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And it all falls down.

Monday, August 05, 2013

Just when things were starting to improve, I was starting to feel a bit more confident about my relationship and our prospects.

My husband was kicked out of his addiction recovery program.

Which means he has two options now. Based on the ultimatum I gave him last week:

1) Go into a long-term residential recovery program (anywhere from 6-12 months)
2) Get out of my house.

This is what I'm looking at. Either way, I am going to have to deal with this house and these kids by myself. Can I do it? Yeah, I can.

Do I want to?


Am I going to? Yes. I have to. I don't have a choice.

The worst part is if he is unable to get into a residential program. We don't have insurance, and all the free programs have huge waiting lists.
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    That is so very tough.

    You have to stay strong for your kids. I hope you have family and a support system to help.

    Addiction is such a tragic hell. And I speak from personal experience. Getting help is so difficult. It is up there with weight loss as one of America's biggest industries where you can spend good money and get no results.

    I had issues with alcohol and it is coming on 4 years since I had a drink. I went thru some tough things to decide and get help. I had to say good bye to some relationships.

    A long time neighbor who knew of my struggles asked me how I did it. She volunteers at a recovery program and sees people come back and back and back. And that of course is if they are lucky. I told her it was a miracle. So many people have great talents, money and enviable lives don't make it thru this disease. No doctor can cure it. It is nothing short of a miracle. I had some relationships with UCLA doctors who I found out amongst themselves agreed my prognosis was grim.

    I am praying that you get a miracle and can enjoy it when it comes along.

    2080 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/8/2013 4:08:17 PM
  • _MOBII_
    Oh dear, that is sad news, but I know you can deal with what comes your way. Keeping you and your hubby in my prayers, I hope he can get into a program that will help!
    2081 days ago
    I am very familiar with the dealings of a family member with and abuse problem so I can imagine some of what you are going through. I see from a previous blog that you go to Al Anon. Hang in there! emoticon
    2081 days ago
  • CLARK971
    : ( Despite all you have going on, you never make excuses. Try to stay strong for you and your girls.

    2082 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/6/2013 5:44:14 PM
  • HILLSLUG98239
    Wow. You certainly have a lot on your plate right now. I applaud your ability to remain focused and keep doing what's healthiest for you in the midst of chaos.
    2082 days ago
  • -CORAL-
    sorry to hear what you are going through. That is very tough. You are a strong woman and I know you can do what you need to make the best life for you and your children.

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    Be strong for you and your children. You have to be first... so you have the energy to take care of all of you.
    Stay on the healthy path and feed your body and soul.
    2082 days ago
    Stay strong! You have to for yourself and your children. emoticon
    2082 days ago
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