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It's been rough

Monday, July 22, 2013

I was out shopping at walmart last Friday night and I got a call from my mom. I called her back like 10 minutes later and what she told me has been debilitating for the past 3 days. Dad is dead, is what she told me. It happened very suddenly. He was working the day before and came down with what he thought was the flu. We have speculations of what it was but all and all it's been a relief. He was in so much pain with his knees and with other health issues. The quality of his life was not very good and I know he wasn't telling us half of the pain he was in. He worked the day before and even did surgery at his clinic. The roughest part of this has been telling people. My mom ran the office with him and has been calling ppl canceling appointments even the day after he died. I donno how she is doing it. I called one person for her today and I burst out crying on the phone. She is being very strong. They were together just a few weeks shorts of 45 yrs. They met at 16 and 17. I came home yesterday and today and going back again tomorrow. Gotta help my mom continue to put the pieces together of his business. He kinda left us a huge mess. It's almost a blessing I am unemployed right now and I can help her. Oh ya and he left us with turtles and tortoises, 2 cockatiels, 3 cats, and a lot of bonsai trees. And no one in my family likes anything living but me. My cousin contacted me today and said she would take his reptiles. She lives in Texas though and can't get them transported for a month. But hey that was a huge weight off me! It's gonna pan out, it's just gonna take some time. Thanks for listening. I will be back and exercising and motivated again soon.
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    Oh my god, Julie. I am so absolutely sorry for your loss.
    1758 days ago
    Oh I am so sorry! I cannot even begin to imagine the pain you are feeling. Sending many good vibes your way. *hug* Right now just focus on grieving with your mum. That is all there is to do. Hug her as much as you can, it's the best medicine. emoticon I'm so sorry.
    1759 days ago
    Sorry for your loss! My heart goes out to you!

    1760 days ago
    I am so sorry for your loss. It must be brutal for your mom! It is good you can spend time with her right now.

    My thoughts are with you and your family.
    1761 days ago
    I've been thinking about you all week. (((hug)))
    1763 days ago
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  • JACKIE542
    1764 days ago
    So sorry to hear this news.... sending you warm thoughts...
    1764 days ago
    Oh no, Julie! I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you. I so enjoyed hearing you talk about your parents and I really related to both of them. I always knew they were very special people to have raised a daughter like you. And, I related to the special relationship they had with each other. You are the wonderful legacy of their special love for one another.

    I know you will be a big help to your mom. Take care of yourself. emoticon emoticon
    1764 days ago
  • THESB25
    I know I've said it a million times, but I'm always here if you need someone. You are an amazing woman and I can only imagine how difficult this must be for you and your mom right now. Pace yourself with things, give yourself time, cry, grieve, walk, think, breathe. You have a right to your feelings...even the tough ones. We love you here on Spark and we're here when you need us. emoticon
    1764 days ago
    Oh my goodness! I am so very sorry for your loss. This is so heartbreaking. You and your Mom are being SO strong through this horrible time.

    Thinking of you and your family!

    1764 days ago
    I am so sorry!! I can't imagine how tough this is right now for both you and your Mom - I'm really glad you have each other though. Sending hugs and love you way.
    1764 days ago
    Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry to hear this!!!! Sending you lots and lots of hugs and condolences and support - and let me know if you need to "talk" we can do that! ( l lost my mom about 10 years ago, and I know how rough it is.)

    Take care of yourself!
    1764 days ago
    1764 days ago
    Sorry about your dad. I hope your mom is able to get through this difficult time, along with you and your family.
    1764 days ago
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