Odd Motivators

Thursday, August 22, 2013

I was dating this guy for about 4 months. He told me he was having a rough go of it, though it had nothing to do with him and me. Then, all the sudden, he cut me off and stopped talking to me. When I told him I wanted him to talk to me more and treat me like a girlfriend (probably not in the best way, but I told him the truth under an enhanced level of duress), he told me he couldn't be in a relationship with me because we were incompatible and he didn't want to force it. We went from being perfectly fine and happy to being done in a matter of days. It felt like I was hit by a train.

As strange as this will sound, it might've been the best thing for my health. Exercise is my therapist. When I feel sad, I do pushups. When I want to curl up into a ball and die, I do yoga or crunches. When I hate the world, I go for a walk and add some jogging periodically. If I want to punch something, I put on a cardio workout. If I miss him while I'm lying in bed, I start doing leg exercises.

So I'm taking really good care of myself, because I know I'm really special and worth the effort. I don't want to let anyone convince me otherwise.
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    So very sorry about the breakup! They can be brutal, but what an awesome reaction you've had! For me, it can be so much harder to get up and DO something when I am sad, but if I DO it, I feel 1000% times better. Good for you! Go get 'em and you'll soon see that losing this loser was the best thing that ever happened to you! : ) A much better guy will come along, but in the meantime, do what YOU want, be YOU want to be, great time for self discovery without judgment. : ) I miss that!!!

    Go YOU!!!! emoticon
    2543 days ago
  • TREP13
    The mullet was not a suggestion for your next hairdo (although you could TOTALLY pull of the femullet), it was a metaphor for silliness. It's time to get silly and get moving and continue improving yourself. That guy lost out on something great and I have a feeling you deserve better anyway. He did you a favor.
    emoticon This pants dropping emoticon reminds me of Mark Wahlberg's early career.
    2544 days ago
    A fine pair we are! Fine and happy one week and alone without a word the next. I just have 5 years to walk off! Breaking up is a tremdous motivator for exercise. But since she's left, here's what else has been going on: I've come alive, stopping and meeting everyone I get a chance to. I say the stress of being with her drove me to drink way more than I ever have in my life, and that's stopped. My faith is amazingly stronger, how could someone push me away from that??

    So I say good for you. Someone is telling you there is someone better for you.
    2544 days ago
  • KBORTY26
    Lol I thought you were telling me I needed a mullet, since I tend to drastically change my hair after a breakup, emoticon

    Granted, that is a pretty awesome emoticon. I've never been the kind who can eat when I'm sad. Almost any other emotion, yes... but sad, it actually hurts to eat.

    Also, thanks. It's nice to hear I'm really special from someone who is also really special.
    2544 days ago
  • TREP13
    I'm sorry about the guy but happy at the reaction to the sadness. I tend to turn to sweets when I'm sad but exercise would be a lot smarter. Also, you ARE really special and worth the effort and I'm glad that you know that.
    emoticon This mullet emoticon is one of my favorites and always makes me happy.
    2544 days ago
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