Either they have to post regularly on a thread on a team we are on, or they have to blog regularly. SP is fine for recording your own numbers and if you want to be a loner that's great. It's that community side and support that really make a difference to me because I don't have a huge support sytem in my family.

    Even so, there are some amazing people who like you say, had something happen in their life and they had to stop. Like you I try and visit everyone's page a couple of times a year and just see if I've missed something going on with them. If no obvious activity, then I take my "friend" status off but I try to leave a comment so they know where to find me if they do come back. I know if they become active they can look me up again.

    It can be so much work on SP to keep up with everything and we NEED to be inspired to make it worth while. Maybe once I reach maintenance I will just be able to brouse and support randomly... but for now I am on a mission and must choose my friends wisely. Hence... you are a friend! emoticon
    1624 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/14/2013 11:59:26 AM
  • TANYA602
    I love that you continue to check in on us! I find that I am only on FB when I'm on the elliptical, and on SP if I have time between the elliptical and my morning shower. Thank you for the goodie and note the other morning - I so appreciate that you've been here with me since day 1.
    Have a beautiful day!

    1624 days ago
  • BRENDA_G50
    You doing this just proves what a wonderful person you really are. Even though you may have a lot going on your personal life, you're taking time to let others know that they are important to you and are worth the effort. emoticon emoticon
    1625 days ago
    How thoughtful of you. How wonderful it would be if some of them came back.
    1626 days ago
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  • KAREN608
    Yes, I have noticed some who drop off Spark for whatever reasons. I remember one gal, her 5 year old grandson died years ago and her page is left in limbo. You wonder what became of them. I just keep trying to reprogram my brain to eat better and love it. Today DH bought 5 cardboard pizzas and a box of corn dogs 'for me'. I told him they are not on my food plan and he said I was to eat them anyway, as there isn't much to them, according to his idea of quantity/calories thinking. He bought tubes of cinnamon rolls also. Now I can have a treat once in a while, but I just made cake donuts with my donut pans, with lower sugar, so why do we need cinn. rolls? So I do have my challenges. When he was away at work I could ask someone to come get them - I don't drive and live in country- and give to youth group. Now he is around all the time so not sure how to deal with these lousy pizzas. Not even a brand I like. Guess that is a good thing!!!
    1626 days ago
    That is so nice, you rock!
    1626 days ago
    I LOVE this blog! You are a true Sparkler! The support you give to others is amazing and so encouraging, and I say this as being one of "those" people you kept reaching out too during the last year and a half that I was off of SP due to my pregnancy.

    I knew I'd be back eventually, but having sparklers like you, who do take the time to reach out, makes a HUGE difference and it is SO appreciated.

    Before I left SP, I think I had just started getting to 'know' you here, along with a few other SP friends who I actually felt closer with, but out of them all, you were one of the few who did keep in touch and let me know you remembered me.

    It makes a world of difference, and I commend you for taking up that challenge. I hope more come back and get back to it. SP is a gift and it's because of support through others here, such as you, who make SP a true gift and help the days of struggle seem like a part of the process rather than an end-all, with no light at the end of the tunnel.

    Thank you for keeping the light on for those of us who couldn't or wouldn't keep it on for themselves.
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  • HOLLYM48
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    1626 days ago
    You are very thoughtful and caring person. emoticon
    1626 days ago
    At least half of my spark friends are gone now.
    1626 days ago
    Great...How nice of you to check up on your friends! Wayyyy to goooo. I think so many people give up because it is very difficult.....I'm glad you are still here! emoticon emoticon
    1626 days ago
    emoticon What a wonderful idea to help re-ignite someone's Spark!! I think it is worth Extra Space on the Friend Feed if it just helps a few people get 'Re-Booted'.
    emoticon You are a Good Spark Friend!!
    1626 days ago
  • FRAN0426
    Very thoughtful of you to try and reach spark friends that you haven't seen sparking . Every so ofter you notice someone is now back to give it another try. How great that if one of them is someone was a spark friend to see a note on their page during their absence---WTG.
    1626 days ago
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