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Thursday, August 29, 2013

Exactly one week after my last post, on July 20th, I picked my daughter up from her first sleepaway summer camp. It was good to have her home. She had so much fun, but I missed her terribly.

Exactly one week after my last post, on July 20th, I entertained 30+ extended family members in my home for a family reunion. It was catered (well, food was delivered), but it was still an incredibly stressful event. It was wonderful to see all of my father's side of the family, but the timing wasn't so great. My father-in-law was dying, and my husband and I tried to balance my family with his, joy with sadness.

Exactly one week after my last post, on July 20th, after my daughter was home, and after most of the family had returned to their hotel rooms for the evening, my husband called me from the Hospice to tell me his father had died, around 11:30 in the evening. I was still up, cleaning, organizing, visiting with my sister.

The funeral was the following Thursday, July 24th. I learned about funeral foods that day, that week, really. There were casseroles of all kinds (broccoli, squash, green bean, macaroni and cheese), platters of meats (roasted turkey, barbecued pork, roasted and barbecued and fried chicken), creamy salads (potato salad, macaroni salad, pasta salad), and enough desserts to last for weeks (chocolate cakes, pound cakes, bundt cakes, sock-it-to-me cakes, coffee cakes, cupcakes, banana pudding, brownies, and more). Accompanying these foods were gallons of sweet tea.

To say that eating healthy during that funeral week was a challenge would be an understatement. A big one.

But here we are, a month after the funeral, and life has returned back to normal. School has started, work is busy, and I feel more in control of the foods entering my mouth. The exercise, which had been nonexistent for the past several weeks, is happening again. I'm not doing it daily, but aiming for three days per week. And that's okay with me, for now. I have to start somewhere.
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    What an emotional roller coaster... I am so sorry to read of your FIL's passing. I hope that your husband is bearing the loss as good as can be expected. Losing a dad is tough - no matter how old you, or they, are.

    And sorry about the deluge of well-intentioned, but diet-unfriendly food. I am such a control freak about what is in my house food wise, that would make me nuts. But at the same time, I'd be reluctant to throw away food either. Dilemma... All the same, it is good to learn that should a time come when I want to show my support for a family grieving a loss, food might not be the most welcome option? Maybe I'll offer to cut the grass? or shovel the driveway if its snowy? Or send a gift card to a local restaurant? Hmmm - that is a tough one...

    Glad to have you back on SP, and I'm happy to hear that life is returning to its normal rhythm for you. **Hugs**
    1693 days ago
    Sorry for your loss-Dad's (whether our biological parent, step or in law) they are just special folks and it can feel like losing a tether to life. You are right about eating during these stressful times, but this too shall pass. It sounds like you are resetting and that is the stuff of our journey-we take detours "from the wagon" and it sits parked, quietly waiting for our return. Welcome abooard!
    1699 days ago
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  • PICKIE98
    That whole time is a blur, such stress and unusual activity.. Life seems to dump things all at once.
    Back in your routine, you can now sort things out and compartmentalize things to manage in a more relaxed manner.

    Please accept my feelings of sympathy for your father-in law. On the flip side. you seem to be blessed with a generous family and wonderful friends.
    1700 days ago
  • MJRVIC2000
    God has blessed You, so don't forget to thank Him! In His Grace! Vic.
    1700 days ago
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