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Love the bright sunny morning here in Ajijic!

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Yep, it's a great morning here with the sun shinning and about 75 degrees. So nice to be back to our normal weather. It was nice though to get the rain as the lake really needed it. I am proud of myself though for I donned my raincoat with hood and got out to walk the doggies their 4 miles even though it was's just a little water after all. I wanted to make an excuse that it was raining so I could stay home but the doggies reminded me that they still wanted to off we went. My hair still got wet but now that I am wearing it problem.

So FIL is still on the catheter. I am really not happy about that and want to get to the bottom of it and see if it can't be removed. Once it is removed he will be more mobile and I think he can be more independent. I don't want to sound like a hard nosed person but I am worried that he is getting to dependent on the 24 hour nursing care and they help they are providing him. They are so sweet and nice and help him dress and everything. I spoke to the head nurse yesterday and told her that he needs to be more independent and they need to let him do things for himself and only step in when absolutely necessary. I am worried that he is liking the attention too much. It's so important that he starts doing as much for himself as he can. He has the surgeon's clearance so he is supposed to be walking and exercising and such. So yesterday I talked to him and told him that he needs to work harder even though I know it's hard, but he needs to work those muscles that haven't been worked much. He seemed to take it okay and said he would try. I told him he needs to tell the nurses to let him try to do it himself.

Thanks for listening...sorry for the rant. I just believe one has to push themselves somewhat to get stronger and better.

I hope everyone is having a great day. Make it a good one.
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  • _LINDA
    In recovery, getting the exercise is critical. The is nothing more painful then bringing your knee back after a replacement. Its so painful, a lot of people give up and have to be put into a machine to help them bend their knee. I sure wasn't going to do that when I saw how it looked and faithfully performed my exercises until I got my range of motion back. It took three months before the pain finally subsided, but it sure was worth it to get my mobility back. You can't push someone hard enough in the early stages because it will be worse to come back later..
    1736 days ago
    Glad the sun is back Sallie, sounds like perfect weather! I agree with the others about your FIL , he should be more independent, once they depend on others to do everything for them it's all down hill from there, Good luck. emoticon emoticon
    1737 days ago
    One question Are they young? That will tell you why he is letting them do stuff for him.
    1737 days ago
    You're absolutely right!!! FIL does need to do more himself. We went through the same thing with my mom. Enjoy the nice weather and have a great day!!!!
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    1737 days ago
    Enjoy your good weather days! And those walks in the rain are special in their own way. I'm sure you are right about your FIL. No sense in him losing independence. You were brave and smart to talk to him. Hope he understands and follow through. Take care, Sallie
    1737 days ago
    We are going through a similar issue with my mom, but my dad is the one who is doing everything for her. Tonight he even picked up her arms to put them into her nightgown. SHE CAN DO THAT HERSELF but LETS him do it. UGH!!!!!!!! I'm going to have a talk with her tomorrow while my dad goes to the dr.

    Glad your day is sunny! Ours was beautiful too!
    1737 days ago
    What nice weather you are having. The sun came out here today and supposed to be high 70s tomorrow.

    You are so right about FIL needing to take more control. Nice that he has you to help remind him. The more he can do on his own, the sooner he will be able to get out of the house.
    1737 days ago
    You're right. He does need to get moving within the guidelines of the surgeon. I always worry about bladder infections with catheters that are in a long time. Hope you get the message through!

    Happy to hear your weather has brightened up. Unlike your weather, my son just called from Alaska -- it is snowing! ARGH!!

    1738 days ago
  • SKATER787
    Thanks to the dogs. And yes, kick the old man's butt. :)
    1738 days ago
    You are right Sallie...your FIL needs to begin doing for himself and start exercising. My Hubby's step mom did not do as she was told by the docs after surgery and she never recovered as she should. She should be walking independently and is still using a walker because she would not do the exercises prescribed by her doc. He advised there is nothing he can do as she failed on her part. Get him moving, He needs that independent feeling again
    1738 days ago
    I agree with the other posters, my MIL hurt her arm and started using a stick. Well her arm got better but she never regained her balance enough to release the stick. It is because she enjoyed the attention and solicitous care, and also from the fear and loss of proprioception. From being active and independent she turned into a little old lady and I am sure it has shortened her life.
    Can you get a PT for FIL so he still has the attention but it is around strength and mobility? And might you or DH, or his carers, do a daily SP chair workout with him for a little while? Once the blood is moving, nature will surely take over.
    1738 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/18/2013 3:00:15 PM
    I think you are wise to force the issue a bit and foster his independence at this critical time.
    1738 days ago
    You're right! Sometimes it takes a few tough and loving words to get a person moving again! Hope your FIL can dispense with the catheter and be more independent soon.

    Glad you're having a sunshiney day!!
    1738 days ago
    You might remind FIL at his age you lose muscle quickly if inactive. I know from experience and it takes a long time to get that muscle back, - if you can.
    1738 days ago
    you are absolutely correct, once my MIL got into a wheelchair, he refused her PT then she ended up too weak to stand or do much of anything for herself, so keep after him to do more every day
    1738 days ago
  • LIS193
    Yeah for sunshine!!
    1738 days ago
  • LIS193
    Glad you have your sunshine back!
    Your FIL is enjoying the care after a difficult period, he may be scared to take the "next step" - it is too easy to stick with the present... A little nudge may be needed.
    1738 days ago
  • KLONG8
    And sometimes you really need to be nudged in the right direction because you don't think you can do something or that you should be doing something yet. He sounds like a guy with a pretty good attitude who needs that extra nudge. Enjoy the beautiful day.
    1738 days ago
    We all love the attention but we have to step back and do things on our own. Hope FIL can make the transition.
    1738 days ago
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