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Day 409 - Who is this ranty-Mc-Rantperson?
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Friday, August 02, 2013



Good morning everyone.

I wanted to thank all of you for your kind words and supportive comments on my last blog. I think I should take one moment to clarify - I don't think that there is anything wrong AT ALL with people who want to compare their times and compete with one another. I, personally, am having an insecure, uncomfortable moment with it. It's MY issue. Do I think anyone in my running groups thinks less of me because I run slower than them? None of the ones I would consider friends and good people. I wanted to express in my blog how -I- felt about not being able to 'compete' with times that are far beyond anything I can ever hope for. That's all. It leaves me feeling inadequate, and like I said I don't expect people to stop competing because it makes -me- feel bad.

Because, really, it comes down to my being able to have pride in what I can do. I can run for three hours at a time, giving it my all. Can a person who runs a half marathon at a 6 minute mile pace do the same? Can they compete a marathon at that pace? Not many people can. So, I get my jollies off the fact that I'm running for a longer time - even if someone can cover the distance in half the amount of time :)

Now, onto another rant that I think I will save for another day. I happened upon the following on Facebook (Source: https://www.facebook.com/Adipo
seActivist) yesterday:

SOCIETY:
You’re fat. Get off your fat ass and get some exercise.
FAT WOMAN:
Okay, I’d love to. Let’s get some workout clothes!
CLOTHING INDUSTRY:
Oh, we don’t have your size. Fat people don’t exercise so there’s no market for it. Have some men’s sweatpants and a man’s t-shirt.
FAT WOMAN:
What about my boobs?
CLOTHING INDUSTRY:
We don’t have sports bras for you either. There’s a few specialty shops, if you want to spend hundred of dollars on a bra you’re going to sweat all over.
FAT WOMAN:
I guess I’ll just double-bra. Now, I need a gym membership.
GYM:
Oh. Okay. I guess.
GYM MEMBER:
*dirty looks at fat woman* *makes a big deal out of sanitizing anything fat woman touches* *complains to gym about having to look at fat people* *generally treats fat woman like sh!t*
FAT WOMAN:
I’m not comfortable here at all. Maybe I’ll just go for a walk.
PASSER-BY:
Hey, fatty! Don’t crack the pavement!
ANOTHER PASSER-BY:
*condescending* Oh, it’s so great that you’re trying to lose weight.
FAT WOMAN:
I’m not. I just want to get in better shape.
ANOTHER PASSER-BY:
But you have to lose weight! You’re so unhealthy!
YET ANOTHER PASSER-BY:
Mooooo! Look at the cow!
FAT WOMAN:
Yeah. I don’t think I want to be out here anymore. Maybe I’ll just buy some home exercise equipment.
SPORTING GOODS STORE:
Sorry. The weight limit on our equipment is 30 kilos less than you weigh. You’ll have to lose some weight if you want to exercise at home. Have you tried a gym? Or maybe just go for a walk?
FAT WOMAN:
Yeah. Thanks.
FAT WOMAN:

FAT WOMAN:
I’m out of ideas.
SOCIETY:
Haven’t you lost any weight yet? Fat people are so lazy.


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I can't think of any better way to express my opinion on this post than how I did in the comments section:

I stumbled on this and while I completely understand where it's intentions lie (and there are kernels of truth within each of the examples) there is something to be said for having the strength to triumph over perceptions and our own self-doubt. When I weighed 230lbs I could relate with every single thing up there. So, I decided I wouldn't pay attention to the "moo's" and laughter and degradation. I took responsibility for what I wanted to do and I DID it. It was slow. It was painful. I got healthy. I'm still getting healthy. Sure, all of those very real situations suck - and they kill any positive feelings of empowerment people may be developing; but, it's up to the individual what they do with them. You find a way. You get an exercise DVD. You double up bras. You don't look 'cute' for a little while. You choose to remember that what you're doing isn't for anyone but yourself. You choose to love yourself - and in doing that you're able to make any changes you want to see. The negativity spread by posts like this one makes me very sad - and only reinforces people's thoughts that they will always be the way they are because no matter what society, industry, and their own self-talk tells them so.



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I've been very ranty lately. I think it's all the time I have to sit around and think - and the lack of almost medatative activities I miss engaging in (like running and yoga and biking.) So, I'm cooped up in my own head - and it's not turning out to be the most positive experience.

Still, what do you guys think? Am I totally off base on my feelings on this particular post?



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  • GINGERLY4
    I'm the heaviest person at Krav Maga. It feels uncomfortable at times, but if I didn't go my daughters probably wouldn't go either. I have to suck it up and put my big girl panties on and remind myself that if I don't jiggle it, I won't lose it.
    2250 days ago
  • SIMONEKP
    They forgot the cure for all that rubbish, back slap the idiot who dares to moo or make any other degrading sounds or comments.
    2264 days ago
  • GRACEOMALLEY
    I quite enjoy your rants - so keep 'em coming!
    Once again, I have a theory I believe holds true more often than not - 95 to 97 per cent of humans are neither as smart nor as courteous as my dog. That said, it makes it clearer where the nimrods and other nasty twerps come from. Thank the powers that be you are not among their numbers (oh - the horror of it if you were) and continue to have strong and well placed faith in yourself!
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    2267 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/2/2013 2:18:38 PM
  • REFFIE1

    I can't believe someone would be that cruel to moo and comment on a heavier person exercising. If I saw that I would definitely speak up and tell the person off.
    I have to say even at my thinner weight it is still intimidating to use my gym. Everyone there is for the most part young and thin. A handful of people are older and heavier. However, having said that I have found people I connect with and now feel at home there. I think to get it done you just have to wear blinders and treat yourself to a healthy life. What other people think is none of your business but you are your business and you should attend to it. Anyhow, that is how I like to think of these things. emoticon
    2267 days ago
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