~INDYGIRL has a very moving and courageous blog today, reminding us not to try to comfort ourselves with food:
No matter what the problem is, eating too much won't help. It doesn't work.
She is so right.
Reading her blog made me think about all the other ways we try to comfort ourselves.
Too much food.
Too much alcohol.
Too much smoking.
Too many drugs.
Too much gambling.
Too much shopping.
Too many friends (with benefits).
Too much TV.
Too much screen time . . . .
Of course, probably nobody thinks that the above are "good things"
But then there are those comforting distractions that ARE socially acceptable, the ones people tend to praise us for: even though they're still excessive:
Too much work.
Too much helicopter parenting of our kids.
Too much public spirited do-gooderism (to the neglect of our other responsibilities including ourselves).
Even too much exercise.
All good in moderation. None of them good when carried to extremes. And none of them a very successful distraction from the inevitable difficulties of human existence anyhow. (Although lots of good things may actually get accomplished as a result of the second batch).
I get it. I do . But: it's hard to live through the tough times. And there are very few of us (certainly not me) who get through those tough times without various kinds of excessive behaviours. Addictions, really.
Gotta confine myself, at least, to those addictions that don't pack on the pounds, right?
I read waaaaaaay too much. Yes I do. Although I try to keep the cost down by using the public library.
But that's only one of the ways I distract myself!!
I suspect that just like learning to tolerate hunger as the price of staying lean, I need to learn to tolerate other kinds of discomfort as the price of being human.
Hunger is not an emergency. And I'm pretty sure: neither are the other varieties of discomfort.