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My Moment!

Saturday, October 19, 2013

I’d like to believe that in this journey of trying to lose weight, as time goes on we all hope to run into that one Girlfriend/Boyfriend/Spouse that just couldn’t accept us for who we were for whatever reason. This past week was ‘MY MOMENT’. Let me explain....

Now as I have mentioned in one or two of my blog posts that I have an Ex-Wife (of which I have a Daughter with and for the purpose of the blog I’m only going to refer to her as My Wife) and a recent Ex-Girlfriend. Well My Wife and I don’t really get along so much but we do our best to be civil to each other. Those days are, (as they come around in the year) My Birthday, Her Birthday, Our Wedding Anniversary, & Our Daughter’s Birthday. Well earlier this week I was out at the market doing shopping with My Daughter when we both noticed My Ex-Girlfriend was trying to follow us (but acting as if she wasn’t following us.) My Daughter pointed it that we had a ‘follower’ (trying to put it as if it was on twitter or something) I told her that I knew and that I noticed it sometime ago. My Daughter asked how was I going to handle it. I told her that it will be dealt with only if it needs to be. Eventually my Ex worked up the nerve to come over and speak to me. We started out simple saying hi to each other and such then she said “You look great, you seemed to have lost a lot of weight.” I told her that I did and that as of this past Sunday I lost just over 160 pounds, Dropped about 4 T-Shirt sizes and can actually wear my Daughter’s Gym Shirts if I ever need too (Not that I would normally, I recently tried with an older Gym Shirt of hers (that way if I tore it, it wouldn’t be any great loss) just to see what shirt size I was and I was able to fit fine in her shirts. (I have went from 6X Shirts to 2X Shirts and still plenty more to lose.) My Ex-Girlfriend was in awe and asked what was I doing that night because she wanted to get together try to work out some of our issues and hope she can start things up between us again. My answer to this was “Really? Well funny you should ask that because tonight is the Ex-Wife’s and my Wedding Anniversary which if you would remember is one of the few nights out of the year we avoid trying to shoot each other (ok, maybe I’m stretching it a bit on the shooting part, but you know what I mean LOL!) and try to be civil to each other for Our Daughter’s sake. So we (referring to My Daughter & Me) are here to shop and look for ideas for dinner tonight for when the wife stops by to visit with Our Daughter.” My Ex-Girlfriend acted as if she was hurt. Then I added “You know, if things wasn’t how it was between us (please refer to my earlier blogs) I would probably offer to visit with you over this coming weekend. But you had a hard time accepting who I was, and probably still have a hard time accepting me because deep down I’m still who I was back when we were dating, just 160 pounds lighter is all. Plus don’t even get me started about all of your cheating issues.” It was as if I gave her some sort of crushing blow or something as I said good bye to her and walked away My Daughter had to put her 2 cents in and said “You know I don’t like my Mom. But I would rather see My Dad work things out with My Mom than have him deal with you again, I hope that gives you an idea of how I feel about things.” of course I had to speak to My Daughter about her comment and that personally I think she should have stayed out of it. But she has always had an issue of staying out of things that involves people she cares about.

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    I like the expression of.." Don't spend your time looking for the perfect woman.. do your best at being the perfect man!"

    I loved your daughters reply. It's so refreshing that your daughter stood up for herself AND for her Dad!
    1639 days ago
    Well done
    1644 days ago
    That was a good read - I will have to browse your other blogs.

    1644 days ago
  • PATTYR81
    emoticon emoticon emoticon on your weight loss!!!! emoticon

    and I LOVE how you had the courage to nicely, but firmly call out your xgf's bad behavior! emoticon

    I'm working on having the self esteem enough to do that instead of 'eating' all their b.s. emoticon


    PS: I also like to try on my dd's shirts to see if they fit yet. Someone remarked that I was weird to do that, but to me, it's a REAL accomplishment and a measure of how 'normal' I look now. My dd's are all college athletes on athletic scholarships and are MY role models :) Even tho my body is 103 lbs smaller, my mind still looks for the 'rest' of me emoticon
    1646 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/21/2013 9:58:36 AM
    1646 days ago
    You are looking GOOD! And winning on all levels.
    Well done!
    You deserve someone amazing. Hope you find her soon.
    1647 days ago
    Far Freaking Out on the weight loss! As you keep peeling away the layers your self esteem will keep growing and you will know deep in your gut you deserve a good woman. Have a awesome weekend!
    1648 days ago
  • JIBBIE49
    I love that you are down 160#. That is fantastic. I'm a person who believes in being single and doing for yourself, since I made the mistake of staying in a marriage for these past 45 years. Not smart. The world is full of people and statistics say that we have six "Soulmates" out in the world, but you just have to keep looking until you find one of them.
    1648 days ago
    I say good for your daughter! She obviously knows you deserve better.
    1648 days ago
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