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And that's why I can't.....

Thursday, July 18, 2013

I just heard myself saying these words to my very energetic husband. I was explaining to him why I got angry last night when he wanted me to commit to going bike riding a week from now with friends. I was reluctant, he pushed and prodded, and finally we had almost a fight going on! emoticon

I came up with reasons/excuses that included: 1) These friends are better riders than I am, 2) I won't be able to keep up, 3) it will probably be hot, and 4) I haven't trained enough to ride 30 miles comfortably. "And that's why I can't....."

Then I read a SP blog about your inner lazy and warrior (I can't recall who wrote it but it was great). Who runs your life, your "Lazy" or your "Warrior"? I'm afraid right now I've been letting my Lazy take over. I'm not pushing/advancing. I'm in a comfortable rut just doing what I can do without a lot of effort on my part. Walking the dog, check. emoticon Doing 15 minutes of yoga, check emoticon . It's fine to be moving but its time to push myself and if I'm honest, I haven't been doing that at all. And I've been making no real progress towards my fitness/health goals.

I've been telling myself that's OK. I'm comfortable here, just a few pounds overweight. After all, I'm in my 60's! And that's why I can't.... emoticon Oh, I think I'm beginning to see how I've buried my warrior.

Come on, Warrior Karen! Even if you're not "ready" for next week's 30 miler, it's time to start working towards it. Choose tougher bike routes for your morning rides, do more strength work (that would mean start your strength work because I always let this slide) and give that ride next week your best shot. Your friends will make allowances for your fitness level - they will just be glad you came along. And you'll ride those 30 miles and be glad you did. emoticon But I will pray for cooler weather emoticon and if my luck holds I'll get it!

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    The writer was Wubby and she is a favorite of mine! She has some really wonderful things to say.
    You are doing such a good job of finding that inner warrior! You CAN do this, it will just be a matter of making sure you don't push yourself. Take breaks, drink lots of water and take as long as you need. Your friends will be happy that you came along, after all they did ask you in the first place! If you let them know you will do your best and they say no problem, then go and have a good time!
    I'll send my moral support!
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    1735 days ago
  • SKATER787
    Karen, I'm glad to hear that you can turn around if you had to. I didn't think a self assessment was an excuse. Let them know ahead of time that you'll do your best, but you can't guarantee that you can keep up. 30 mile is not a piece of cake. As for what you should have, would have, could have done to be more ready, so what if you haven't? You will do it the next time, when you're ready. Until then, enjoy your ride!
    1736 days ago
  • SKATER787
    I thought those were legit reasons. You don't want to drag the group down or push yourself beyond your limits. If you know the route, how about have an alternate plan where you and DH can shorten the route and meet up with them? Let the group know and agree in advance of your alternate plan if you can't keep up. To be fair, they got to give you an out too.
    1736 days ago
    I think over the years my inner warrior got lost. I've been like a hoarder with to many excuses. I'm going to summon the professionals (aka "Sparkfriends") and find my inner warrior. Thanks for the great Blog! emoticon
    1736 days ago
    Great job changing your perspective and releasing your inner warrior Karen! Hope you get a cool day, and enjoy the ride and day with your husband and friends.
    1736 days ago
    Just do the best you can and tell yourself how good the ride is for your health. (If they are really friends - they will know you are giving it your best shot). Prayers coming for a cool day! emoticon
    1736 days ago
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