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I can't be your lifeline!

Tuesday, October 08, 2013

So despite the bad bird biting my face, I love my neighbors. I love the fact that they are more than awesome about letting me borrow a car/truck whenever I need to to run errands while we are waiting for mine to be fixed. I love the fact that they let me grocery shop their pantry rather than running out to the store since I knew they had what I needed in there. I love that they are genuinely NICE people. What I don't love is the fact that they ask me to come over or go somewhere with them every day and when I do they feed it was pizza and omelettes....I don't want to be rude and say NO, but at the same time they know I am working my tail off at night making sure to work out and when they push food I have to work twice as hard. I know that the wife has no other friends and I don't know why because she really is a wonderful person, but she is admittedly post gastric-bypass and has put all the weight back on and eats like crap plus barely moves. Now granted she just had knee surgery, but she didn't move before that. And I know it's on me to make better food choices despite what they offer but I don't want to be rude either. I need to take a break from the neighbors but I don't want them to think I am not grateful or that I am just being nice to borrow a car. That is not who I am at all...they have hinted about loaning us money to buy a car and I've let them know that's not who I am either...I have to do it on my own or I can't deal with it. I guess it comes from my dad always buying us when we were kids...I don't take things well now. I know, another of my issues I need to work through, and I do let them cook for me or buy me lunch from time to time but I also cook for them and bring them lunch too. I love the heck out of them and I CANNOT let their eating habits become my eating habits.
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    oooh yeah, that is tough emoticon
    1713 days ago
    Oh, this is a tough situation. I think your last sentence summed it up nicely: I love the heck out of them and I CANNOT let their eating habits become my eating habits.

    The question is how to do that gracefully, without hurting their feelings, but without harming yourself in the process. Good luck! emoticon
    1715 days ago
    I get it. You don't want to alienate them but you want them to support you in a way that is healthy for you. So kindly and gently let them know. Also, if you do indeed do that realize they will take it the way they take it and you need to accept their reaction. You are not to blame.
    1715 days ago
  • K1TT3N
    I know a few people like this and it is hard to draw the lines.
    1716 days ago
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