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Remembering All That I Have Gained from Losing 170 Lbs.

Wednesday, July 17, 2013

Today, as I do every day, I was reading Anele's blog over at

Anele started her weight loss journey several years ago and is on her journey with her "Mister." She also has a Spark page at "Not About The Face." She and her "Mister" exercise religiously and she shares wonderful recipes and products and insight on her blog. I feel like she is one of my best weight loss buddies, even though I've never met her!

Today, her blog particularly hit home. She is frustrated by her recent lack of progress, but had a friend visiting this weekend who reminded her to reflect back to where she used to be and appreciate all that she has gained, even though she's not at her goal weight yet.

That is important for all of us, in this weight loss/maintenance struggle. Before her over 200-lb. weight loss, Anele was limited in where she could go and what she could do. Those limits were one of the biggest factors in my decision to change my lifestyle back in late 2009. Anele is a lot younger than me, but the older I got, the more limitations my weight was causing in my life. I couldn't even stand up very long. You don't think about this much, but just about everywhere you go, standing is part of it. I was constantly looking for a sturdy, wide chair, or preferably bench, to plop down in, and sometimes that wasn't easy to find. Vacations became very limited, because walking was so difficult for me. Just a few feet, and I was huffing, puffing and hurting! Even restaurants we could go to became more restricted. We had to find a place to eat where the parking lot was right outside the door, so I didn't have to walk very far, and where they had tables with wide chairs and not just booths or worse yet--high tables with the horrendous bar stool seating. I remember dreading to go to one of my favorite restaurants, Red Lobster, simply because their chairs are so narrow! But I somehow managed to squeeze my wide rear into one of those little chairs and partake of their delicious cheesy biscuits. I always feared breaking one of those little chairs however. Today, I am amazed at how roomy those tight little chairs are! And I never eat their biscuits anymore.

In my comment on Anele's blog today, I remembered the time, (not so long ago), when I wanted to sit at the table with regular chairs behind the bowling lane, so I could watch Du and my boys bowl. The table had already been claimed by someone else, but I decided they wouldn't mind if I shared their table. Turns out--they DID mind! It turned into an embarrassing screaming match when I was rudely told to "Get out." I took offense and yelled back and it was so humiliating. That is not who I am! Usually I meekly go away and try not to call attention to myself, especially when I was morbidly obese. But that table was my only seating option! The whole scene was all because I did not fit on the bar stool seating located right behind the bowling lanes, nor could I stand up and watch. It just hurt my knees, hips and back too much.

In this day-to-day struggle to lose weight and then maintain that loss, it is important not to lose sight of all we are gaining by the self-discipline we must exercise every moment of our lives. There are so many aspects of my life that have improved since my weight loss. Over two years into maintenance, sometimes I forget, and then it gets too easy to slip back into old habits. Thanks for the needed reminder today Anele!!!
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  • RUNGRL2013
    you're an amazing woman; and your writing has a very pure voice. I think anyone can see their story in this and thanks for the reminder to not forget how far we've all come.
    1764 days ago
    I am so happy with what I have gained in losing 100+ pounds it has truly changed my life for the better!
    1766 days ago
  • CANNIE50
    Actually, I am glad to hear you yelled back at that rude, table hogging bully. Sheesh. Your life is dramatically different and I am so glad you are so aware of how far you have come, and that you do not take it for granted, at all.
    1767 days ago
    This is a really good blog and it sounds like through your journey you have learned a lot and I think that really helps us that haven't got there yet So thanks to you both ( Anele), and can't wait emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    1771 days ago
    Thank you for the reminder - it is easy to forget how far we have come and the struggles we went through.
    On a side note - how rude of those people at the bowling alley! On so many levels. I am enraged, and I am glad you held your own.

    1771 days ago
    It will always be a struggle for me too! I am a food addict, emotional eater and secret eater. You have done awesome and I look to you for inspiration on my journey.

    Keep up the good work and much success on your journey!

    emoticon ~Pat~ emoticon

    1771 days ago
  • -RUBIES-
    Thank you for the reminder too! Towards the end of the year, I will meet 2 years of maintenance and I am thrilled. I can't say I really find it a struggle, but, I surely don't ever want to become relaxed.

    This is why...
    1771 days ago
  • KERRYG155
    Great blog and yes it is important to remember the past and all we've been through.
    1771 days ago
    Looking back on your previous struggles, it is easy to see how far you have come and what you have overcome. To those who still struggle, there is hope. You expressed it well. HUGS!
    1771 days ago
    emoticon Reflecting on where we Started is VITALLY Important if we have any Real Hope of Maintaining our Losses AND Continuing to build New, Healthy Habit to incorporate into our Daily Lives.
    THANK YOU for the reminder!! emoticon emoticon
    1772 days ago
    You're very welcome! I'm glad you were able to do a little reflecting of your own!

    1772 days ago
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