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The Ultimatum

Friday, July 19, 2013

So, DH and I have been doing some serious soul searching together to help us get over the incident mentioned a couple blog posts ago. It's been quite a journey and he gave me an honest opinion of my weight loss journey thus far. It was something I didn't want to hear, but I needed to. I have been "on a diet" or "trying to lose weight" since high school and have had a moderate amount of success some of the time.

A couple days ago when I stopped in to medical weight loss I was pretty adamant that the program was not for me, even though their approach was pretty logical and I liked the fact that I would be monitored by a doctor throughout the whole process. They also guaranteed I would lose 130lbs in 11 months or I get all my money back. DH makes the point that for 11 months my diet would be restricted without really any wiggle room but in less than a year I would basically be a new woman. It's a small sacrifice, yet if feels like a big one. No cheat days, no eating a few fries off his plate, and no eating out. Period.

I want to lose weight but I want to do it my way. The problem is that my way hasn't been very successful. I'm 28 now and I have been trying to make a change since age 14. I don't want to enter my 30s stuck at the same weight with the same physical limitations so something REALLY has to give.

So, I gave myself an ultimatum. I have to lose 5lbs a month every month, NOT cumulatively. Meaning if I lose 8lbs this month I still need to lose 5lbs next month. I get one mulligan at a time, but if I go 2 months in a row without hitting the 5lbs goal, then it's off to medical weight loss I go and let the professionals handle it. It's not what I want, but I would choose it over hitting 30 and not making progress.

So, if I want to do this on my own I have to prove that I CAN do this on my own, for good. I have the key, I just need to use it. :-]
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    I once worked with someone who did Medical Weight Loss. She lost a lot of weight while she followed their plan and guidelines. ..and gained it all back once the program was over. Because she didn't really learn by doing it all hersekf and didn't address the underlying causes of why she over ate. So once off the program the underlying issues were still there waiting.

    Reading between the lines of your post. ..and not trying to pry. ..I certainly hope that conversation didn't go down the road that it is your fault at the end of the day because of your weight. My ex tried that one, amongst others. At the end of the day any comments along those lines are a coward's cop-out way of trying to avoid responsibility for their own actions.
    1765 days ago
    Well, it makes sense to me to do it this way. You are giving yourself the chance to do it by yourself.
    I can say that, given the research outcomes that say that 97 percent of those who lose weight on a diet, gain it all back later (and sometimes more), I can doubt if the results of the medical weight loss program will last. Before starting such a thing I'd inquire about follow up and support with maintenance. I also would not call it a 'small sacrifice'. How we eat is part of how we live, I could say, of who we ARE. Making drastic changes in one's lifestyle is quite hard.
    1769 days ago
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