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Minor Hurdles = Major Victories

Tuesday, October 01, 2013

When you set your goal wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy far in the future, sometimes you realize that you can't see the forest through the trees.

When you have a major goal, you set out thinking, "This is it. This is the time. I will be victorious. I shall not stumble."

Then you come across that first road block. It's this first road block that really gets to you. You're cruising along and then BAMM!! Hopefully, you gave yourself enough following distance to decide how to react.

I can tell you right now that whenever I have begun a 'program', that first roadblock is debilitating. It knocks me right on my butt. EVERY TIME. I find myself sitting there, contemplating if I should even continue. Knowing that all my past experiences have led to failure. Knowing that all my past experiences led to 265 pounds.

I'm not really sure why this time is different. I'm not sure why I am trying so much harder and am so much more determined. I'm not sure why. I just know that I am.

These roadblocks may or may not get easier to avert on your journey. I find myself on this stoppable roll. Then the weekend comes, or an event, or a matter of convenience.

I was doing great at the end of last week. I finally squeezed my booty into my bridesmaid. Then I spent time with 'A' and his family. Carne asade for lunch. Zero healthy options. I grabbed a dinner roll. I was criticized and made the center of attention. I caved. I ate too much just so they would stop commenting on how I was eating 'like a bird'. I gained three pounds that day.

I don't know if that dress would fit if I try it on now. It was a tight squeeze Sunday morning, LoL. Back on track, starting now. I may bring my own meals and snacks next weekend. This dress must fit.

I will eat based on my needs, not theirs.

Family can be a road block. Try to remember that they mean you no harm. They think (at least in my case) that if you're not participating, you're not having a good time.

Road blocks are road blocks are road blocks. You have to find a way to maneuver around them. Don't remain stuck. Don't turn around.





You can do it. I believe in you.

I believe in you because I believe in me. I believed in me when no one else did. So I know you can do this, too.
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    1644 days ago
    I felt like you were describing me. Thanks for posting. It's is very helpful! emoticon
    1661 days ago
    So true! We must believe in ourselves and keep going! There are always going to be roadblocks... keep strong and keep believing! Love your words and wisdom! You will look fantastic and feel it! Looking forward to pics!
    My bro wedding is postponed was supposed to be this weekend, but still want to be ready to wear it. I will wear it to my Christmas party in Dec. Get back on track I must..
    Go girl you will do it!:)
    1662 days ago
  • GEORGE815
    Thanks for the vote of confidence!
    1662 days ago
    Family can definitely be a roadblock. Misery loves company. My mom lost 30 lbs. over this past year but she is slowly putting it back on. She blames it on my Aunt (her sister) My aunt has been struggling with cancer for the last 5 years. She is now in remission. But instead of changing her eating habits, she's vowed to live life to the fullest. (no pun intended) She is always dragging my mom (who is weak) out to eat with her. Chinese, Italian and Mexican restaurants are not good places to go when you are trying to keep weight off. So my aunt and my mom pig out at the restaurant and then my aunt will stop at a dairy queen for ice cream. I wish my mom would just say no to her, but I know she won't. Meanwhile, my dad loves to eat out too. He's a tiny thing. 150 lbs. Once again my mom is out to eat with him now. Like 5 days a week! So she has 2 saboteurs. Never thought I'd say this, but I'm glad they don't live close by. They'd be trying to bring me down too!
    1663 days ago
    It's so easy to cave when others are criticizing your healthy eating habits. Stay strong! It sounds like you have a good attitude and have picked yourself back up and are back on your healthy way.
    1666 days ago
    You can't listen to other people. When I started losing so many people said I was getting too thin. Follow your own drummer and smile.
    1667 days ago
    I sure needed this! Thank you!!
    1667 days ago
    Great blog!! You can do this!
    1667 days ago
    You got this!!!!!
    1667 days ago
    YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!!!
    1667 days ago
  • RUDITUDI2000
    This is so true! Just stay your course girlie! You will be rockin that dress! emoticon
    1667 days ago
    Those road blocks can be real killers! You got around it and have a plan for next time. Plus you wrote this blog and you got back on track. Sounds like you are a winner to me emoticon

    Next time just strike back with comment like "Tweet, Tweet, Tweet" when they tease you about eating like a bird. Or you could just tell them " No thanks. I'm actually a closet eater and if I have too much to eat now I won't fit in the closet!" - LOL. Hope you think this is as funny as I did when I wrote it. emoticon
    1667 days ago
  • KARYN_
    Eating with my family can be really tough too. My father is an excellent cook and is proud to be able to put delicious food on the table. But it doesn't exactly qualify as "low-cal" and my mother tries to pressure everyone at the table to eat every last bite so she doesn't have leftovers.

    I've learned to budget extra calories for family dinners, exercise during the day to add 200 more calories to my goal, eat everything in reasonable portions, and to stand up to mom when she starts on her "there's just a bit left, here.. finish it..." routine. Sometimes that means I bring home the leftovers and use them for lunches later that week, which is totally fine. Family dinners are much less stressful now that I've worked out how to handle the hurdles.

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    1667 days ago
    So many gems of wisdom in this post. Thanks for the reminders.
    1667 days ago
    You can do it. Try to block out their voices. It is hard but something that is hard to get to is worth the struggle. emoticon
    1667 days ago
    Oh the pressure of family gathering and eating. My best escape was getting my braces on a week before Christmas. I actually lost 10 pounds the two weeks surrounding Christmas and no one questioned my reason. emoticon
    1667 days ago
  • LADYJ6942
    Yes you can and you are so right about the road block. However when you find that feel good you fight for it vs giving up.

    I feel good and I fight for it because I didn't like how I looked or felt at 290 but I'm loving how I look and feel at 223 and looking forward to lower weights.

    Go get'em
    1667 days ago
    Awesome words of wisdom and so true. My family can be my biggest road block sometimes, and friends as well. They think they are just joking and that no harm no foul. But they don't realize how hard we fought just to get where we are and that the smallest joke has a huge impact to our inner chubby self.
    1667 days ago
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