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People Don't All Look at Us and See Our Flaws

Friday, August 23, 2013

I’ve done some reflecting on my son’s comment about me looking healthy and attractive, which I mentioned in a recent blog. It strikes me interesting that I don’t consider myself attractive because I see my imperfect, still 15 pounds overweight body when I look in the mirror. I sense that what he may be seeing as healthy is the peace and calm, yet energetic person I have recently become. I am finally feeling at peace because I’m not stressing out over the bondage to food and exercise that I’ve felt for SO long. I am at peace with food and I’m not trying to exercise every spare minute, but allowing myself time to do the things I love the most. I’m taking the mental time I would usually spend thinking about what can I eat next, or fussing at myself for having eaten too much or the wrong thing, or fussing at myself for not exercising, and using it for positive things, like focusing on what I’m doing and really enjoy it as I do it. I am also utilizing the time I normally would spend eating, or foraging for food, to connect with friends, write in my journal or blog and visit with SparkFriends. I am surprised at how much time and effort I used to put into all the negative thinking and activities. So, maybe my son could read my face and demeanor as healthy and attractive.

If he can call me healthy and attractive, and I consider him to be very frank and not say what he doesn’t mean, I have no excuse to be so hard on myself. A silly thing kind of triggered this thought today. I was outside at my client’s house today and her neighbor, who drives a Jaguar, said he likes my car. It is a gray 2013 Toyota Corolla. It is new, but it was filthy today. I was embarrassed that he was even looking at my car, yet he, the owner of a sharp Jaguar, saw beauty in my dusty Corolla.

People don’t always look and see our flaws. They recognize our beauty. We can do better for ourselves than be so critical of ourselves. Just love ourselves for who we are!

My son, so smart he is, suggested I type my blogs in Word, so I can keep from losing them, as I have done a bunch of times by inadvertently typing the wrong key when I've typed right into the blog entry box. Now I copy and paste from Word and have no more problems!
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    Wonderful blog to read. I wonder just how you made those changes / how they came about?
    1698 days ago
    Interesting blog. I think you are right about both things......you are more at peace now and also others just plain notice all the aspects that we dwell on.
    1699 days ago
  • _JODI404
    Your son is very wise!
    He definitely may be seeing as you as attractive and healthy -- seeing the new peaceful and calm, yet energetic person you have recently become.

    Instead of spending so much of your time and energy struggling you have learned to stop fighting yourself so much. Let go of fighting your weight and thinking about food and instead, embrace your body, your health and your spirit.
    I believe that when you feel good, you can’t help but look good.

    I LOVE this that you wrote, and totally agree with you!
    "People don’t always look and see our flaws. They recognize our beauty. We can do better for ourselves than be so critical of ourselves. Just love ourselves for who we are!"
    1702 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/24/2013 2:59:22 PM
    So, true!

    Sometime you may hear that positive attracts positive...I think that seems true. I've notice that when I'm feeling good about myself, I get more compliments. Focusing on enjoying each moment, each person, just being really present, can make me feel more peaceful, happy, and content. It sounds like you've found your own fountain of youth!
    1702 days ago
  • LARISSA238
    Great insight! we do have to know that people see us for who we are, not the little things that we see that drag us down. You have to get up and over them, and it sounds like you are doing a great job! And once again, you have a wonderful son!
    1702 days ago
    That is a great way to see things. You have a very smart son...then again look who he has as a mother.
    1702 days ago
  • POPSY190
    I do the copy and paste too for the same reason!
    We are often very hard on ourselves and our eyesight is often skewed when it's ourselves we are looking at! emoticon
    1702 days ago
  • LINDA!
    You have a wise son. emoticon
    1702 days ago
  • ANGGEL40
    So true... we really are so much more then our flaws..love is the key word..thanks for sharing!
    1702 days ago
    So true. We are more than our weight and looks. When things start feeling good on the inside, they show on the outside!

    We are our own worst critic!

    Good job using Word first!
    1703 days ago

    Lovely. I so agree with you! We tend to be our own worst critics.
    To have your son, who is an honest boy, tell you truthfully how you look to the outside world, that is important information to have. You obviously have come a long way and should be celebrating all that you've done. Can you still tweak your journey? I'm sure you can. Yet do it with much love, because you are all you've got, you know?

    Love, Ginger
    1703 days ago
  • CAMAEL100
    I agree. I think we are the ones that see our flaws the most.
    1703 days ago
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