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Wednesday, October 02, 2013

I couldn't decide on a title to my blog so it is nameless

Today was a fair to midline day. My mother is having a rough week so therefore I am having a rough week. She is confused about her location. Often times not knowing where she is.
She has taken to sleeping in the chair at the kitchen table and can't be convinced to get into bed. I talked to her about it tonight and asked as a favor to me that she gets undressed and into bed. She is starting to have knee issues because her legs are always bent (my opinion).
I think the time has come for me to start looking into a nursing home for her. There's one in my town that has a very high rating in MA so I'm going to start there. I know it will be hard on all of us but will be the best thing in the long run.

Today I had a training session and really had to push myself to go. I was on the verge of tears all morning and wanted to hid at my desk. I did go to the gym though and had an awesome shoulder and arms workout. My trainer dropped some news on me.
My company recently acquired another company and she was going there to run the fitness program. I mentioned my own despair and then pulled myself together and asked why she took it. It's a promotion for her so I can't blame her. I mentioned that I could switch to another one of the trainers and she said that she could still stop at my building for our training session and get to the other building on time. I will verify that this is what she wants to do on Monday - I don't want her doing it because of my whining. emoticon

The rest of the day was uneventful. I went out in the afternoon and walked down the street to the bank. We are having summer weather here in MA and I didn't want to miss it. I hope tomorrow is a better day.

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    Treasure those good days.

    Good luck with the Mom and with your trainer issues.
    1723 days ago
    Sometimes I have no idea what to name my blogs either!

    It sounds like it's really time for your mom to be where someone can watch her 24/7. That's really what it takes at some point with dementia. I'm sorry that you are having to face that now. It's tough when you know the move will be hard for your mom even though it's what she needs for her own safety. My dad didn't like it when he couldn't go back to my parent's house in the daytime the last few months of his life, and had to stay with us round the clock, but my mom really couldn't physically care for him. It just wasn't safe for either of them.

    Dementia is a horrible disease. I think you deserved to whine a little bit about your trainer changing jobs. She has done a lot for you. I'm glad you have been doing something like the training sessions to care for yourself as you also work and care for your mom.

    1725 days ago
    hugs tough times are hard
    1725 days ago
    1726 days ago
    What a tough time!!! I can relate, and I will continue to think of you. emoticon
    1726 days ago
    She had a good night last night. Got into PJs and into bed. Seemed "good" this morning. I hope we are on an upward trend.
    1726 days ago
    I'm sorry. It's so hard watching them decline, and for you as the caregiver especially. I hope the place near you can take her so that you will at least be able to visit often.
    1726 days ago
    I'm so sorry. The nursing home stage is not easy. Be prepared that you will get calls from there to take her home. Also, she could be very belligerent with the staff. That's what we went through. But, it was also the best thing for my mom. It will be for yours too. You can't do all this yourself. Remember, we are hear to listen emoticon
    1726 days ago
  • _VALEO_
    No wonder that you are so emotional, that's quite a stressful time for you on several fronts.

    Hope the weekend will be calm and relaxing! emoticon
    1726 days ago
  • BEWELL48
    Hope you can find suitable placement for your mother. It is difficult for both of you!
    1726 days ago
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