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I GOT THRU my GD's Bridal shower,,, afterwards?

Monday, September 09, 2013


How did I DO at my GD's shower? DAWGWONDERFUL !!!! It was NOT easy at ALL !!It WOULD OF been, but !!!! Shortly aftah the shower started,,, here's what happened.

There's a "committee" here, they FEEL they RUN the building. Of course we do NOT agree with them.

Jane: "DIANE !!! DID you Reserve the ROOM?" She was LOUD
Diane: "Yes, thru the Landlord , I called them first."
Jane: "That's NOT HOW TO DO IT !! U HAVE to have "THE COMMITTES' PERMISSION !! At the Landlord they have NO IDEA ON WHAT WE ARE DOING " `!!1 With her hands clenced,, and arms flaring around.
Diane: "In the other building we always had to let the Landlord know, they wrote it down in their book."
Diane: " I wasn't aware of this, I first looked on the elevator and the bulletin board to see how to do this".
Diane: "No, just the Landlords".
Diane: "Ok, the next time Ill do that."

She was soo ANGRY !! EVERYONE in the room,,, 25 ish guests,,,, were STOPPING to see what was happening, and it's a HUGE ROOM !! But she was SOOO LOUD !!

After she FINALLY Left,,,, I was shaking, though I did NOT let anyone , but one friend know this. I kept my hands down besides or under my legs. Keep in mind,, she was standing right in front of me,, aggressively as I was in my power chair. I feel she was doing this as a means of "antagonizing " me to getting as angry as she was. I AM NOt that way,, I totally kept my cool. Afterwards, my friend said "Diane, you did VERY WELL with the way she was behaving". " She isn't one of us, you can tell by her behaviors" (We are all of a certain religious association,,, and we do NOT believe in making a situation like this, or a "Show" of losing it as did Jane,,, we are very peaceful on most things. NO ONE is of course perfect.

I was DEEPLY EMBARRASSED by this, and it TOOK AWAY MY JOY of my ONLY GD's Bridal shower, I prob attened, whereas my other GD who I am NOT as close to,,,lives in Co. THis one,, I helped to raise. I can't BELIEVE she felt "entitled" to MARCH ON IN, and make a SPECACLE of herself !

I hardly ate at the shower. I DID KEEP AWAY From ALL JUNK FOOD !! Eating tiny meatballs (2) a few tablespoons of potato salad, a few TBS of cole slaw and somerhin with rotini shells in it,, I think that was a salad also. This was ENOUGH.

HOWEVER !! Later on,, after sleeping for 7 hrs,,,for I was EXHAUSTED an dso OUT of it. When I woke up ,,,,, I DID have a piece of cake,, and 1/8th of a crème horn with a cherry on it. I did NOT want to binge tomorrow for this.

THANKS FOR READING !!! If Jane had NOT of been confrontational , I DO NOT think I would of had the sweets. I am soo UPSET by this.

DO NOT WORRY, I AM writing (have already) to the Landlord, who owns several high rises in the city,,, to let him know of what it was which occurred. I also have a friend who lives in the building,,,,, and also wrote on my behalf since she was at the shower also. Many will if I ask.

THANKS ALL for the understanding. tomororow is ANOtHER DAY !!! I can RESTART again tomorrow.
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    All I can say is WHAT an IDIOT! I HATE obnoxious people...and especially obnoxious LOUD mouths! I'm sure she was just acting out that she had NO friends to invite that would ever need the room in the first place!

    You can't bow down to idiots! I'd tell the landlord about her obnoxious behavior and tell him that you will be filing a civil complaint if it happens again.

    NO one needs loud mouth idiots making a spectacle of themselves at a public function that you GOT permission for in the first place.

    I would have said....well I DID receive permission from the owner of the building and I'd say that trumps your stupid committee...so there! emoticon

    Again...so sorry you had to endure this and you did SO well in remaining calm...I would have taken her down in a head LOCK!...well...maybe! emoticon emoticon
    1708 days ago
    Sounds like you handled it well.
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    Comment edited on: 9/12/2013 1:30:13 PM
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    Pretty impressive Diane--on your part. That took some major restraint! (not to eat more...)Old habits are hard to break and you "minimized the damage"

    Sounds like you did a great job of handling the situation. Not easy. Her behavior was horrible. Always tougher to be the mature one:-)

    Give yourself a gold star. You deserve it! emoticon emoticon
    Good for you.

    1713 days ago
    Diane, you did the best possible thing by not rising to her confrontation. There may be something going on between the landlord and this woman that you don't even want to be involved in. I'm glad you didn't let it spoil the party for everyone. I get the "shakes" too when someone has angered me . . . I think it is a better way to release the "fight or flight" adrenalin than actually doing either, unless of course you're in danger.
    We can't know what made that woman act in such a childish way and it sounds like she was out of control and being a bully.
    The only way to have a perfect party is not to invite any people, and then it isn't a party. This one sounds like it was FUN and that's all that most people will remember. Hit that reset button for tomorrow. Best wishes, and I'm sure your GD is thrilled that you went to all this trouble for her. Forward!
    1714 days ago
    You did awesome Diane on all accounts. It is HARD to change our habits. You sure got derailed by a power tripper! At least you didn't think about the cake until later! emoticon emoticon
    That is the true beauty of life isn't it? Every morning we get a glorious chance to do it just the way we want to. emoticon
    1714 days ago
    Don't you think the landlord would have advised you that you have to go to the Committee ?
    How else would you know??? Geez. . .!

    I guess I have been missing your blogs so I have subscribed again.

    Let me know when the 5% challenge starts again in September???

    Thanks. emoticon emoticon
    1714 days ago
    Being "Fishwifed" is never pleasant. You will have the upper hand when she needs a favour!

    best wishes to your grand daughter for a wonderful wedding.
    1714 days ago
    Sweet Diane,

    I wish I was there! I would have taken this committee member outside the room and inform her that she needed to lower her attitude. I am pretty sure the Landlord would have asked if all the committee were informed if he deemed it necessary. I am so happy the Bridal Shower was a success.

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    Mary Ann
    1714 days ago
    Dang some people! This woman has a lesson waiting to be learned. Props to you for conducting yourself cool and collect. Don't get to down on the sweets, I totally know that feeling..ugh. But today is a new day like you said. Don't dwell on the negatives of the shower reflect back on the positives and cherish that moment you spent celebrating your beautiful GD's bridal shower and may the force be with you both! emoticon

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    1714 days ago
    You handled that beautifully! I don't understand people that feel the need to make a scene!

    I hope you have a wonderful day!

    1714 days ago
    Glad the bridal shower went well. But if such a big scene happened, that committee member needs to get a grip. Sounds like an aggressive, hot-tempered, classless big mouth. I don't understand why some people are like that. It was a HAPPY event and what she did was inappropriate. But you shouldn't worry. It reflects poorly on her, not you.

    I think you should talk to her again and let her know that although she had a right to express herself and inform you of "the rules", her screaming at the top of your lungs was inappropriate and scared you and you have a heart condition (I assume anyone would under the circumstances), and a lot of the guests a the shower. Maybe if people give her constructive feedback on her mannerisms, she may change for the better. Hey, one can hope!

    1714 days ago
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