Friday, August 16, 2013
I did it. I joined an online dating site about a month ago. After thinking long and hard about it, I came to several conclusions. First, I don't expect to meet Mr. Right in my town or surrounds. I need to expand my horizons, and darn it, it's kind of frustrating to never have a date because I'm just not interested in any of the locals for one reason or another or several. Second, I like the idea of taking the time to get to know someone with the safety net of distance and perhaps some amount of anonymity until trust and friendship have been established. Third, in a world where so many people judge books by their covers, I like the environment where someone can see just what I look like and if they aren't impressed, no harm no foul, just delete that profile no one's the wiser, and the same goes for me if I am not entirely sure I want to wake up next to "him" some morning. Fourth, with some amount of my usual hardnosed practicality, I can present the me that "he" is going to meet in reality down the road, and believe me that's a pretty good weeder-outer right there. I'm not the Rainbow and Butterfly girl. I'm not the Goth Tattoo Mistress, either. I'm a chunky, independent (sometimes fiercely so), reasonably easy-on-the-eyes woman who is self-sufficient and a complete, whole person all by herself.
Fifth, reading how other men compose their profiles, how they write, the things they say, gives me great insight as to whether they are the kind of men I want to hang out with. Anyone who writes, "I want to live life to the fullest!"... out the door goeth that profile. Anyone who writes, "I am looking for someone who is slim and fit..." same direction.
I can't do typical date stuff. I don't drink, get panicky in crowds of strangers, have too many dietary restrictions to be able to eat out con mucho gusto, can not watch a movie in a movie theater because I talk at the screen too much, etc.
After all was said and done, I met a man who seems to be a strong contender for a lasting partnership. I'm going for the whole enchilada (vegan of course, and low fat, and low carb, and under 300 calories per serving...). As I told him, if nothing else we each have gained a friend.
Wish me luck, and wish me love!