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When motivation is lost, how I got it back! For Elizabeth

Monday, November 04, 2013

Here I went again! Going along enjoying my progress so far - a 28 lb weight loss over a year and then BAM! lose focus! It sneaks in quietly, the grazing, mindless snacking here and there, second helpings, tighter clothes after all that hard work, next feeling failure, like maybe you can't stop the weight gain now, helpless to do anything about it, feeling like giving in to it, that would be easier, wouldn't it? Then I can just keep eating whatever and whenever. Just yesterday, my niece Elizabeth, expressed the same frustration with her goals.

I'm on this journey with my sister- we started at the same time and have lost the same weight, we live 3000 miles apart but are always in sync with this, often unbeknownst to the other.

Sure enough, when we talked on the phone, she was going thru it too. We complained, tried to figure out why, said we need to get back on track, hung up. We had agreed to stop eating after 7pm in the evening. For me, nothing happened, I went and ate a piece of cake making sure it was before 7. A few days later, she called. She said "I'm on vacation in January, I'm not going to hide around the pool. I've got 60 days to do something about it. I'm going to make better choices. You don't have to do this with me, I just know that's what I'm going to do."

That was it! Got my spark back. Here is what I do to stay with it:
10 minutes of exercise a day, no matter what. More is better, but 10 is the requirement.
No eating after 7pm
Eat only when hungry
Stop eating when full
Weigh myself regularly
Drink 8 glasses of water
When I'm tempted, I think about my sister and other friends struggling thru it too.

I've used Coach Nicole's DVD Fit Firm and Fired Up this whole time. There are 7 ten-minute exercise videos. I do 1 or 2 of them every morning no matter what unless I'm hiking that day.

I allow a glass of wine, also a small piece of dark chocolate every day.

I've found the breakfast that works for me - fruit, yogurt, nuts and Fiber One cereal.

I discovered Don Ponchos High Fiber Low Carb wraps that I use instead of bread.

Limiting sugar, but eating regular, natural food in smaller portions, also limiting refined food.

I found 2 Android apps that I put on the face of my phone. Countdown Days lets me know how many days till my trip. Simple Weight Loss Resolution lets me know how many pounds I've lost. When I'm tempted to overeat, I remember that I have a date with the scale in the morning and the payoff will be entering a new lower weight into my app.

My journey is more about finding healthy ways to achieve my goals through better eating and exercise, but for right now I have to make it about the scale and some work on mental changes and saying no.

I remember over a year ago, at my top weight, I was feeling horrible about my appearance and myself. I was crying to my husband about it and he said the most profound thing. He said "Honey, we're lions. We don't need to roar." At first I didn't get it. But then I realized, he's not responding to my obvious plea for superficial platitudes. He's telling me that my self confidence, above all else, is all that matters. And that is how he sees me, not my outward appearance. That realization of self-confidence will lead to my success. Shortly after that, I found Sparkpeople and found a lot of support and motivation here.

Three days after talking with Bet, I've lost some of the 8 pounds I gained since July and am set to keep going for the next 57 days and beyond and feel great.

So... you don't have to do this with me, I just know that's what I'm going to do.

After all, I'm a Lion.

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    How great to hear from you and to read this WONDERFUL blog! I have had the exact thing happen to me - going along great and then back sliding. I "re-sparked" about 6 weeks ago and have also lost most of what I gained back. This makes so much sense, why do we let ourselves slip back into our old ways?! But we're back and that's what counts! I'm going to Florida to visit family for Thanksgiving, so that's part of my motivation. I went through the Spark Coach Plateau busting coaching and it was great. Today I'm wearing "new" pants that used to fit, but then stopped fitting - it's a terrific feeling.
    1623 days ago
    Good for you!!
    1627 days ago
  • KELJM1117
    Thanks for the goals suggestions! It is so easy to have pounds creep back on.
    1627 days ago
    Thanks Guys!
    Note to Propman1: Heavens no. LOL I only started to chip away at the 8 lb gain. They were 3 easy lbs because recently gained. And thank you for the encouragement. emoticon
    1627 days ago
    You're a lion! RAAAWWWRR!!
    1627 days ago
    ROAR! How did you lose 8 lbs. in 3 days? No food? That's the only way i ever lose anything (weight wise). Whatever you do....get to it. Time waits for no one. emoticon emoticon
    1627 days ago
    You summed it up perfectly. I'm going to borrow your goals and keep them where I can see them. Thanks for the inspiration.
    1627 days ago
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