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Defending my choices. Is it necessary?

Saturday, November 02, 2013

As I continue down this path to my success, many people are questioning my choices. What am I eating? How long can I eat this way? What about all the things I'm giving up? Can I go the rest of my life without ice cream? Chocolate? Pasta? Wine??

Will I give these things up forever? Yes and no. If you know me at all, you know that some of these thing HURT my body. Dairy ALWAYS results in an IBS flare up. One serving of Greek yogurt put me in the bathroom within 20 minutes a week ago! Ice cream is worse! So, IBS or yummy ice cream? For me, it's a no brainer. Chocolate? No strong reaction physical other than the scale WILL go up. So...Yes, I will - and do - have it occasionally. But I have it knowing that I will have a battle with the scale afterwards. And I have it once. The beauty of my way of eating - for me - is I know I can have a small piece, enjoy it, then go back to my normal eating and the scale will also return to normal. I don't have an all or nothing, obsessive reaction to it. Chocolate - or whatever it may be - will ALWAYS be there. It's not going to disappear off the face of the earth tomorrow so I don't have to eat myself sick - or even have a small nibble - today. If it doesn't fit in to my plan today, for whatever reason, I CAN WAIT to have it. The cravings no longer control me. Don't get me wrong. I was MORE THAN READY to adopt this lifestyle when I did. I WANTED to be successful this time. I fell victim to the 1-2 weeks on a plan in the past and I was so over that. Six months ago I wasn't ready. I wasn't committed. I didn't desire it enough to make drastic changes and stick with them. While cookies, breads, donut, have NEVER tempted me to the point of having to have them, I loved my pasta, ice cream and wine. They were my vices and I wasn't ready or willing to give them up. HOWEVER my way wasn't working any more. It had taken me 5 + years to get from 198 to 172 and I'd been stuck in the 170s for 3 years! I was SO SICK of being fat! So sick of not making progress. So sick of busting my @$$ to lose a few pounds, only to have it all come back as soon as I relaxed a little. Eating my way, which swings between Paleo, Primal and Atkins, works for me! I'm committed to it. I don't feel cheated or ruled by it. I feel healthier - not skinnier - HEALTHIER! when I stay on my plan. Yesterday I had an AMAZINGLY successful ST session. I'm SORE today! I haven't been this sore in a few weeks! Wanna know what I craved afterwards? Cuz, yes, I was hungry! I craved rotisserie chicken! I had to wait 30 minutes to pick up my son so I went to the store, grabbed a chicken and ate HALF of it in the car! That was at 3PM. I wasn't hungry the rest of the day. Protein feeds my muscles and fills me up with very few calories or carbs! Later on, I forced myself to eat my way to 1000 calories by 7PM, to eat my way to 75 g protein, my personal numbers based on my weight and fitness level, but my carbs were still low. Roughly 30 for the day. For me it's all about making the choices I know are smart for me. Eating the foods that will satisfy my nutritional needs and my hunger without blowing the progress I've made so far. Like I said, six months ago I didn't want it bad enough to commit to the process. Now I do! And seeing that first 8 pounds - water weight or not - come off in the first week gave me the encouragement and the proof I needed that this was right for me and that I was finally ready and had found a way of eating that I could stick to. For the long haul! I don't feel deprived because I'm not depriving myself. If I want a treat, I have a SMALL and satisfying one, and I accept the fact that I now have ground to make up. The difference now is I know eating my way will fix the damage within 48 hours and I'm back on track to losing more. I know some people find my plan and my belief in my plan offensive but ya know what? I can't care about that. That's not about me. That's about them. I don't have to deal with it or explain myself. I just have to be true to ME and keep doing what's working FOR ME! And the results I've been seeing on the scale for the past six weeks are all I need to convince me that I'm on the right path for ME! I believe that any plan will work for a while IF you work it! The key is finding a plan you can live with and then sticking to it! Make the commitment! Day in and day out. If you're going to go off plan, make it a conscious decision and have a plan to stay in control. Decide what your splurge will be, right down to the quantity. Accept that and stick to it, then be ready to work on damage control. Be ready to pay the piper, so to speak. Then get right back on track. It's not the treats that hurt our progress. It's the lack of planning and consciousness and the resulting binges that do the damage. The mindlessness that is so unnecessary. Easy? No! Mindlessness is easy. Consciousness requires effort and planning but as human beings we are more than capable of consciousness. So find a plan you can live with and stay focused on your goal. Believe in yourself! You, too, can do this! Many have before and many more will continue to do so. Do it FOR YOU! No one else matters!
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    I like your thinking, your perspective on fitness/nutrition lifestyle is like mine, what I do works for me and it can get frustrating when folks question my choices but it doesn't stand in my way. emoticon
    2521 days ago

    Comment edited on: 11/4/2013 2:25:44 PM
    All I can say is A-FREAKING-MEN!
    2522 days ago
    Be happy! You are doing great!
    2522 days ago
    How you choose to live your life and walk your journey is absolutely YOUR choices and decisions. No one else. Taking the label off helps a bit because Paleo/Primal etc. all do come with baggage. The proof is in your success. You found your lifestyle for your journey and it's working! WTG!
    2522 days ago
    Do what works for you! Changing our life habits and losing weight are a personal journey for each of us.

    Kudos to you for being strong and independent enough to do it your way, no matter what others may say.


    2522 days ago
    I have tremendous admiration for you. It is easy to give in and listen to others and to question yourself. But you have made me realize two things. First there is no one plan that will work for everyone. Find yours and stick with it Second it takes a total commitment and YEAH !!!!!! for you You are a great motivator. Keep up the good work!!!!
    2523 days ago
    Thank you! I think you have done a marvelous job and I am very grateful for your support and also filled with admiration for all you have accomplished!

    2523 days ago
    "The key is finding a plan you can live with and then sticking to it!" This is the core of it all, I believe. As long as you're not hurting yourself or anyone else, you only have yourself to answer to.

    2524 days ago
    No it isn't necessary to defend your way of eating. If they need to put you down with what works for you, they aren't worth it. Do what is best for you and let everyone else do it their way. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

    2524 days ago
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