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Mind Over Mood: the Sequel

Sunday, July 28, 2013

Yup, those techniques I'd blogged about, from CBT cognitive behaviour therapy (Beck-related) really work, at least for me.


So long as I'm continuing to work 'em . . . and I am working 'em, ploughing through the moody stuff pretty successfully. If I actually time a moody episode -- rarely does it last longer than 20-40 minutes before I get distracted! Particularly when I'm actually looking to distract myself. Even when I'm thinking temporarily that my life is a vale of tears, in truth I don't naturally wallow in gloom all that long at any given time. Before I think how ridiculous and self-indulgent that has to be. Before I notice how spectacular my window boxes of bright red geraniums are this summer. Or hear that peregrine falcon again. Or feel my golden retriever's head just nudging under the palm of my hand, letting me know: Charlie's right beside me. Always worth reminding myself too.

Helps to keep moving, helps to be outside, helps to eat healthily, helps to laugh lots (at myself most of all) and to have fun: it all helps.

So: given that I felt it necessary to embark on a refresher of Mind Over Mood: would I vanquish all negative emotion if I could?

No, I don't think so.

Read an article yesterday which reminded me that actually -- emotion is what makes us human, builds empathy, signals what's important, signals what "core beliefs" require revision. Reminds me what I need to address or manage or change up.

So: I'm doing that too.

And my salads are ready for tomorrow, my outfits pressed for the work week (more ironing in summer, with the lightweight cottons and linens . . . but they're so lovely to wear), my tee time booked -- and the latte I didn't get to yesterday beckons!!

Results of yesterday's shopping? Found myself a very very nice white leather shoulder bag, large size of course (I carry around a lot!!) and it was half price . . . I'd been looking for awhile, including at thrift and liquidation because my old one was pretty shabby, had really needed replacing for a couple of years. But I actually bought this one at a regular store, timing for the summer sales. When I asked if the ticket was the "best price": turned out it was not, and I was offered $30 less, with a dust bag thrown in. Fresh start! This will be great for the rest of the summer, and next summer too . . .
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  • KANOE10
    How fun to find a new purse for summer and get it on sale. I have been looking for a white denim jacket for summer and want it on sale.

    It is good that you realize that the moods only last for 20-40 minutes.. I do the same thing with cravings. They will go away in time. You are doing a great job of focusing on the positive things and getting active.

    You are also doing an excellent job of cooking ahead and taking care of yourself with your clothes being ready for the week!

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    1757 days ago
    Here's to accepting our moods - acknowledging them and moving on. (Particularly when one of the ways we can do so involves laughter!)
    1757 days ago
    Our emotions definitely are what make us human - as long as we don't wallow in self-pity, they usually are a way of working through a situation.

    But yeah, upbeat attitudes certainly work better than being depressed about everything!
    1757 days ago
    The danger for me sometimes is not the lows in my mood, but sometimes the "blahs" I get stuck in when I'm OVER-distracting myself from important matters and avoiding taking risky action which may not be the most "pleasant."

    1757 days ago
    A nice follow-up to the first blog on this topic.

    Those distractions that you allow are all very attractive -- they offer a little beauty and sweetness to chase away any gloom.

    And congrats on your successful shopping!


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  • DALID414
    I've always admired women who have white leather anything! I suppose I'm still at the point in my life where I worry too much about getting it 'dirty'.
    1757 days ago
    Congrats on the great bag find!
    I, too, want the ability to feel all the emotions. I'd like more time with the positive ones, though emoticon
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  • PHOENIX1949
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    1757 days ago
    "Mind over Mood" I just read another blog about that.
    That's significant and something I was meant to remember.

    Too often a bad mood means I reach for DH's junk food.

    Mind over Mood...Mind over Mood - YES!
    1758 days ago
    I like your haggling skills : )
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  • NANCY-
    It is all a matter of perspective. I'm glad that you find ways out of the gloom. When you look for the roses you see the beautiful fragrant blossoms, not the thorns (even though we still need to be aware of their presence. )
    1758 days ago
    Thanks for sharing. Think I'll look for that book. Love your attitude and mindfulness!
    1758 days ago
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