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Saturday, October 19, 2013

I am working about 3 12hour shifts a week, so that is good. But the pain that comes with it is terrible, causing insomnia and losing my ability to stay away from ice cream (It is a comfort food). I guess I should try to find another activity that comforts against the pain. If this keeps up I will have to spend the money and go to Urgicare. I was not driven to consoling junk food when I was not working so much. Will it is good to gain an insight into what is causing the problem.

Incidentally, I got permission form to share and article with you that I think is great about mistakes and failure. Enjoy. Cheers, Keith

5 Steps to Making Failure Your Friend

By Unstuck | October 11, 2013

Failure is not what gets us stuck.

We get stuck when we allow ourselves to believe that failure diminishes us as people, that successful human beings donÕt fail. We get stuck when we listen to that inner critic who says, youÕre not good enough if we miss the right answer or a desired goal.

But everybody fails. The secret is that the most successful people arenÕt afraid of failing because they donÕt waste their mistakes. When they mess up like the rest of us, they become failure detectives, taking care to analyze what didnÕt go right and to learn from it.

Abraham Lincoln failed in business twice, lost eight elections, and suffered a nervous breakdown before he became the 16th American president. Walt Disney went bankrupt with his first animation studio, lost money on three of his first five feature films, and, at his lowest point, didnÕt make his rent. Similarly, Stephen KingÕs first novel Carrie was rejected 30 times before it became the bestselling modern horror classic it is today.

Want to ÒfailÓ like Abe or Walt or Stephen? LetÕs talk about how.

HereÕs whatÕs useful about failure:
¥ it reveals information about where we need more focus or information, and
¥ it makes us sharper by exposing overconfidence and complacency (two attitudes that get in the way of success).

The bottom line is that failing deepens our understanding of how it all works Ñ including ourselves. That is active learning.

Actively learning from failure means we develop competence that can transfer to other problems in other times and places.

The Museum of Failed Products is a perfect example. Each week, two or three teams of failure detectives visit a large warehouse outside of Ann Arbor. These product designers and brand executives pay a $5000 fee to museum owner GfK Consulting for the privilege of examining a library of 120,000 mostly discontinued supermarket and household goods. Some failed because of their packaging (Maalox Whip, for instance, which dispensed antacid as a dollop from a whipped cream can). Others because of their names (ClairolÕs A Touch of Yogurt shampoo stands out, as does PepsiÕs Cucumber Ice Cola). Many simply didnÕt work, or the designers failed to look at a larger context.

Such was the case when Planters introduced bricks of vacuum-packed peanuts to the marketplace. It seemed brilliantly logical: vacuum sealing = freshness. Who doesnÕt want freshness? But the peanut bricks looked too similar to coffee bricks. Supermarket employees stocked the peanuts in the coffee aisle; consumers assumed they were buying coffee; and then Planters had to field calls from irate customers requesting compensation for ruined coffee grinders.

1. Own it. Failure is a powerful instructor Ñ when we let it. If our knee jerk reaction to making a mistake is to play the blame-game, to rail that the world is against us, that bad luck follows us like a rain cloud, we need to hit pause, take a breath, and let go of the anger, guilt, fear, or shame. This will make room for us to examine our own actions and behaviors so we can ultimately produce the results we want.

2. Ask and answer objectively. This is as much about finding the good in the mistake as the cause of it. To help you get at the big takeaways, nitty gritty, and human element of what happened, use our checklist list of questions.

¥ To print, download this Failure Analysis Checklist.

¥ To pin, download this Failure Analysis Checklist.

3. List lessons and changes to make. Most likely, as you answer the checklist questions, ideas will spring to mind about how and why to do things differently. Jot them down as you think of them. Then step away from this process for a day or two before you review your answers again to see if more solutions occur to you.

4. Name the opportunity. ItÕs possible that your discoveries will lead you to a new or revised goal. It did for the makers of Play-Doh, which was initially sold as wallpaper cleaner. And for Pfizer, when it discovered that the side effects of a not-so-effective blood pressure medicine could be parlayed into the drug Viagra.

5. Get feedback. Share your answers and lesson list with someone you trust and admire. For just about any situation, getting feedback from a valued source brings a fresh perspective and insights that will enhance your approach.

After youÕve been through the process a few times, youÕll probably spot a pattern of behavior that could use some adjusting. For example, if you tend not to ask for help even when you need it, UnstuckÕs ÒCall in the CavalryÓ tool can help you plan and network. Or, if your failure analysis reveals indecision, the ÒPros vs ProsÓ tool will help you make choices using your gut instinct. (You can download the free Unstuck iPad app here.) At the same time, failure analysis will identify when youÕre at your best. And when you know this, you can make smarter choices about how to succeed in the future.

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    good article
    1648 days ago
    Hi Keith, I'm sorry you're suffering as you are. It may be money well spent for you to check out the cause though, and to at least get a little advice or perhaps meds to help you.

    Thank you for posting this unstuck blog. It is very thought-provoking! I'll have to check out the site myself.

    Take care. emoticon
    1648 days ago

    Thanks for sharing!! Success really does come from learning from our mistakes!!

    1648 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/20/2013 8:57:24 AM
    Good thought
    1648 days ago
    Sorry you are hurting physically, KMac, but it sounds like you are thriving emotionally, and that is awesome! Thank you for sharing the helpful post about failure. It was good food for thought!
    1649 days ago
    I like this a lot. Thank you!

    1649 days ago
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