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Food Envy

Saturday, August 17, 2013

You remember the kind of envy Freud wrote about?

Well, not a problem for me. Really.

But food envy? Yes yes and yes.

This morning for breakfast I had my omelette -- changed up a bit with a small amount of peppered goat cheese instead of low fat feta and two big handfuls of arugula instead of spinach, but the basic half egg white and half fat reduced Omega whole egg, Pam spray, made in the microwave, grape tomatoes on the side. Black coffee. Total calories? Under 200. And it was delicious, satisfying, nutritious . . . yeah.

Until I watched my DH start in on his breakfast. Two whole eggs, lightly boiled. Two slices whole wheat toast, buttered. With grated cheese on the eggs. And two more slices whole wheat toast, buttered. With marmalade. Coffee with sugar . . . Total calories? Pretty close to what I'll eat all day. Within a couple hundred calories, anyhow. (He'll have a burger at the golf course, and maybe a steak for dinner, and . . . . like that.)

So: when DH sat down to eat, I politely excused myself and left the room. Without comment. Not his fault.

Devoted myself to removing my Revlon "Silver Screen" polish. That I've been wearing as a matte neutral on my toenails (with touch ups, of course . . . ) pretty much all summer.

Long soak in my bath tub.


Food envy? Every day. When I ate like DH, I weighed 230 pounds. He didn't. Maybe 182, tops (and he's over 6 feet tall). And now? He's even leaner: maybe 165. Really lean. Looks terrific. He can eat the way he eats. I can't.

Gotta get over it. Gotta live with it. Literally.

Haven't every really got used to it, however!!
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    Right there, on the same boat with you!!! I sometimes tell my husband that if I ate the way he does I would have been morbidly obese for years now! There are times that I don't mind but there are times that the little green monster of food envy finds its way through my mind. So, I know exactly how you felt.
    But you handled it perfectly and that's what matters.
    1767 days ago
  • CANNIE50
    I have a long way to go in the "eating better, eating less" department but, compared to my husband, I am a monk. I tell him he eats like a "12 year old triathlete, at a birthday party". Seriously. He has NO concept of nutrition, none. He wants what he wants, when he wants it, and he wants a lot of it. When he dishes up servings for me, I always put some back, or save it for leftovers. I tell him that I "cannot eat 'boy' portions". Fortunately for me, some of what really appeals to him, just does not stir my appetite. I so admire your strategy of dealing with your food envy. Let's face it, I just admire you, period! PS your toes sound divine! emoticon
    1767 days ago
  • _LINDA
    That describes my stepdad to a 'T" On medications for high blood pressure, he can eat what ever he wants and is only 165 lbs in spite of being 6 feet. He can eat a box of cookies in a day. Basically any treat isn't safe around him :P He goes for coffee and a treat at Timmy's without fail every day twice a day, and the topper is, he snacks on bread almost right after each meal -and spoons peanut butter out of the jar to eat as well as smothering his bread with it several times a day! I am so happy not to have to live with that on a daily basis -sometimes when someone else is snacking you feel you have to too.. Not having a dog anymore, he rarely gets an exercise other than riding his trike to the donut shop! So maybe it is not food envy so much as envy that he can eat whatever he wants -I don't crave what he eats for sure, just that he can eat so much of it :P I would for example, eat old cheddar cheese several times a day if I hadn't gotten that under control.
    Way to stick to your healthy eating, doing what ever you have to not be tempted!!
    You rock!!
    1768 days ago
  • KANOE10
    I watched my son eat peach blintzes and did have some moments of food envy as I ate my egg white vegetable scramble. My son never seems to gain weight, Yes, we will never be like the NOWs..but are stuck being POWS and constantly monitoring our food.

    You were wise to divert yourself and work on your nails and take a long bath. Good for you!

    1768 days ago
    I know. It's disgusting what others can eat and not gain. Sorry to say, it gets worse as you get older. I even envy what I used to eat myself and wish for the good old days!
    It is what it is.
    1768 days ago
    Yup - life is unfair.

    When I ate what DH ate, I gained 60 lbs in 6 months, and my cholesterol shot sky high.

    But, well, we are what we are, and for us that is women with slower metabolism. And that means we eat less, and we eat differently.

    Would be nice to be a hunter - but we're the gatherers. Can't eat all that meat, all that carb. We're the fruit and veg and chicken and fish people.
    1769 days ago
    I never (okay, maybe "rarely" is more accurate) envy my hubby's food. Of course, he's 30 pounds at least overweight and already had a heart attack and quadruple bypass. Also diabetes. So he can eat the way he eats and suffer the consequences. I suspect I don't suffer much more hunger than he does even though I eat maybe half the calories he does. I simply don't need as much food as he does. Even though he's not terribly active, he is over 6 inches taller and weighs more than 100 pounds more than I do. My plate of food costs almost as much as his because I use far less fat, more veggies, and much more fruit. He'll have a hot dog when I have baked cod. It is simply okay. I need what I need and he lives the way he chooses, and yes I will cook it for him. He started doing the grocery shopping because he would not eat what I bought. It is sad that he'd probably rather have a wife who eats pizza with him than one who is healthy and fit. Oh, well. I get to choose my lifestyle, too. That is just the way it is.

    Best wishes with getting over your food envy and accepting that you live in your body!!
    1769 days ago
  • PHOENIX1949
    emoticon Yep, guilty of food envy here.
    1769 days ago
    I can totally relate to the food envy - my hubby and two of my kids can eat whatever they want and remain slim.
    1769 days ago
    I have the same problem at times-
    less so now that my always lean dh is starting to put on wt.
    He thought when he quit smoking a few years back he could eat whatever he wants.
    1769 days ago
    As I've blogged before... life ain't fair, especially when it comes to the caloric needs of my "tiny" frame. Problem is, I have the same tastes and desires as those big guys! Like you, when I ate like them, I weighed over 220 pounds. Now I am making peace with reality, and getting as much enjoyment out of my 1500 calories as I imagine I used to get from the 3000 plus. Maybe more... because I feel better physically!

    Treats are treats. Fuel, on the other hand... makes the high performance engine that is my "tiny" frame run/bike/and swim better. Here's to fuel that is pleasant to the eye and the pallet!

    Glad you're feeling better today! Spark on! emoticon
    1769 days ago
  • DALID414
    The boyfriend and I had stopped going out to breakfast on the weekend, partly to help me lose the weight and partly to save money, since I wasn't working. I realized I can have poached eggs, instead of scrambled eggs with ketchup, tomato and avocado slices, instead of sausage and bacon, and dry wheat toast instead of a stack of pancakes.
    I still pretend to look at the menu, still think about ordering something 'new', but in the end I decide not to start the weekend down that road.
    I think it's more of a metabolism envy since I'd feast on healthier foods than the boyfriend does.
    1769 days ago
    I JUST wrote about this on my own blog! Isn't it maddening?! My husband CANNOT gain weight, he is so thin. Every night he eats 'second dinner' (a cheese quesadilla with tortilla chips on the side.) approx- 700 cals, in addition to a normal/healthy breakfast, lunch and dinner. If I did that, I'd be twice my size! Sooooo infuriating!
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  • NANCY-
    You are a very wise woman!
    1769 days ago
  • ANDYGIRL1219
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