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Monday, July 22, 2013

Today’s SparkCoach was about moderation. One thing that really resonated for me was the idea that you can’t and won’t and don’t have to be “perfect.” The message was this – when you strive for perfection and miss, it sets you up for a lack of desire to get right back on track the next minute or hour or day. When you strive for perfection and miss, it sets you up for guilt. When you strive for perfection and miss, it sets you up for anger and frustration with yourself and the people / situations around you that “Aren’t helping.” When you strive for perfection and miss, it doesn’t give you the freedom to listen to your body when it says, “I really am too busy / too hungry / too tired to go with the plan today.”

I feel like I’m hearing this message a lot lately – it was in a parenting magazine that I read last night. It said that cortisol (a stress hormone) levels are highest in working moms in the first hours of the day, when we’re trying to get ourselves and our kids up and out the door for the day. And that sometimes in those crunch times, things go wrong. “Perfection is not an option,” the article said, meaning that we can’t and won’t and don’t have to be perfect. We just have to get it right enough for everyone to make it through the day.

It’s a message I’m hearing a lot lately. But am I listening?
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  • OOLALA53
    Hi! You sent me a goodie because of a comment I made about stress not being able to make you eat, only to make you want to eat.

    My eating "guru" Reinhard Engels is a huge proponent of moderation. Consistent moderation. Even "strict" moderation! He had very good success with moderate eating and exercise habits, and a system of simple recording of his new habits. He made them available on the web for free starting in 2004 and it's still running. I feel it has saved my sanity with regard to eating! I honestly still haven't made exercise consistent but my eating habits are basically in check. Not pristine. Not eating the very least I can. Every time I get too caught up in considering being more radical in my approach, it seems to backfire, and I'm reminded that it's usually driven by something that doesn't support my real needs, but more some wish to make myself fit some media-created ideal. If moderation gets me there, so be it. But it is its own reward. emoticon
    1729 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/27/2013 1:22:48 AM
  • TONYAB2000
    So true! As moms we struggle with being "perfect" for everyone, our kids, our spouse,our families and it's a tough road when it's impossible to be perfect. I have to remind myself often that no one can be perfect but still, it's hard to give that up. Thanks for sharing!
    1732 days ago
    It is a message I need to hear over and over again, too.

    No, we don't have to be perfect.

    Someone once said to me: "Perfection isn't interesting!"

    I definitely would rather be interesting and succeed than try to be perfect and fail.

    Love your post. Be well.
    1734 days ago
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