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When you don't want to lose - Tales From 100# Down

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Monday, July 15, 2013

You may have read that title and thought "how could someone overweight NOT want to lose"? Here is the reality. Ask most obese and very overweight people if they want to lose weight and they will quickly answer "yes". Often what they are saying "yes" to is BEING THINNER - the "result" of losing weight. If you take the phrase "losing weight" and expound the process some will begin to have glazed eyes and their attention will wane.

WHY? The why is that they desire the result but don't want to do the "work" required to experience it. Okay let's face facts. There is no secret to weight loss. It requires EFFORT. We all know WHAT is required it's putting it into action in our lives in a consistent manner that will carry us to that destination.

I can't tell you over the decades of being obese how many times I THOUGHT I wanted to lose weight. Oh, I always wanted to be SLIM but to actually do the work? I bought diet books, went to diet doctors, tried various commercial diet programs, drank meal replacements, participated in group weight loss studies, signed up for various online diet programs and even tried the reward system (big tangible rewards). Why didn't they work?

I was not ready to commit to the work needed to achieve the results. I had to let my health become "critical" to roll up my sleeves and just "do it".

My goal in writing this is twofold: First I hope you will examine your own thoughts about this question. Are you committed to do the WORK required to achieve the result? Secondly, I hope someone will be inspired to get busy and not WAIT until their health becomes an issue.

So do you want to lose weight? What steps will you take today toward that goal? NOBODY can do it for you. It has to be a conscious act of will. You CAN do it.

Can is having the ABILITY. You CAN change your nutrition. You CAN change your activity. Even a person in a wheelchair CAN get cardio through upper arm movements done above the level of the heart. You CAN read articles about health, nutrition, fitness. You CAN reach out and ask for help from your doctor, family, friends and people here on this website! There are countless teams here on Sparkpeople with thousands of people willing to give you a hand...

but YOU must make that step. Are you ready?

Meet you at the destination!

Press On!

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    emoticon Great blog! I needed to hear that! emoticon
    1371 days ago
    this is FANTASTIC.
    emoticon for posting.
    1518 days ago
    So true. The head must be in the right place. Wishing and hoping does not cut it. It takes effort. Spark is a great place to get support.
    1633 days ago
    Excellent comments! emoticon I've tried excuses and I've tried personal responsibility and so far, it's PR that works.

    Just want to add... read "The Spark". emoticon Who wouldn't shrink from all pain and pushing and lots of stick, no carrot? "The Spark" was life-changing for me when I realized change is about making SMALL, doable, consistent steps that I could see doing for a lifetime and then building on them. Don't give a baby a Ph.D. oral exam (and some of us are babies when it comes to healthy living.)

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    1685 days ago
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and am hoping this is just what I need to get back on track of losing excess pounds have gained 10 pounds this year and now the time has come to get serious and sensible and make a loss by the end of the year
    One day at a time
    love prayers peace
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    1688 days ago
    This is soooooo true!! emoticon blog.
    1690 days ago
    Thank you so much. You inspired me to join the BLC 23. One step at a time. One decision at a time.

    God bless you.

    1690 days ago
    Beautiful thoughts! Thanks for the inspiration.

    1693 days ago
    Thanks for the pep talk and good luck on your journey. After having major surgery in June I couldn't wait to go back to working out. Well I got a rude awakening, I feel like I'm starting all over but I'm not discouraged. After not being able to workout properly for over a year my muscles are actually responding to the small efforts that I've been making so far.
    1693 days ago
    Thankyou for this beautiful blog post. Why do we wait so long to realize we need to start now. I waited until I didn't feel well either. No motivation. Thanks to my Doctor she directed me to an on line diet and up came SPARKPEOPLE! The best program ever. emoticon
    1693 days ago
    I love your honesty and thank you for the push! emoticon
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    1696 days ago
  • NH_MOM
    I hope you don't mind but I shared this on my facebook page. The most weight I had to lose was 55 lbs, but it was a lot of work and when I finally lost it all, w/the help of SP, people thought I could eat whatever I wanted to(I wish!). I am in maintenance mode but some days it is still a struggle and you still have to want to be healthy. Thanks for posting this! emoticon
    1696 days ago
    Just what I needed when I needed it!!! Thanks for putting into words what I already knew in my heart. I feel like I have all the right reasons to loose weight, but I haven't found that spark that would get me going and keep me on the right path. Simply put maybe I just haven't wanted to badly enough. I know I can and I'm sure I will.
    1698 days ago
    So well said!! People are able, but do they want to do the work... that is the question!

    It doesn't have anything to do with anyone else only if you want to make it happen, then it is up to you to make it happen.

    1698 days ago
    yes it is hard but you have to want it in order to do it

    thank you
    1699 days ago
    Thanks for sharing
    1699 days ago
    You can do it. Thanks for the extra motivation.
    1699 days ago
    Hi Pinkhope! Thanks for the amazing post - hard truths :)
    1700 days ago
    Great post, Pink. Congrats!! I need an examination of conscience!!!
    1700 days ago
  • ROCKMAN6797
    Thanks for being so honest, what you say is true, you have to do the work in order to achieve the goal. There are no magical solutions, it involves working daily to achieve it. Great post!

    1700 days ago
  • HEN3RY
    This posting helped me to take an honest look at my past attempts to lose weight and whether I want to continue yo-yo dieting until I have a serious health issue.
    1700 days ago
    Thank you for kicking my hiney while I'm stuck in a rut of laziness!
    Please repeat again tomorrow...! :-)
    1701 days ago
  • 223DAISY
    You are so right! You must be ready and willing to do what it takes to lose the weight. I am finally ready... emoticon emoticon
    1701 days ago

    Thank You for hitting the nail on the head! You are just
    describing me as I have been focusing on the end result
    but losing sight of the journey.
    1701 days ago
  • JERICHO1991
    I will press on.
    1701 days ago
  • JOHNH677
    I really needed the reminder that what I want to have as a goal will not "just happen".
    1701 days ago
    Very good post. Everyone needs a motivation, in my opinion, to dedicate themselves to becoming healthy. This is mine. I watched my mom suffer through 10 years of being sick. Strokes. High Blood Pressure. High cholesterol. Knee replacement. Heart attack. Several bouts of pneumonia, and several respiratory arrests (which is what finally took her life). She was 60 years old when she passed away. I was her caretaker for several of those years. Because of my mom, I decided I didn't want to put my family through that and decided it was time to get healthy. My starting weight was 175 and I'm now down to 138. It did take me quiet a few years to loose all of it. I hovered at 155 for several years. Then down to 145. Bounced between the 155 and 145 for another few years. Getting this job I currently have is what pushed me to the 139 level. Great job. emoticon
    1702 days ago


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    1702 days ago
    I too am down 100 pounds and took having type 2 diabetes to get me to do it, still need to lose about 50 pounds
    1702 days ago
    I agree with you. I know what to do, I have to decide to commit to the process. I have to ask myself do I want it enough to do the work required to get the results I want. The answer is YES!!!
    1702 days ago
  • -LINDA_S
    Thanks for the great insight!
    1702 days ago
    Thanks for being so honest. I just had to share this with my hubby, it rings so true!
    1703 days ago
    Thanks. I hurt my back a few days ago and have been backsliding ever since. It is time I get back to doing what I can.
    1703 days ago
    My sentiments exactly... thanks for putting my thoughts into words.
    1703 days ago
    Thanks for sharing.
    1703 days ago
    Thanks for sharing! All this time that I was saying I wanted to loose weight, I didn't really! I wasn't giving my all. Now I WANT TO LOOSE WEIGHT! I KNOW I CAN DO IT! emoticon
    1703 days ago
    Thank you for sharing this! I have always wanted to loose weight but I wanted the quick fixes and not the work! Now I know that you have to work for what you want. The weight didn't come on in 1 day and it won't go away in 1. emoticon
    1703 days ago
  • FARIS71
    Wow, this one stopped me in my tracks. That's a profound statement. I want to be fit. But I'm not crazy about the work. Or am I? Must ponder. Thank you!!
    1703 days ago
    Yes, I'm definitely ready to do the work! Thank you for your blog!
    1703 days ago
    Thanks for sharing and it's so true. To complete your weight loss goal you have to be willing to work towards that goal. Which can be easy sometimes and down right hard other times. Good Luck Everyone.
    1703 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/23/2013 2:09:04 PM
    Knowing that we should lose weight and / or develop a healthier lifestyle and reaching the point of actually being able to do so are two different things.

    The push to move into action varies for each one of us. For me, it was finding SparkPeople when doing a key work search.

    Very well written, well stated blog. Thanks for sharing it!
    1703 days ago
    I think more than anything we have to remember this is a marathon and a process. Many times I've had that AHA! moment, only to lose 40lbs and gain it back a year or two later. The most important thing is that we take this one day at a time. Each day, we reinforce what it means to us and why we ever started on this journey in the first place.
    1703 days ago
    Very thought provoking. Thank you
    1703 days ago
  • CANDIK48
    Great blog!
    1703 days ago
    well just so emoticon

    this was one fantastic read and motivating story!

    thanks !!
    1703 days ago
  • -MOMLY-
    Thank you, this describes me totally. I have been fighting my own battle with not wanting to do the work for a long time. You put what I have been feeling into words that helped me label the problem. Now I just need to find the answer to solving the problem.

    1703 days ago
    This blog is the first one that has ever inspired me to comment. It totally relates to me. I want to lose the weight but after 6 months with the nutritionist I'm not and its not because she isn't good, it's because I wont make the commitment to stick to my plans and I dont want to do the work. I want fast results and that isnt realistic thinking. I dont want to exercise but want toned legs and a flat stomach. I have no self motivation to do anything. My favourite word "CANT". I'm always saying I cant. Thank you for this blog. I have to get serious and get it in my brain that everything takes time and effort. Today, I CAN!!!
    1703 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/23/2013 10:50:35 AM
    Wow! This really hit home with me. I never thought of it like this. But there is truth in it. I don't think that I ever wanted to really do the work. I think that this blog has opened my eyes. Thank you again for sharing this!
    1703 days ago
  • BUSMOM27
    True, I would like to be thinner. True, I don't want to do the work. Thanks for spelling it out. I need to start making steps toward a healthier me.
    1703 days ago
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