Self-Depriving Rules -- Anyone else?
Monday, July 22, 2013
So, I am curious if anyone else is guilty of self-depriving rules? You know the ones....
Once I reach a certain size/goal/weight I can:
buy a pair of shorts
get a pedicure
get a massage
take a trip
buy a shirt
buy a dvd
have a girls night out
have a beer
take a trip to starbucks
eat a donut
have a dinner out
get a new pair of shoes
These are only just a few items that I have socked away in my own brain that I have subjected myself to. When going into a weight loss program, setting up rewards for obtaining a certain goal is cool and a nice way to treat oneself. It is good to be able to reward something that has been worked hard for. That being said, self-depriving rules are another thing all together. Putting one's life on hold until a certain number is reached or a goal is met is not.
I have been guilty over this. I have been one that wouldn't allow myself to go buy new shoes or jeans or get a pedicure until I reached a certain weight goal. I have been guilty of self depriving rules. I have been guilty of putting my life on hold until I have seen a certain number. Not allowing myself to enjoy life because I haven't been that ideal size or weight.
How dumb is that? I mean, really? Life is too short not to enjoy each day as much as possible even if I am not the ideal size I see myself as wanting to be. What is really wrong with treating myself from time to time? Am I any less of a person now than I will be when I reach my ideal size? No. I am the same person I was when I was bigger and I am the same person I will be when I am smaller. So, why not allow myself to enjoy things at any stage of the game?
Implementing this new rule into my life has been fun. I set a goal that I was going to allow myself to go and get a pedicure (a HUGE luxury for this mom of 4 ... sitting in a chair that massages my back while someone makes my feet feel good and my toes pretty is a HUGE luxury) when I reached my 5% loss. I got an invite from my b/f to go and get one so instead of saying "no thanks" I said YES! I went and got my pedi, enjoyed a starbucks coffee but most of all I enjoyed some time catching up with a person who I rarely get to see and miss the hell out of! It was pure bliss.
If I would have been partaking in self depriving rules, I would have missed the experience. Getting a pedicure is nice however, getting the experience is even more. Sitting there, enjoying a few minutes away from the kids, slowly drinking my coffee, spending time with my best friend was the experience.
Life is too short not to enjoy. Experiencing life at any stage of the game is where it is at for me now. Not partaking in self depriving rules and putting my life on hold until some magical number is obtained is done.
From here on out if I want a pedicure or to treat myself to a cup of coffee or even do the dreaded jeans shopping before I reach my goal size, I am deserving no matter where I am at with my place in the journey. I am done with the self depriving rules.
I am curious, has anyone else been guilty of this? Putting life on hold until a certain goal has been reached?