BULLYING - THERE ARE MANY ADULTS GUILTY
Thursday, November 07, 2013
there is a lot of attention paid to kids/adolescent bullying - and rightfully so.
but my experience for my entire life has been adults bullying me. decades ago, when an adult admonished a child it was called 'telling you for your own good' and you had no choice in the matter cause you were a kid and you knew nothing - you had no feelings - you just better MIND WHAT WAS TOLD TO YOU.
there was the constant - 'you are too fat, stop eating ' 'you are lazy' all through my teens and early twenties ' you are so pretty too bad your body does not match - one of my aunts said to me, in front of five of my peers - 'you have the face of an angel but the body of an elephant' . needless to say - if there was a hole i would have jumped into it. instead i nervously laughed and went into the house - my friends were going off to have fun - but i could not face any body.
i told my mom - but she said - 'oh she means well and is only trying to help'.
i married a horrible bully- he still does all of the name calling and intimidation to me. even tho i did everything - from taking care of the kids, the house, pay bills, shopping - preparing meals and the other million things we women do - i am constantly ridiculed and told i am stupid. i don't know how to do anything.
when i try to please - follow orders - try harder - there is never a compliment. it is either 'it is about time you did something right' - or ' you do things without any thought - and it shows'.
that is all i do - is think about it.
i am wanting to know what to do about being degraded and humiliated in public.
yelled at - or given the silent treatment. there is no conversation - no communication because he has decided he is 100% in the right -
i know that bullies have no self esteem and that certainly applies to him - he won't accept any help - there is no reasoning with him.
is there some organization for ADULT BULLYING? to defend myself - to get it to stop?
i have gone on the internet - anything you comment on wants your personal email or/and information and i am not going to do that.
i am dealing with mental illness - care giving - and just too much that it is over whelming. i am drowning in this- i ask every morning why do i have to do this all over again. there is nothing to look forward to - hope is not an option any more cause it is just another nail into my coffin.
i am weary - tired - humorless - i love my dogs - they love me back -
i need a plan.