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2/3 of a woman

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

“Whatever is deeply, essentially female--the life in a woman's expression, the feel of her flesh, the shape of her breasts, the transformations after childbirth of her skin--is being reclassified as ugly, and ugliness as disease. These qualities are about an intensification of female power, which explains why they are being recast as a diminution of power. At least a third of a woman's life is marked with aging; about a third of her body is made of fat. Both symbols are being transformed into operable condition--so that women will only feel healthy if we are two thirds of the women we could be. How can an "ideal" be about women if it is defined as how much of a female sexual characteristic does not exist on the woman's body, and how much of a female life does not show on her face?”
― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth: How Images of Beauty are Used Against Women

To me, this is a powerful quote. I for one refuse to consider myself two/thirds of a woman. the fat on my body and wrinkles on my face are not ugly. My challenge to myself is to get past the mental block I carry regarding fat, wrinkles and 'ideals' of beauty.
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    Love this
    1405 days ago
    emoticon girl! emoticon it is a shame how society thinks! Hope u have a wonderful day! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1650 days ago
  • CHARITY1973
    And you know what is really weird and unnatural? A celebrity, whippet thin, covered in makeup, hair bigger than God, standing like some contortionist to get the perfect angle, then add a 3 month old baby to her arms and you want to go screaming, "Get that baby away from her! She might kill it accidentally." No one sees nurturing life giving power in any of these 'values' of beauty.

    There is a tension in the difference between the images of fertility and the images of mothering. It's like there is a mental block between an act (sex) that involves invoking lust for the biological purpose of mothering which is viewed as the opposite of lust...And as stated above if you try to go back to seductress after becoming a mother you look weird and unnatural...

    However the men on this planet are not all into this image of 'sexy'. I know quite a few who like small boobs, fat bums, short hair and white cotton undies.
    1653 days ago
    Awesome quote!
    I think it's so sad that somehow our society has convinced us that aging is something to "attack" through whatever means necessary. And that the normal changes a woman's body goes through with aging and pregnancy are something to be erased.
    1653 days ago
    emoticon That is quite the Wake Up Call!! I had not ever thought of it that way, but it is Too True!!
    1654 days ago
    I like this. It plays into something that is not explicitly mentioned in the quote, but could be classified as "aging" -- I am getting grey hair at my temples. In a man, it is seen as distinguished. Women are supposed to artfully hide theirs, usually with hair dye. Now, I have always loved dyeing my hair as a way to change my look, but now I really don't want to hide the distinguished grey that I am getting at my temples. (Later I might want to change my look MORE than I want to see the grey, but for now I like the fact that I have earned it.)

    And that's just it. We earn our grey hair, our wrinkles, our scars and stretch marks. There is enough disease in the world already without being told that normal aging is one too. Great post!
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    1654 days ago
    Great quote! I agree, wrinkles and fat are not the opposites of beauty to me, but the hegemonic ideals of society today will (sadly) tell us they are.. One of the most beautiful women I've known was my grand-mother!

    I personally find health, generosity and kindness to be some of the qualities that correlates with beauty, and in this light it's not hard for me to find beauty in self and others. :)
    1654 days ago
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