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Your Authentic Self

Monday, September 09, 2013

It goes without saying that if you’re an actor, you’re not usually your authentic self. Duh right? Lately, I’ve been really trying to embrace my authentic self, embrace the REAL MissB8604. Sure, I’ve been reverting back to old ways (i.e., drinking soda, overeating, gossiping) but I think it takes time to kill old habits and a heck of a lot of patience. Instead of focusing on the bad things about myself, I think it’s better (albeit, harder) to focus on the good things. Soda is a rare occurrence, which is great! However, my overeating could use a complete overhaul and my gossiping has been ridiculous lately. When I act on those negative compulsions, what am I trying to accomplish? Am I making those around me better? Am I making myself a better person? NO. In my current show, we’ve had a lot of drama/friction surrounding one particular cast member and I am now to the point where I’m exhausted with it. This person enters a room and the entire mood changes. The room gets heavier, oppressive. They get preferential treatment from the production team, complain about everything and make everyone else walk on eggshells just for them. This person is an EASY target for gossip not only because of how they treat others, but simply because they are who they are. Just like everyone else, I have been playing right into because of past experiences with this person when I promised myself at the beginning of this process that I wouldn’t. I let myself down and I am embarrassed by how I’ve handled things. As far as I know this person isn’t aware of my idiocy, but that still doesn’t make it right.

I just want to be a better person. I want embrace the person I am, love that person. I’m working on accepting my physical faults (i.e., my belly, the discoloration on parts of my body, my lisp) but man is it a long time in coming. Like most people, I have days when I don’t care and days when I just want to crawl in bed and sleep it away. I’ve changed my entire life by loosing 100lbs (despite gaining 25lbs back), but what about the mental part? Where did I go wrong with that? Why am I still doing/saying things I would have said a few years ago? Why can’t I treat others how I want to be treated? Why can’t I keep my diva sized mouth shut? This CANNOT be my authentic self and if it is, I don’t want it to be. I’m not even sure why I’m writing this blog, but so many things have been weighing heavily on my mind that I guess I need to get it out rather than letting it fester.

Just because I’m an actor doesn’t mean I can keep denying my authentic self, the GOOD person I am and strive to be. I shouldn’t have to act to be the person that I feel I can be, I need to accept who I am and if I have traits I don’t particularly like, try to work on them. There’s nothing like knowing a person with traits you don’t like to make you take a hard look at yourself.

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  • BINGO24
    This blog entry makes me think about who I really am. We should all be true to our inner selves. Most of the time, we get distracted by voices telling us who we should be. That is where we get way laid.

    Thank you for posting this. It has opened my eyes to some things in my own personal life. You are an incredible human being and I am so glad that you are my Spark Friend.
    1742 days ago
    emoticon for your blog. You gave me some insight about myself. Keep your head held high. emoticon emoticon
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  • PICKIE98
    Fitting-in behavior can be toxic.. it is always something that you can step away from, like a cowpie, back'er up!! Steer clear of feeling obligated to reply to remarks about the primadonna.. no reply is required and we all have the power to change the subject. So easy to slip in the old ways though, isn't it..seems like certain people trigger me..
    1743 days ago
    Well, it is definitely a good thing to embrace yourself . . . . ALL of you . . . the good and he bad. Because that's how we can begin to change in ways we want to1 You are definitely one to embrace YOU . . . ALL of you! You're an inspiration to others to do the same!

    HUGS to you!
    1743 days ago
  • SUGAR0814
    You've acknowledged your fault. You're working on making it better, so you're on the right track. One day at a time! You got this!! emoticon
    1743 days ago
    Performer or Not.....
    You Miss B are Extraodinary, One in a Million, and the Genuine Article.
    Keep being your fantastic self.
    1743 days ago
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