So fed up! **VENT**

Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Things seriously need to change.

Hubby started a job a few months ago and doesn't help at all around the house. Since he works third shift, he comes home, sleeps, gets up, watches tv, eats dinner, showers, and goes to work. That means that he spends NO time with the kids and I and he does nothing around the house. Just for information: he gets home around 4:30 am, sleeps til 4 pm or after most days, and leaves for work at 7 pm.

I have not been to the gym in months. I do well with exercise for a couple of weeks and then just stop. I need to find motivation, but it is very hard when I feel so unappreciated and taken advantage of.

Speaking of hubby and not helping, the kids and I have been gone most of the summer visiting with the inlaws and my family, so he has had PLENTY of time to get some things done around the house without interruptions and he still does hardly anything.



So, here is the plan:

Get into a routine.

Summer is almost over and the kids and I will be in school in just a couple of weeks, so I should be able to at least get to the gym after getting the kids to school in the morning. Or maybe I will just go for a walk with the dog. I need to do something. I am back up to 173 lbs, which is still 15 lbs from my highest weight ever, but it is also 12 lbs above my lowest for this year.
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    I know the feeling! My hubby has been working crazy shifts and hours... and is never home except to eat, sleep and shower also! I finally had to break down to him and nicely tell him that I need some me time... 1/2 an hour a day... I need to get my walk in. And for chores around the house, I just recently got a full time job as an RN working 12 hour days.. that leaves little time at home to do all the things I used to do as a stay at home mom... I told him 2 nights ago that if we were both going to be in the working world, then he would need to up his responsibilities. (He knows he has it easy!) So yesterday when I got home, he had the entire house cleaned and laundry done... :)
    Sometimes it just takes a friendly (no maybe no so friendly) reminder that you are a team and you need your teammate to help you! Hang in there!!! Just be stern about your you time!

    2419 days ago
    Hang in there, Tabby. Us sparkies are here to support you. That's what we are for.

    Summer is almost over. I hope you can enjoy the next two weeks.

    I don't know whether your dear hubby knows the impact of his behavior on you. It's up to you to decide whether you want to start a conversation with him about it...or if it is something in you that you need to change. I know the *only* thing I can change is my attitude. Recently I've been working on that. Those around me may not see any changes (nor change their behaviors). is my thoughts that I can control. And while I do have up and down days, I am taking action so that the rest of my summer is a positive experience.

    Take care!

    2420 days ago
    Sometimes we all need to vent; hope it helped at least a little bit.

    You mentioned that your husband gets home at 4:00. What time does he go to bed? If he's sleeping 10, 11, 12 hours per day every day, you might consider whether or not he has seen a doctor recently. Could there be a medical issue (depression, under active thyroid, other) involved? If he has an under active thyroid, he may have all he can handle just getting to work. Just something to consider as you strive to get to a happier place.

    I agree you need help and are doing a lot, but still this next set of questions needs to be considered and believe me I do understand your frustration. How is your attitude impacting the situation? Your husband's motivation or lack of it? Is your home organized and peaceful or in chaos much of the time?

    Awesome that you are developing a plan for getting back on track to do the things you need to do for yourself in order to be healthier and happier!

    Wishing you all the best!!!
    2420 days ago
    You can do it. You also should have a talk with him about realistic expectations. It's a lot for you to do without his help. But if he doesn't come around, you'll need a back up plan for yourself. You'll get yourself back on track.
    2421 days ago
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