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Home Blessings and Exercise

Thursday, September 05, 2013

The really good news is that I like coming home now. Yes, I do. For months, no, for years, I entered my house with varying amounts of distress. It was often really good to be greeted by the dog, who didn't mind if we lived in chaos. And family was pretty tolerant of mess and contributed regularly, too. But I often stepped into my house with a cloud of failure hanging over me. Just seemed like the house had gotten away from me. Oh, sure, there were times I made islands of order and cleanliness. There were times company was coming and I did the mad scramble cleaning and fake orderliness.

But now, less than 2 months after meeting the Flylady, I am happy to step into my house. I feel much less burdened. Decluttering is very freeing. Is my house perfect? Oh, definitely not. Am I making progress? Definitely. And by me just being happy with our house, hubby has been influenced to create some order, too.

One thing I've discovered as I have developed my Flylady routines is that I am incredibly distractible. And I didn't know that about me. For years I worked, and followed time management principles and managed TO DO lists. I thought I was pretty disciplined in my work habits. But at home I flitted around the house, going to dust the end table I see a pillow that needs to be sewn and on the way to get the needle and thread I find trash that needs to be thrown away and then I see the trash needs to go out to the dumpster and then I see weeds around the dumpster and I may or may not get the end table dusted and the pillow sewn -- and that was without the phone ringing or the kids needing something. I am getting better and better at being able to focus for 10 minutes on one room or one project. Flylady's trick of setting a timer for 5 minute and 10 minute and 15 minute "missions" is really helping me to stay on task and accomplish more.

My new hobby is house cleaning, or as Flylady calls it, blessing the house. When I felt like I was behind and struggling there was no joy in it. Now that I'm on top of things -- and confident that if there is something that needs to be done, the daily routines or zone cleaning will get it soon enough -- it feels good to maintain an orderly and clean home. As Flylady says, "You are not behind. Jump in where you are!"

Now how does all this relate to SparkPeople fitness and goal achievement? Perhaps more than you think. To accomplish anything you have to have enough focus to stay on task sufficient time to achieve it. Losing and maintaining weight takes time - time to plan, time to track, time to grocery shop, time to cook, time to exercise, time to read and learn what to do. Right now I'm coaching someone going through The Beck Diet Solution and today is her Day 9, Create Time and Energy. Beck has you set priorities in your life and look for things to cut back on in order to have sufficient time to lose weight. Good idea. Then she has you develop a schedule for all the necessary activities.

I had struggled with a bad attitude about housework for many years. When I got serious about losing weight I really expanded my exercise time. (First it was half hour 5 days a week, then went to one hour 6 days a week.) And often I took what had been my housecleaning time to do so. I indulged myself. I really enjoyed the exercise more than the cleaning anyway. I'm not sorry I did it. It worked for me. I lost the weight (80+ pounds) and I've kept it off (4.5 years). But if I had to do it again, or I was making a recommendation to someone, I'd say for 2-6 months it might be a good strategy, but don't let your house get as bad as mine was!! Check out Flylady and learn how to maximize your home blessing time. I bet you will find, like I have, that you do have enough time to exercise and to bless your house enough that you are really comfortable in it. It is great to open up the front door and be totally glad to enter!!
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    I agree! Cleaning up your personal space frees you up to work on yourself and your needs. It can also make fixing meals a pleasurable time. I've found that if I start with the bedroom closet and bathroom and work outward, it has the greatest effect overall. I also have a rule that the kitchen is completely cleaned up before I go to bed every night. Who likes waking up in the morning and going into a kitchen that is a mess? My only issue is that in Florida, the houses don't have enough storage space. I would like to have a better space for my books and crafts.
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    I really should try this and will, when life settles down.
    This will be my goal for the weekend! HUGS!
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    That is great! I heard of Flylady years ago but never did anything with it. I guess that I am still in the selfish I'd rather exercise mode. My house really isn't too bad though, but it could use a little more attention. I will check it out again. I also think the timer is a wonderful tool!
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  • _LINDA
    That is so awesome to fix a sore point of your life that has probably nagged you at the back of your mind. Setting goals really does work. I am guilty of doing the exact same thing. Setting out to do one task and spotting something else. Then I flit from one thing to another only getting things partially done and creating a big pile of to do projects half done :( I really do need to organize my club work and my housework. Probably part of the reason I derailed as the bad was influencing the good :(
    Here is to decluttering and finishing one task, one step at a time.

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    Blessing the that!!

    Thanks for sharing this blog!
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    emoticon for sharing about the Flylady! I have been the same way about cleaning. Distracted. Overwhelmed. Negative attitude. I'd rather exercise for sure!

    I like the idea of 5, 10, or 15 minute "missions."

    Thank you for the great tips.
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  • GABY1948
    emoticon emoticon and I agree totally with has a lot to do with spark! I am so happy for you, Marsha...I am at the opposite end of the spectrum...overly neat and tidy which is just as you might say we are "meeting each other in the middle" emoticon emoticon
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    It's great when we see "improvements all the way around" in life! Good habits can and will transfer over. I'm glad that your house is now a place of relaxation instead of stress. You deserve to relax and enjoy your home.

    Keep it up!
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    You are worthy of having a blessed home! Well written and a great connection between TWO forms of successful improvement of life.
    1694 days ago
    Awesome...I found the FlyLady website several years ago and still do routines and have nothing else of my own to declutter. So wish my husband could downsize his belongs..maybe one day!

    It's wonderful your combining that with loosing weight and changing your life style. Her system is life changing that's for sure.

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    Hey Marsha,
    awesome blog... Why didn't I hear about this years and years ago? I did check out Flylady, but guess I never thought I had the time to get into it, this is the 3rd reference to it that I've seen in about a week... Think that's a coincidence?

    With this very powerful testimony, I better get right over there.... and what was wrong with how you used to do things, I thought it sounded pretty "normal" to me....
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