60,000-79,999 SparkPoints 61,742

What is strength?

Monday, August 12, 2013

I've been asking myself this question a lot lately. I've had a lot of people tell me I'm a strong woman, but I must admit, I don't really understand what that means.

Is strength taking care of your children first no matter what?
Is strength standing up for yourself in the face of adversity?
Is strength not making compromises for your health or sanity?

Maybe I'm strong, but the idea that these are somehow exceptional qualities makes me sad. That should be the norm. Mothers take care of their babies. Wives don't let their husbands tear them down. Taking care of yourself is what you should just *do.*

And yet... we don't.

The news is full of heartbreaking stories of failed parents who didn't even try to protect their own children.

There are countless bodies of women who never stood up for themselves, who felt they weren't worth saving.

This website is full of people who have spent a long time ignoring their own health and sanity.

I'm one of that last group, or at least, I used to be.

Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we trick ourselves into thinking that hurting ourselves, or letting others hurt us, is easier than being strong?

Am I strong?

I don't think so. I am what I must be. I have two little girls who can't protect themselves, so that's what I do. Period. Even against people who love them, but can't make the right choices. No one else is going to look out for me, so these days, I do that. I have family and friends to support me, yes, but in the end, it's MY choice to take care of my mind, body, and soul, and set an example for my children to follow.

I'm facing a terrifying future ahead, but my fear isn't what matters.

Today's another day. What comes, comes. And I'll meet it, as always.

I don't have any other choice.
Share This Post With Others
Member Comments About This Blog Post
    Great blog! Love the quote. Thanks for sharing. (*^^*)
    2067 days ago
    You are strong and awesome!
    2075 days ago
  • GEORGE815
    Great quote from the ex-Governor!
    2076 days ago
    Have read your last several blogs as I've been catching up on Spark again.... My heart goes out to you and yours...as so many others have expressed.

    It is difficult at these times in our lives to see through to our future which will be filled with laughter, peace and just loving expression again. I think to some degree, that the ability to believe that Life does hold that for us... and the determination to work towards that...is what defines strength of character. And that is indeed a quality you have, and share, with others here....! Thank you!

    An interesting side note....the backdrop on your page here....raindrops on a window...caught my eye. I hope soon the sun will shine through them and give you Rainbows of Joy!!
    2081 days ago
    Strength is the ability to get up, stand tall and face the world face on each and every time you get knocked down.
    2081 days ago
    Your strength is in the fact that you keep pushing forward through it all. You're not succumbing to the stress and giving into unhealthy temptations and addictions like too many others have. You're doing your best to deal with the challenges your husband has placed upon your family, the challenges of facing your own issues head on, and taking care of your kids and the household. That's a lot to put on one person's shoulders.
    2081 days ago
  • _MOBII_
    Only speaking for myself of course, but I think (in general) what people mean by saying 'you are strong' or 'you can deal with this' isn't that there was any doubt that you would or could, but just pointing out the fact that being willing and able to deal with things is a commendable trait.

    As you pointed out, there are far too many who take the BS that others dish out and talk themselves into thinking that it is ok. I was one of those people for many, many years. I stayed in an abusive relationship for far too long and it took me even longer to realize that I am worth anything at all. Its a trait took me over 30 years to find in myself.

    I think by pointing out something that is so good in you, people are just trying to help bolster your confidence and energy just in case you should need a boost. There are days that I need to be reminded of the obvious and congratulate myself for making it safely out of bed and putting on matching socks.

    Take care and love yourself...I know we all love you!
    2081 days ago
    Some would say that there is nothing more attractive than a confident woman.

    2082 days ago

    DH is off work this week. He went to the gym yesterday morning. And he used the elliptical at home this morning. So I'm keeping my fingers crossed that he's finally 'tired of being tired' and ready to make some changes.

    I hope you have a GREAT week!
    2082 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/12/2013 8:50:30 AM
    And that is what life is all about, isn't it ?! Facing what the day brings us instead of giving into it and letting it drag us down. Keep up the good work! Thanks for sharing. I know this is a very difficult time for you emoticon
    2082 days ago
    Wonderful post. Your outlook is an inspiration.
    2082 days ago
  • Add Your Comment to the Blog Post

    Log in to post a comment

    Disclaimer: Weight loss results will vary from person to person. No individual result should be seen as a typical result of following the SparkPeople program.