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Triumphs and Loneliness

Wednesday, October 16, 2013

Sometimes I think that both triumphs and loneliness go hand-in-hand. They can both cause havoc on one another.

Last week my doctor told me i needed to stop my training for the 3 Day event until my foot heals. I could have easily taken it as an opportunity to just stop all fitness and veg out on the couch. BUT it worried me because i did not want to lose momentum and/or gain weight. So i asked if I could do other things. I can basically do anything that will not cause me to apply constant direct pressure on my foot or cause friction.

So i changed up my plans and hit the gym, started lifting weights and even threw in some kettlebell work - btw, i forgot how much working with the kettlebells actually works your legs..OUCH!

The result? I've lost another 3lbs this week. I'm now down to 256lbs (In an earlier blog i typed that i was at 258...i should double check my numbers, i was at 259lbs.).

Here's the thing...

The holidays are right around the corner. For a single woman, living 900+ miles away from any gets tough. REALLY tough. Most of my closest friends here will either be traveling out of state to see family or they are attending the holidays with their significant others. The writings on the wall this's just me this year. And it sucks. But i need to devise a plan to just keep my head in the game i guess.

Loneliness can destroy all of the hard work i've placed into myself over the last month and moving forward. It's not something that i haven't had to deal with before...loneliness is a major issue with me and always has been an issue. Don't get me wrong, i have a lot of friends, but...they aren't the "lets just hang out and do nothing" type of friends.

Lately i've been hitting the gym or working out multiple times a day (before and after work). Why? Because it keeps my mind off the fact that i'm lonely. I don't want to just be at home by myself. Feeling alone sucks...and it can be crippling.

Don't get me wrong, I'd rather be alone and lonely than with someone that doesn't care about me. I was ina marriage for almost 10yrs where that was the case. I was MORE lonely while i was married than any other time in my life.

Why am i writing this? Because i need to be accountable to myself and being able to go back and read it allows for that to take place.

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    I know how that feels: the loneliness. Just being around people, but not quite feeling that they're really there. I dunno how to explain it.

    We're here for you, even if not physically, these comments remind you that somewhere all over the world are fellow sparkers who are perhaps suffering from loneliness, even though we are supporting each other through this online community.

    Hope this makes sense.


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    2013 days ago
    I'm so glad you shared. Very inspirational. I'd have probably taken the easy way out and not worked out at all. Great job on your accomplishments!!
    2013 days ago
    hi vicky love your first two replies have given the advice i was going to give.another option is booking a singles holiday or a last minute holiday that way it is get to see another place and meet other single people in the same potition.a friend of mine used to do it all the time. you can treat yourself to a week in a wellness farm.or look at the jobcentre if you have holidays from work alot of people who have nannies for their kids are looking for tempory nannies while their normal nannies go home for are around other people,kept busy ,get to see the kids excited faces on christmas day and earn some can go visiting people in hospital,old peoples homes(some have families that lkive away or they are on their own this time)or even people in prision who are also lonely this time.visit childrens homes etc.the options are plenty.i think you are doing great and i know what ou mean about sometimes being more lonely around other people than when you are 1st marriage left alot to be your church planning something special over the christmas holidays?i just rememberered going once orange picking in spain around christmas time when i was alone.just look to see what is available. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2013 days ago
    Awww huge hugs.

    How about on those holidays that you know are an issue you offer your time at a homeless shelter? You'll be surrounded by people, doing a good deed and I'm sure you won't feel as lonely emoticon

    You'll have to remind yourself of the hard work you've done. Do NOT let the holidays pack on the pounds.
    2013 days ago
  • GRACE1054
    Congratulations on your weight loss and for finding a way to stay active while your foot heals.
    I don't know where you live and maybe this isn't available in your area, but have you heard of You can go online and find groups in your area that "meet up" to share interests and activities. It's NOT a dating group. It's for people who are looking to do different things but don't have anyone to do it with. It might be worth looking into for the holidays and beyond because there are many people who live far from family.
    2013 days ago
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