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Friday, September 20, 2013

My brother got through the graveside service, but I'm sure it was hard. I was unable to go because I still can't fly or even go on a long road trip (8 hours in this case.) My daughter and her husband did go, and they said it was very meaningful. Since my brother and his family had moved from the town where the cemetery is, they really didn't have a place for meeting friends and family. The bank there knew my brother well and the president opened up a room and had a nice reception there.

There's something that makes a funeral or memorial service an important event to have. We banter around the word "closure" but since I couldn't go, I feel very much like something is unfinished. That's what closure is all about. A dear friend of our family died several years ago, and we hadn't seen her in a few years because she moved to Oregon from Texas. When my mother told me of her death, I was momentarily shocked and then life just went on. She had gone from my life so long ago, I just couldn't feel the grief that I might have if I could have seen her more often. Yet, I still thought the world of her.

Your comments have helped me a lot in getting through this. My brother is 17 years older than I am, and as soon as he graduated from law school, he married. It seems that my sister-in-law has been in my life forever, and now she's gone. We weren't really close, but she was part of the tapestry that made up our family.

Tomorrow, I'm going to make a scrapbook page with a lovely picture of her. Maybe when I get it finished, I will feel whole again. I'm hoping so.
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  • BLONDEE53
    That will help. I started one the very night of my Mother's death. I had a three ring binder, with a quilted cover and the initial B on it, and filled with those plastic sheet protectors...that I'd given her, and she never used.
    I sat in the middle of her bed, that night, crying and laughing, as I went thru the pictures and cards ...many I'd sent her thru the years and she'd kept. The memories those all brought back for me! I called it my treasure book...as the memories I have stored there, are treasures to me.
    I put pictures on card stock, both sides, to slide in there and it worked beautifully.

    I pray for comfort, healing, peace and strength for you, your brother and all who knew and loved your sister-in-law.
    Love and hugs~
    Bren
    2785 days ago
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    emoticon Thinking of you all at this sad time
    2786 days ago
  • ANNIE924
    Sorry for you loss. Your idea of a scrap book page sounds lovely.
    2786 days ago
  • NANCYPAT1
    Sorry for the loss - prayers going up for you and your family.
    2786 days ago
  • DJ4HEALTH
    It will take time and let the grief come and remember her. I know it is hard when you lose a loved one. I do know how your brother feels because I lost my husband in February and I still have a hard time with it and the seasons will be even harder too. Just remember to call him and if he can also have him for the holidays too.
    2786 days ago
  • ERIECANALGAL
    Sorry for your loss! Deaths are always hard!
    {{{HUGS}}}
    Dottee
    2786 days ago
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