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Hmmm...I Really Am Changing

Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Well, I took everyone's advice under account and thought about things yesterday. After I collected my emotions back in check like they were after Friday's decisions which actually left me feeling calm and happy and at peace for the first time in a very long time, I decided I'm tired of my family's BS. I really am. Now, I love my family with all my heart. But I can't take their drama anymore. It takes away all of my happiness that I finally managed to build for myself. After that realization, I decided that I was gonna call and talk to both of them. Well, actually, I was going to scold them for being childish and stupid and selfish. And I actually grew a pair and did just that. I called them both last night and literally scolded them like their mother quite frankly should have. She really should have told them to pull their heads out of their @$$es and grow up. But she's far too much of a pacifist to do that. So I did what's probably not the absolute best thing for me because I decided years ago to stop being theirs and their kids' parent like I spent most of my life doing and stepped in and scolded them like a mother. I told them point blank that if they didn't pull their heads out of their @$$es and grow up and stop the BS drama, I was going to get married in Vegas. Nobody would be allowed to come to the wedding. They said they'd talk to each other, so we shall see what happens. And I am very prepared to follow through on my threat. Like I said, I'm tired of their crap. It's affecting my life, my happiness, and I'm done with it. If I have to, I'll cut ties from them. Not the happiest decision, I know. I love my family. But I love being happy and peaceful more. I'm just a little surprised at myself. I actually stood up for myself for a change. And it's amazing. So, I guess time will tell the ending of this tale.
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    Good for you...I'm kind of in the same boat...I don't know if I want to spend a whole bunch of time, money and energy on a ceremony for us...when our families will probably be voicing their opinions left and right. We plan on getting married 3/1/13..... not sure if the families will be invited or not yet....let me know how it goes....

    I thought if we eloped, it would be to get married on the beach in San quiet and peaceful and no bickering amongst families! emoticon
    1801 days ago
    I am so glad you're looking out for you and your fiance on this! It's hard to have to act like a parent with adults who should know better. But if you don't call them on it, you simply encourage more of the same behavior. It isn't what you need right now. Hang in there!
    1801 days ago
    I'm glad you had a good talk with both of them. I bet things will turn out okay!

    Of course they both love you and will realize that their squabbling might drive you to do something that you don't want to do! Not to mention that they won't be able to get back the wonderful memory of your wedding day.

    Good job :)
    1801 days ago
    Sorry you are going through that! Hey, an alternative to Vegas is gatlinburg, TN. They have chapels all over the place and the mountains are so beautiful! :)
    1801 days ago
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