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Been too long between blogs.

Monday, July 15, 2013

Wow, so it has been awhile since I put out a blog. Started a couple times last week and work got in the way. I hate when that happens! They really need to not do that too me. I had someone on vacation so trying to do 2 jobs doesn’t usually leave too much time to blog. Ah well, it keeps the day moving at least.

So, I have been holding steady now for about a week and a half. I sort of went nuts last night. I put in 100 min of cardio yesterday and then helped a friend move. Then me and another friend and my daughter went to Golden Corral. Not a good idea, I gorged on the buffet. It could not have been a pretty sight. I hadn’t been anywhere that allows all you can eat for about 5 months. Any shrinking my stomach may have done was undone last night. The “good news” is that my body is revolting. Lol. My stomach is not happy with me today and is showing it displeasure. Lol

It was a wild weekend for sure. I have come to the realization there are many people out there who need serious medication and are not taking it! I actually got called fat over the weekend and was berated for being a good dad. I met someone online and when I wouldn’t drop plans with my daughter and go out with her, I was told I am wasting my life and I need to be more like her. My kids are evidently spoiled brats since I take them on vacations and even pay for my oldest’s cruise. She is 20, she should be supporting herself. Not be a spoiled little brat. And I had better start bringing my kids up better. Never mind almost everyone my kids meet tell me how good they are. How polite and well mannered. How they are all willing to help and not afraid to do anything needed at work or camping. I finally ended the conversation by saying this is stupid and she was showing her ignorance and to have fun judging everyone in her life. She evidently deserves to be spoiled since she earned it. But I should ignore my kids. No thanks. After I told her she was showing her ignorance I got told I was fat and she was way out of my league. Not sure what game was being played there, I was dumbfounded. This was all done via text and at first I started to get upset, and feel bad. Till I realized she really is a nut job and I should enjoy my Saturday movie date who is 10 and well behaved and if she is spoiled, she doesn’t act like it.

Ah well, glad to find out before I got emotionally involved. Sad thing is I am not mean enough to say what I wanted to say. But some good came of it. I realized a few things.
1) My kids aren’t spoiled.
2) I may still be in the obese range, but the insult didn’t hurt because I know I am doing what I need to do and am healthy and happy with my life
3) Movie dates with your daughter are fun and a nice way to spend a Saturday evening!

Ah well, back to work today. Will be able to post more tomorrow. My other person is back
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    It started to get wrapped up in it. But then it sort of got to the point where it was just sooo outrageous and wouldn't stop that it became easier to let it go. Bottom line is, I know I am a good dad. I am not perfect, but ditching the kids to date someone just doesn't sit well with me. I mean, once the kids get to meet someone or something then they understand better and stuff, and honestly my older ones are usually out anyway. But my 10 year old likes the time we get to spend together and so do I. It has to be pretty special to get me to give that up. But there are a lot of areas you can criticize me, but to start saying I am being a bad dad is not the place to start and make a good impression. From there on, I hardly listen.
    1739 days ago
    The word NEXT comes to mind! You are worth so much more than that and so are your kids. I'm so glad you didn't take it personally and put it all back on her!!! And way to not waste your energy....she definitely isn't worth! High Five, Bro!!!
    1739 days ago
    Whoa-- what a week you had. I spend a lot of time online in social media in connection with what I do for a living. It's sooo easy to let the opinions and thoughts of others penetrate to our hearts, even as our minds tell us that what they are saying is invalid. Sometimes their arrows still manage to nick at our insecurities. At least they do me.

    When I get caught in that place, I have to turn off the internet, disconnect socially in person too for a bit and find my inner peace-- a walk outside, writing in my journal, reminding me who I am and centering on the choices I need to make for me and my family

    Most people are doing the best they can with their journey in life, and in their own insecurity and neediness, they thoughtlessly sling words and accusations at others. It's almost inevitable. I'm sorry you were the victim of this.

    Here's to Monday and a great week ahead. I'll take a deep breath with you, refocus and keep my head in the walk ahead.
    1739 days ago
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