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Ridiculous Fear

Friday, August 02, 2013

I read a really nice quote today about people stopping themselves from things in life because of a fear deep down that makes them think only other people can do things - especially weight loss. It essentially said that we sometimes make ourselves fail without even realizing it.

I was thinking about this and realized that it's not only true for a lot of people, but it's true for me. I've gotten past the "I can't do it, but she can" stage and I've moved into something completely differently. I think of it as a fear of the end result. I'm not afraid of what I'll look like when I'm fit or thinner. I know my body will feel better and that I'll look better and feel more comfortable in my clothes and such. Here are some examples of what I mean:

1. I participate in both the 5% challenge and the Biggest Loser challenge. I LOVE being on these teams! It gives me a great sense of team work and community with others on my teams. It gives me goals to work toward each week, accountability, and friends on SP that I'm constantly in contact with in the chat rooms.
--When I get to my goal weight I have no need to be on these teams anymore. Will I still stay in contact with my team mates? Will I still be accountable toward my new goals?

2. What will I work toward or look forward to?
--Yes, I realize that life offers a million things to look forward to. But when I reach that final weight loss destination, where do I go from there?

These things seem ridiculous in my head. I know they aren't things I should even be worrying about right now since I still have 36 pounds to go. But, here I am worrying about them!

Well Spark friends, I guess I'm wondering if you all think of these silly things too?!?
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    Not silly! Continue doing well on your journey!
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    I like being part of the community and I too like the challenges!

    1682 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/18/2013 9:23:13 AM
    I understand your fears and they are valid. It is why we self-sabotage. Keep going.
    1753 days ago
    I don't think it is silly to have those thoughts. If anything it is smart because that means you are planning ahead. Planning is always the key!
    1755 days ago
    Not silly at all! I have some of the weirdest fears (or they seem so to me! I worry that when I reach goal, that I won't be able to keep it, or that I'll just give up for no real reason. Keep up the good work!
    1755 days ago
    They are not silly I feel the same way. You can do this emoticon
    1757 days ago

    Been there done that too. But I really have no reason to because I am so far away from that goal still. But I think you are wrong on one point. Yes, you will need to be on those teams more than ever then. Why you say, because maintenance can be a Bit**! Maintenance is so much harder than losing. We will need to find that correct balance and keep all those things we have been learning and changing along the way going and balanced in our daily life. How many of us have gone on "diets" and then after losing some large amount of weight we were silly (gentle word compared to my real word) enough to think great now I can go back to the way I used to be and life will be great. Only to find out that, that is not at all how it is and that regain actually brings another 10 or more lbs with it as well. Nope we are finding a new balance and a new way of doing things for LIFE!!

    I have been lucky enough to meet good sparker friends that have been doing it now for years and they know the routine well enough to keep it all in balance and are at maintanance now for some time. I glean so much from them too and know I will really need their wisdom and support when I get there!!! Hugs Susan
    1757 days ago
    What Alie said....
    You may not need the purpose of the team... but lemme tell you, the team will always need you... I got one word for you... "INSPIRATION."
    So no worries... let's just cross this bridge when you get there...
    something tells me, you won't be worried about it then anyway! emoticon
    1758 days ago
    No, you're the only one in the universe that thinks that way. . . . . NOT!!!!

    Don't worry . . . you won't be able to get rid of us THAT easy!!!!
    1759 days ago
  • DARLY55
    Things will change for us in many ways, some good, some not so good -as with jealous friends. We just need to go with the flow. Don't let any of these fears stand in your way, do what is best for you! Your Spark friends will still be with you!! While some of the challenges may no longer apply to you, there will be new challenges, new goals! emoticon
    1759 days ago
    I don't know about you but I keep challenging myself and growing. So I go on to other challenges to continue to grow. Even when I hit my goal weight there are maintenance teams too. Always steps to take and grow. Moni
    1759 days ago
    Yes, and they're not silly. Since I'm hoping to reach goal by the end of the current 5% challenge, I asked around about that specifically because I did not want to have to leave my team once I do.

    I recently learned that we can still belong to and participate in the 5% challenge teams after we reach goal weight. We can participate as "maintainers" and there are a number that do this. When you are a maintainer, your weight leader will just not count your weight into the % calculations, so you don't hurt your team if you don't lose. Your fitness minutes and LTGL points still count, and the maintainers I know who still participate say that it helps them in maintaining by staying accountable and connected to the community that helped them reach goal.

    So no fear! Go ahead toward your goals, without worry of losing anything here! emoticon
    1759 days ago
    They are not silly! I agree with you....Our minds/fear can play terrible games with us....This website helps us deal with all of it.....Keep reading, sparking, and working through it! You can do it! Hang in there....Best wishes on your journey.....!
    1759 days ago
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