Many thanks for the comfort of your friendship.
Friday, September 20, 2013
My brother got through the graveside service, but I'm sure it was hard. I was unable to go because I still can't fly or even go on a long road trip (8 hours in this case.) My daughter and her husband did go, and they said it was very meaningful. Since my brother and his family had moved from the town where the cemetery is, they really didn't have a place for meeting friends and family. The bank there knew my brother well and the president opened up a room and had a nice reception there.
There's something that makes a funeral or memorial service an important event to have. We banter around the word "closure" but since I couldn't go, I feel very much like something is unfinished. That's what closure is all about. A dear friend of our family died several years ago, and we hadn't seen her in a few years because she moved to Oregon from Texas. When my mother told me of her death, I was momentarily shocked and then life just went on. She had gone from my life so long ago, I just couldn't feel the grief that I might have if I could have seen her more often. Yet, I still thought the world of her.
Your comments have helped me a lot in getting through this. My brother is 17 years older than I am, and as soon as he graduated from law school, he married. It seems that my sister-in-law has been in my life forever, and now she's gone. We weren't really close, but she was part of the tapestry that made up our family.
Tomorrow, I'm going to make a scrapbook page with a lovely picture of her. Maybe when I get it finished, I will feel whole again. I'm hoping so.