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Today's rant...very worried about my brother

Tuesday, August 20, 2013

I just found out from my best friend who lives across the street from my brother that he has to start taking insulin shots because his blood sugar is way too high. Not happy at all about that.
You see the reason for this is he has a friend who's been visiting him for several months at a time from St. Louis. She doesn't eat real food only junk food. He wasn't eating doughnuts for 3 years then she shows up. He starts buying two and three dozen doughnuts at a time for her plus half gallons of ice cream two or three times a week because that's all she wants to eat. He's like me - sweets are so tempting. For the first time in four years when I've been down there he bought doughnuts. He would eat four on the way home. I told him he didn't need to do that because it was going to jack his blood sugars way up. I know...I ate them too and I gained weight. I'm paying for it now with the weight gain. The only difference is I've been walking and doing other forms of exercise - he hasn't. You see when his friend shows up she sleeps all the time and doesn't want to get out and do anything. After his quadruple bypass in June 2009 he had lost a lot of weight - about 60 pounds and was doing so well. Now, he's gained that back and then some. I told him I was worried about him. At least when I'm down there we're on the go and walking a lot. He got out of that routine again when she was there this spring. He had gotten a recumbent elliptical back last winter and was up to an hour at a time on it. When I got there in June it was just sitting in the living room. He got on it to show me how to use it and was on it maybe five minutes. I used it more than him but I had difficulty because I couldn't adjust it to my height - I'm about a foot shorter than him. It was never comfortable for me to use but I did use it several times. His friend was mad that he bought it and I'm sure she let him know about it. He was talking about her moving in with him. I've been praying she doesn't because she is only after his money. She's been asking the neighbors about his will or lack of since she can't find it. She has gone through everything he owns looking for things. I don't even do that and I'm his sister. Geez! He used to walk four plus miles everyday. Now he rarely walks and if he does it's not over a mile. Granted they have had a surplus of rain and he won't get outside to walk if it's raining. His only exercise is mowing the yard and it takes him forever - and no he doesn't have that big of a yard. His blood pressure drops down really low when he does and he just doesn't have any energy. I told him I was worried about it because he wears a nitro patch all day plus takes blood pressure meds in the morning and another blood pressure med at night. He used to keep a record of his blood pressures and blood sugars but he quit that too. Guess I'm going to have to really have a long talk with him about things and get him moving a lot when I'm down there and pray he keeps it up and doesn't bring her down. Yes, I do not like her. Never have. No one I know likes her. All she's done has been spend my brother's money (and that's not why I don't like her really it's not) for the last 30 years. Yes I've talked to her on the phone for hours and hours for the past five years and what she's told me about herself is why I don't like her. She pops Ritalin and Valium like they're candy. My brother told me she took five just to get up and seven to go on a drive through the mountains. Then several Valium to calm down because she didn't like the mountains. So why does she want to move to the mountains? She hates it out there. She steals things in stores, from the neighbors anyone. She's told me that. She went so far as tell me she stole the tags off a car on the street because she couldn't afford to get hers. I mean seriously. My brother doesn't do things like that. He's always had a good job and can afford things and he'll buy what he needs. Ughhhh....I'm so frustrated and upset right now. Sorry this is so long. I have to work helping my brother get his health straightened out. Praying I can get through to him and help him get back on the right path. I don't want to lose him and I'd do anything in the world for my brothers and Dad.
Love & hugs y'all.
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    It's really hard to see the people we love being taking advantage of. You love him and want the best for him, we can all understand.
    Praying for him and you.
    1703 days ago
    Sending love and light to you and your brother. Stay positive! emoticon
    1708 days ago
    I sympathize. It's so hard when we see people that we love making choices that aren't good for them. I feel like the only thing we can do is pray and love them right where they are. We all know that folks have to decide for themselves to make good changes...all you can do is love him and support him when he does.
    1708 days ago
    praying he remembers how good healthy feeks
    1708 days ago
    She sounds like trouble but you can't make him change if he doesn't want to. Sorry you have to worry so much about him. But it is up to him to move on without her.
    1708 days ago
    emoticon Doesn't sound like a good situation. All you can do is share your concerns with your brother and hope that he hears them enough to do something about it. I hope that you can help him find his way back on track with his lifestyle. Hang in there.
    1708 days ago
    Sounds like we might need to find him a new love interest .... the saying love is blind is defined right here .... geesh that gal is a mess and proud of it .... his health should come first for him or he won't be around .... prayers sent your way that maybe he will treat himself better. Rocie
    1708 days ago
    Sounds like a soul tie needs to be broken so your brother can be set free! Sometimes the enemy of our soul puts people on our path to destroy us. Jesus said, "The thief comes to steal, kill, and destroy. But I have come that you may have abundant life." Let's pray for deliverance, truth from the Holy Spirit, and wisdom for your brother to do what he needs to do to help himself. You can not live his life for him. But we can pray!
    1708 days ago
    I'm sorry. I'll keep you and your brother in my thoughts.

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