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Blankety-blank day

Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Today was a blankety-blank day. You can use your imagination to fill in the blanks.
Started out okay took my mother for some lab work. Brought her home and left from my house. Returned an hour and a half later to accusations and nasty remarks. Old illusion of not being in her own house and my fault that she's at this other place.

I called the doctor to ask for a sample to make sure she didn't have a UTI.
Called my aunt for reinforcements as my mother grabbed for me a couple times. Glad I'm in such good shape so that I could avoid her attempts.

By 3 o'clock she was back to her normal and the caregiver arrived. Went home and return to work totally spent.

It is days like this when I wonder how much longer I can do this. My day and my stomach was totally turned upside down. When she has these Delerium there's nothing you can do no way to talk her out of it because she doesn't believe anything that you say. She can't process what you say because her reality is not reality .

Now my soapbox:
I heard a report that when the baby boomers are in their 80s that one in two have some form of dementia. This is a pandemic and I don't understand why our government does not spend more money on research to find a cure never mind the reason it happens.
I hope I am spared this indignity.

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  • _VALEO_
    Really sorry that you had to go through that. emoticon
    1700 days ago
    Amen to putting an end to dementia.

    Since being diagnosed with cancer, I've been thinking that cancer and dementia both may have a common source in many cases.....the source being the contant insult against our bodies by all kinds of chemical toxins, gmo foods, and the like that the modern world has introduced to the environment. I'm hopin we have a cure for cancer in the next 5 to 10 years and a cure (or a way to prevent) most forms of dementia in the next 10 to 15 years.
    1700 days ago
    Wow, do I empathize with you. I remember going through that with my mother last year. She would say the craziest things that made no sense and get so mad when you argued with her. She did try to attack her caregiver a few times. It is definitely not easy emoticon
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  • KACAR51
    I am sorry about your Mom. I know it has to be really hard for you! I would be so, upset even though I know it is not her fault. I am glad she has a caregiver! Hope you have a better day today! emoticon emoticon
    1700 days ago
    I hear you so much!!! My father was intolerable in his last days of Alzheimer's (and he wasn't even living at home). He was so abusive to my mother. It was really sad.

    My mother, fortunately, is still relatively pleasant, but she has gotten so weird that I have a hard time being around her.

    1701 days ago
    It is difficult to understand why some of our loved ones are dealt these terrible diseases. One thing is clear she raised a wonderful, caring daughter who is doing her best in a very sad and very difficult situation.

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    1701 days ago
    My best advice is to realize that sometimes there is a stranger living in your mother's body. Don't take it personally, she is not herself. My mother was very little and could not really hurt me physically, but when she was not in her right mind, she would do things and say things that she would never have done or said and I remember how upset I would get. A friend advised me to just think of it as my mother was not there today and a stranger was there instead. It helped to know that it was just a stranger saying the hurtful things.
    Yes, dementia is really scary and not something anyone would ever want. I hope they find a cure soon. I am in the age bracket where some of my friends and relatives have been diagnosed with it or Alzheimer's.

    1701 days ago
    I know exactly what you are going through. emoticon
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    1701 days ago
    My mother had the beginning of dementia .... She died of a stroke, but both my sister and I are somewhat forgetful but in 30 years when I'm in my 80 's they should be further along in curing or curbing this disease. Sorry your day was so rough. emoticon emoticon you need them double today.
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    1701 days ago
    I hope it gets better.
    1701 days ago
    Because they want to get old people out of the way. Outrageous.
    1701 days ago
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