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Renewing an Old Mindset

Thursday, July 25, 2013

Something I read today, which was a reminder of something I learned when I first started reading articles on SP, was an article about setting goals. The point that struck me was how we often set goals that are negative, like I will stop eating sugar, or I will not eat fattening foods. All kinds of I WILL NOT statements. It is more motivating to set positive goal, like I will drink eight glasses of water a day. Or eat 5 freggies. My NOT statement lately is that I will not binge for a week. Or I will not let my emotions drive me to eating. Rather than "I will be within calorie range this week." And "I will do something constructive with my time if I feel stressed." I suppose there is a subtle difference between the things I'd be telling myself, but just having the positive goal sets me up to win. Just like the old "don't think about zebras" idea. Of course all you'll think about is zebras.

But even before reading this and thinking about this today, last night I had written to many of you that I was desperate to find the old me. The me that was able to lose 70 pounds in a year and stay within a 1300 calorie range month after month for years and kept the weight off. I worked out pretty consistently, and when I had a period that I wasn't too into working out, I maintained my calorie intake and still kept my weight in check and didn't freak out about the ebb and flow of having a drive to work out. Writing this dream to people several times made it begin to feel like a possibility and I set a few new goals. These goals are similar to the ones I set back in 2000, and were sustainable. I feel good about my new goals and attitude. I feel hope that I will find the old me!

Writing blogs and messages to SparkFriends sure does help. Putting it out there and being encouraged by others really makes a difference, don't you think?

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  • KANOE10
    It really does help to write your goals..you feel accountable and identify with them. I am sure you are going to find the strength in you to lose the weight and keep it off.

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    1727 days ago
    we all need help and support at times. Our spark friends help just by been around. Nice thoughtful blog
    1728 days ago
  • POPSY190
    You're right about the zebra thinking! That's how it works with me with DON'T resolutions. SP is very good for putting us in a more positive frame of mind!
    1728 days ago
    it is so comforting to know there are sparkers ready to support and encourage. i find it invaluable - no man is an island.
    1728 days ago
  • CHERYLA2012
    Yes! The support and encouragement from my fellow Sparkers is invaluable to me and I know I would be lost without it.

    I'm so happy to see that you're going to use "I will" statements. Attract the positive and goodness that they will surely bring to you!

    Yay for feeling more upbeat and decided.
    1728 days ago
    I would be lost without my sparkfriends. You can do it...I have faith in you.
    1728 days ago
    I agree too!

    Negatively-framed goals are real downers. Positively-stated goals are something we can aspire and rise up to.

    Reading blogs about Scale and Non-Scale Victories is inspiring to me. Seeing before and after pictures is inspiring. It makes me feel that if they can do it, I can too!

    I am glad you are feeling re-inspired, and I can't wait to see what you do next!
    1728 days ago
    I completely agree! Sparking works! Encouraging and being encouraged is so helpful!

    Thinking and writing and speaking in a positive way is so important!!!

    1728 days ago
  • LINDA!
    I agree. When I read other's blogs I feel that I am learning something new everyday. By reading of their experiences, it helps me with my journey.
    1728 days ago
    I totally agree. This morning I updated my status and posted on our team check in that I am looking forward to getting through the day and go running. The reason I posted that is because I am having a zero motivation day.

    I want to go home, veg out on the couch with snacks and the remote, my old habit when I'm home alone. So now that I have put it out there, I will more than likely get my run in after work. Most of my blogs are really me talking myself into continuing a healthy habit or attitude instead of sinking back into old ways.

    You are on to something here. Keep going!


    1728 days ago
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