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Negative Tapes

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Thank you to everyone who commented on my last blog post and messaged me! Your support has buoyed me, and you have given much to think about over the past few days.

TIGER_LILY_613 suggested that I blog about some of the things that have been paralyzing me and my efforts to work toward my weight loss goals and my health. She’s definitely right – talking about this and getting feedback is a great way to neutralize the power these issues have had in my life and gain some much-needed outside perspectives. So I am going to blog about one of the issues I have been dealing with over these past several months.

WMAYFIELD talked about negative tapes, and yes, these have been a problem for me. One particular negative tape she mentioned that would surface for me while reading success stories was this: "I should be able to do this on my own.” It would be followed quickly with "If they could do it, why can't I? What a loser I am." Those messages have left me with such feelings of failure that even basic activities toward health have felt insurmountable.

Now the thing is -- those negative tapes are so far from the truth. As if those who have been successful did it on their own? No, they didn't, and they have readily said that they are where they are because of the support they got. But it's oftentimes hard to hear the sure, steady voice of truth when the negative tapes are blaring their messages at top volume.

So I am calling out all of those damaging messages right now. They are counterproductive. They are abusive. They are LIES. And they have no place in my life or anyone else’s.
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    Time to wipe those old tapes clean and replace them with empowering messages to counter them! That is what my therapist & I have been working on.

    SparkMail me if you're interested in hearing more!

    1736 days ago
    I log into SP every day for my daily dose of motivation. I could not have done this and continue to do this on my own.
    Every time you catch yourself thinking a negative thought, stop, and counter it with a positive one.
    While, initially, we all come here to lose weight, this journey is so much more. It's about finding balance, it's about learning happiness. Once you get the ball rolling in the right direction, success will follow.

    1739 days ago
    I have come to believe that the key to weight loss is self worth. We all became overweight because we didn't love ourselves enough not to. In order to lose it we have learn that we are worth the effort. I have spent most of my life feeling like I was less than worthy because of my weight. As long as I can remember my self-esteem has been non-existent on a good day. But recently I feel the fluttering of pride in myself. My friends say I seem so much happier. I won't go so far as to say I LOVE myself, but for the most part I think I'm pretty awesome.

    Just a long winded way of telling YOU that you can do this but you need believe that you are worth the effort and the struggle and hardship to do it.
    1740 days ago
    They ARE lies!!

    Something else to keep in mind about those success stories--none of them happened overnight. None of them happened without tears and obstacles and self doubt. All we see when we look at those success stories is the number of pounds lost and the before and after pictures (at least that's what I always focused on). I really have to focus on the process and not the weight. It's so much easier to drink 8 cups of water, eat in range, eat 5-6 freggies, exercise at least 10 min a day than it is to lose ___ # of pounds. These are things within our control. The # of pounds, not so much.

    Yes, I've lost 100 pounds. I still struggle with identifying myself as a "success story." Primarily because I still have at least 50 to go. When I question my "success" I really have to stop and think about my lifestyle change and not the weight loss number, because the lifestyle change is where I feel the sense of empowerment and pride.

    You are such a beautiful person--inside and out. You are capable of reaching your health and fitness goals. You are worthy of the success story that lies within you.

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    1740 days ago
  • LISA579
    Good for you. You can do this if you do it in a way you can mantain. Soem people go so gung ho they have nno hope of keeping it up. You can do this in a way that works for you i now you can
    1740 days ago
    I love your blog. Thanks for sharing, I agree with you.
    1740 days ago
  • _BABE_
    Even as we speak, I wonder who I am fooling thinking I will ever get to 199. I think about it but I guess my first concern is 299. Today I went for groceries and I have this bad habit of getting juicy pear jelly beans. I am not sure why I feel the need to have a reward when I have barely been on track three days. Is it a negative track that plays and says hey go ahead you won't do it anyway???
    1740 days ago
    I needed to read this tonight! I have that same negative tape running through my mind oftentimes (I actually just blogged about it, myself - crazy!)... but, I LOVE the statement you made: "They are counterproductive. They are abusive. They are LIES. And they have no place in my life or anyone else’s." Thanks! & Good luck!
    1740 days ago
  • TIGER_LILY_613
    Atta girl ! Way to go ! emoticon
    1740 days ago
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