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Day 4: I'm not a reality TV star. I'm also terrified of Monday.

Sunday, September 08, 2013

I have spent the past week obsessively watching reality TV weight loss shows. Guess what? I'm not a TV star. I dream of losing weight at a pace rapid enough to see progress, but I don't have a trainer. I don't have the luxury of taking a week off to go to boot camp, or free healthy food for a year. None of this is an excuse, but I'm just going to have to go more slowly, and keep waiting to get healthier. My instant gratification desires are not amused.

Now comes Monday. My biggest fear. I'm terrified of trying to get healthy around the workplace. I'm terrified of what unkind and hurtful comments will come next. It's only one person, but constant comments about being fat and unhealthy and belittling my attempts to become healthier really don't make it easy. I know I just have to ignore it, but it still gets under my skin. There are other people in my office who are quite supportive and I'm very grateful for them, but I feel like I'm trying to negotiate a minefield.

If I can get through the comments this week, I can keep on going, right?
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    I believe that the majority of the poeple who find success on those shows regain the weight in record time. It is done for ratings & in the end the contestants are not truly valued as individuals.

    Don't broadcast your plans at work. Just do them & let the results be wordless witness to your journey.

    God bless!
    1742 days ago
    Meh, the busybodies are not as interested as you may think. Most of the time they just wish they had your courage and persistence to improve their own lives and health. emoticon
    1744 days ago
    Congratulations on taking steps to improve your life. You can do this, despite this idiod.

    I agree with .DUSTY. above. Quietly go about your diet. If anyone comments on what you are eating/not eating, look 'em square in the eye and politely say "That's between my doctor and me. I don't care to discuss it." Then excuse yourself as soon as you can.
    But if you have an HR department, you may want to mention that you feel this person is making your workplace a "hostile environment" and see what they say.
    1744 days ago
    my answer would be.. I would far rather be fat than rude. Or perhaps in a very sarcastic tone, well thank you very much, your input was quite helpful and encouraging.Remember the more reasonable you are about taking off the weight, the better the chances of keeping it off. Slow is Fast. You are not on a diet, you are changing your lifestyle emoticon
    1744 days ago

    Comment edited on: 9/10/2013 12:43:46 PM
    That is just terrible that you have to even put up with such negativity in your work place. I am so very sorry to hear that. Just try to keep your head up, and know that you are doing what feels best for you! Obviously the bully you speak of has some major problems themselves.
    1744 days ago
    Just be frank and tell him you are not doing this for him, you are doing this for you and that if he has nothing "Good" to say, you would rather he said nothing. Then try to let it go. Don't let his comments or opinions influence you. Really look at this person with an objective eye. Is this someone if you met for the first time or in another situation that you would even want to know, or talk to. Nasty people are just Nasty people. They are a poison and they try to spread it. There is nothing there worth your time. Look around for someone you admire or who inspires you.
    1745 days ago
    I'm with D. Just be smug and find some tag word to turn their words around on them for your own amusement. Like, if they aren't attractive or have ugly hair or ugly shoes or whatever, find something so when they say "Man, you *do* need to diet, what size are those pants anyway?" In your head you can say "Man, I am working on my diet, but you can't seem to afford plastic surgery to fix that mess you got goin' on."

    Don't know if that's actually helpful but at least it hopefully made you smile. :)
    1745 days ago
    I'm really sorry that you have someone like that at work. Take those negative comments and turn them into motivation. Show that person that their words mean nothing and that you CAN do what you say you wanna do. Don't let them get to you. People who are like that are only unhappy with themselves and instead of changing they decide to take it out on others and hopefully feel better. Good Luck today :) Just remember you have all of your spark friends with you for support.
    1746 days ago
    I'm really sorry you have a bully- that SUCKS and I hope you can get yourself out of that situation soon.
    Try to stay strong and SMUG AS ALL F*CK (even if you have to pretend) and know that this person is petty and TERRIBLY UNHAPPY themselves if they have to bully others. I know that doesn't make it easier, per se, but it might help to try to remember... and LIVING WELL IS THE BEST REVENGE, right? Show that d*ck just what you're capable of, despite any nasty comments.
    1746 days ago
    I know exactly what you mean. So many people see an overweight person eating healthy or doing healthy things and they think it is a joke and have comments. I wish there was an easy answer. But unfortunately I dont think there is. You have to stay focused on what you are doing. Know you are going to succeed and ignore them. You will be happier in the long run. You can do this.
    1746 days ago
  • .DUSTY.
    Of course! But this is also a good reason not to mention you're on a diet to others. It opens yourself up for criticism or not so helpful advice.

    Do you work in a place where you can report this person for harassing you?

    Either way, know that you are doing what's best for you. Don't let this one person have power over you. Or use their comments as an excuse to go off track.

    1746 days ago
    Wow...well I wish I had something good to say. Does this person say stuff to intentionally hurt you or is it supposed to be a 'joking' manner? It just blows my mind that someone would be rude enough to make comments. I guess the best advice I have is to ignore them...although technically it is harassment and depending on your company that is a serious offense.

    Stay strong, you are doing what is best for you. Focus on the people who are supportive of you. If you keep your control and make progress eventually you will show that a hole that you can do it regardless of what they think!!! Don't let them get you down!!!

    I like to look at weight loss shows as motivation. Think of it as 'results will come with effort and working hard'. You may not see them as fast but they will happen!
    1746 days ago
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